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  • Joeyphx444

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    May 08, 2013 9:21 PM GMT
    So I have met guys in the past and recently with whom were actually good guys. They were around my age or a little older, not real muscular but good shape and pretty cute. I obviously saw them in pics and stuff before we met so I decided to meet them. After a date or maybe 2, I found myself wondering and second guessing myself. They are cool, nice guys BUT this and that, etc. Are they REALLY my type? Sometimes when I am with a guy on a date or second date, I end up thinking of other guys for some reason (nothing sexual) icon_sad.gif Is it time to settle and see where it goes or should I keep finding someone to whom I feel closer to in EVERY way?
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    May 08, 2013 9:33 PM GMT
    No reason you can't be friends. Go with the flow and see what happens.
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    May 08, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
    da faq?. . .

    So, is there even a question that needs to be answered to this?

    you sound like a wanna be farm boy that wants to find love, but yet you sound so fake.

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    May 08, 2013 10:30 PM GMT
    With expectations, love can't be found.
  • Joeyphx444

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    May 09, 2013 1:01 AM GMT
    deltalimen saidWith expectations, love can't be found.


    Then explain the alternative? Everyone says, "have no expectations" like it's so easy
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    May 09, 2013 1:08 AM GMT
    You're young go with your hearts desire. No need to get into something you're not feeling good about. If you stay and you're not happy you'll develop feelings of remorse, possibly. Then later you'll regret having stay.. live life and be happy icon_smile.gif
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    May 09, 2013 1:13 AM GMT
    u r no where near ready to 'settle'
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    May 09, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
    Joeyphx444 said
    Then explain the alternative? Everyone says, "have no expectations" like it's so easy


    That's not easy work, but it is a solution. Expectations lead to attachments which lead to pain and disappointment. For me, I started saying 'Thank you' regardless of the outcome and kept saying it until I became grateful for the love that already existed. Meeting new people was nice, but I started to see, not uniqueness, but the same personality over and over, including mine. Then I started to see that my yearning for a companion outside of what I had was just another perversion related to my sense of entitlement-- like I deserved a relationship or that I had so much to offer.

    That perversion needed to go. Whatever it was that I was searching for in another personality was probably something that I needed to find in myself first. I'm still searching, but I'm closer than I was.