How I'm leaving a positive influence on the younger generation.

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    May 07, 2013 3:30 PM GMT
    Thought I'd share a little bit of positivity that has come across my life lately with you guys. Please read my first post from months ago if you haven't yet (http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2689649)

    So my older brother is 15. He plays football, is taller than me, and is built like a train so is often mistaken for my older brother when he comes into work (I never asked to look like I was 14 years old icon_confused.gif ). In the past, the word "fag" and "gay" used to be part of his every day vocabulary. In fact, I would say most younger guys in High School use these words to describe what they mean as something stupid or weird.

    To make a long story short, my younger brother was the first one who found out I was gay. He was actually in shock when I told him I wasn't attracted to girls, but quickly came around after a couple of days and said he loved me and accepted me for who I am. Me being gay was never mentioned for a while, but then he cracked a joke at Thanksgiving when I was eating baby dill pickles. "You like sucking on those pickles, dontcha Josh?" I replied "Hell yeah I do!" icon_lol.gif
    Making little jokes like that make things... normal.

    Over the past year (since I've come out) my brother has become much more educated on life, politics, and things in general. He brought a couple of his football buddies over a couple of months ago, and we all sat around and played video games. Sometimes one of them would say "that's so fucking gay" or something along those lines. My brother would be the first to shut them up and explain that I was gay and "we don't use words like that in this house". After that I was barraged with countless questions asking if I really liked dudes. In the end - his friends thought it was actually kinda cool, and they thought gay people were only one way (you know, the stereotypical gay). Then they asked me to pick up hot chicks for them.

    I have a friend named Josh, who is gay too. Josh is the polar opposite gay. I'm just a normal dude living a normal life, but Josh is very flamboyant, but has become one of my best friends. In fact, my mom absolutely loves him, and my little brother thinks he's great! It's awesome because my mom, brother, and friends have been able to see that people (even gay people) are all different. It's really opened their eyes and hearts to this. I've explained countless times that some people do live true to the gay stereotype, but they are some of the nicest and most genuine people I've met.

    Yesterday, my younger brother started dropping some serious facts on me about gay marriage that made me realize he had been researching it a lot. He tried to explain that two guys have it easier in a relationship because they can relate, and that he thinks all girls are absolutely nuts so I dodged a bullet. I think I tend to agree on that one. When I'm on the phone with my boyfriend he always says "Tell him I said hey!"

    Anyway, I'm just so pumped about it. My younger brother is becoming a lot more responsible, and a lot more open minded. His buddies come over all the time and think nothing about me being gay. They see me as a person and not a label. I've done exactly what I wanted to: bring gay people into a positive light just being myself.

    So there you have it: if you don't think one person can change the mind of many, then you're wrong. It's as simple as being yourself.

    Take care,

    Josh
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    May 07, 2013 4:32 PM GMT
    That's actually good to hear Josh. My brother reacted similarly to me coming out. He was one of those people who didn't really care what we did but still felt gays getting married was werid and said he'd never vote for it but it against it. It took him a while but now he's one of those people who support us and our rights fully. If more of us realized that often times we are the only rainbow book someone may read for a while we'd carry ourselves differently.
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    May 07, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    had a similar reaction with my older brother, thought dude was going to shit on me when i came out to him and he took it really well. *dead* dude was really cool about it.

    in a sense, mister cee getting busted with a male prostitute actually could help me come out to my homeboy since he said that he didn't care about the gay nba basketball player and mister cee being gay. maybe next week, i tell. trying to go to the gay pride parade in nyc this year.
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    May 08, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    It is indeed nice to have the support and understanding of your family and friends . You have people that have a broader sense of acceptance , and you also have galahs who have been brainwashed and cannot see further away than the tip of their nose , those should all move to the woop-woop , and let us live our life ...
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    May 08, 2013 4:17 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidJosh, I've been saying this ever since you joined RJ: You are the coolest.


    I'm alright I guess icon_razz.gif! It's just nice to look at something nice that is happening in spite of all this bad stuff that's been going on lately.
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    May 08, 2013 7:43 PM GMT
    In many ways, times are changing for the better!
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    May 08, 2013 7:45 PM GMT
    Blakes7 saidIn many ways, times are changing for the better!


    Exactly! Some things will never change, but the facts are that things are getting a lot better, and they will continue to do so!
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    May 08, 2013 9:41 PM GMT
    You are an inspiration. It makes me want to come out of the closet. I hope I can chage my families mind and do some god like you.
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    May 08, 2013 10:10 PM GMT
    Great situation Josh! On a somewhat similar note, I have decided to volunteer for a local LGBT youth group. I visited them 2 months ago for a education class project and I noticed that our younger generation is such a dynamic crowd. I'm hoping, with my healthcare experience, that I can help influence their lives to a healthy one. There are many health topics important to young people (STD transmission, smoking, etc) and I want to arm them with the proper knowledge.
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    May 08, 2013 10:22 PM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidYou are an inspiration. It makes me want to come out of the closet. I hope I can chage my families mind and do some god like you.


    You can, but you won't be doing good in the closet, broseph! Break out when you're ready - just don't let it be too late.

    Erik101 saidGreat situation Josh! On a somewhat similar note, I have decided to volunteer for a local LGBT youth group. I visited them 2 months ago for a education class project and I noticed that our younger generation is such a dynamic crowd. I'm hoping, with my healthcare experience, that I can help influence their lives to a healthy one. There are many health topics important to young people (STD transmission, smoking, etc) and I want to arm them with the proper knowledge.


    Erik that is freagin' awesome! Good for you, man. Educate those youngins'!

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    Aristoshark saidJosh, I've been saying this ever since you joined RJ: You are the coolest.


    I'm alright I guess icon_razz.gif! It's just nice to look at something nice that is happening in spite of all this bad stuff that's been going on lately.

    No false modesty please. You are an amazing young man and I am happy to be your friend.


    The pleasure is mine!
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    May 08, 2013 10:32 PM GMT
    The best way to change the world is to change yourself(be yourself).

    That change spreads to your family, from your family to the community, from the community to the city, to the state, country, and eventually the world. But it all starts with us as individuals.