ever run into someone who just knew you were gay before you even chose to acknowledge it or realized it yourself?

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    May 08, 2013 11:03 PM GMT
    icon_sad.gif tell your stories.

    i have many stories that have happened to me over the years. here's some that i never forgot though.

    -there was a guy that i befriended in the 10th grade. he came in from another high school from another area. i thought he was cool but then it turned out he was a major dickhead. one thing i remember about him was his breath smelled like total shit because of the weed he smoked or whatever. dude tried to bully me on some bullshit then smile in my face talking about "we're cool" the next minute.

    sometime alter, dude starts hitting on me. he starts saying he wants me to stick it up his ass and etc. basically sexually harassing me on the low. i was like "why the fuck is this dude hitting on me for? i'm not gay" even though at the time i was in deep denial and in an internal conflict with my sexuality. one time in gym class which was volleyball, him and me were on the same team. i was standing in the back of the play area away from the net since i wasn't interested in playing. this dude is at the front of the net all playing or whatever. tell me why this dude backs up into me, like he pushes his ass up onto my crotch area and basically is trying to push me against the wall with his ass in front of everybody. icon_eek.gif after i shoved him off of me, he smiles @ me like icon_biggrin.gif and winks at me. i was PISSED. what's worse off is that all the girls liked him and he had one chick as his girlfriend. icon_neutral.gif

    -was walking home from college one day, this was about 4 years ago, and this other guy was driving the opposite way that i was walking. i see this dude and i thought i saw my former coworker at my last job even though i really couldn't tell him it was him. didn't get a good enough look at him. him and me looked at each other in passing and he kept driving while i kept walking.

    about 10 minutes later, the same car pulls up across the street from me going the same way that i'm going and dude rolls down his window. dude says "aiyo" to me. i thought it was my coworker because it looked just like him. upon walking across the street and getting closer to his car, my nerves got shot when i realized that it wasn't my coworker but some dude i never seen before in my life. i felt like the pit of my stomach turn because i didn't know what this dude was about to do.

    it went from weird to weirder in about a second because the next thing dude says to me is that "i saw you walking down the street. i think you're sexy and i want to sleep with you." i was like icon_eek.gif. WHAT THE FUCK? this dude straight up said that shit with no shame or fear. i could have been a fucking homophobe and here this dude is fucking soliciting me for sex like i was a ho or something. i was wondering "how this dude even know that i had issues with my sexuality to even inquire that i would even want that from him?" scared as fuck and in total disbelief, i turned it down by saying to him that i wasn't gay. he was like "okay, man. cool."

    out of all those incidents, i was NOT out the closet at the time to anybody let alone myself nor was i trying to acknowledge that i was gay. it was like "how did these dudes know that i was gay?" i don't sound or act a certain way but yet these dudes are approaching me on that shit. i know that i'm not some attractive guy that could do modeling or whatever. all those instances were just dudes that were looking for another guy who they thought was gay like they were to approach to be an easy hookup or lay. i just think that it's creepy that how some gay guys are predatory like that where if they even catch a whiff that someone that some guy is gay, they just suddenly go into shark mode. it's just like how some gay guys just suddenly go like "chace crawford is gay" without any form of evidence. with that said, that's one of the reasons why i chose to acknowledge that i was gay because i wasn't appreciating some dudes trying to bring that shit to my attention.
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    May 09, 2013 1:08 AM GMT
    Luckily, I've never been outed as gay by anyone. I guess that makes me undesirable. Hollow victory I guess. icon_neutral.gif
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    May 09, 2013 1:29 AM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidLuckily, I've never been outed as gay by anyone. I guess that makes me undesirable. Hollow victory I guess. icon_neutral.gif


    be happy, dude. it's NOT a good feeling when someone is holding a mirror to your face telling you to look @ it when you're not ready to.
  • growingUp

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    May 09, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    my own mother knew... and my close friend ginny and my ex gf katie who went out with my and my freind ginny's now X B/F

    ahhh highschool... ain't it a hoot
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    May 09, 2013 1:36 AM GMT
    growingUp saidmy own mother knew... and my close friend ginny and my ex gf katie who went out with my and my freind ginny's now X B/F

    ahhh highschool... ain't it a hoot


    how was high school for you? did your classmates know or made rumors about you being gay?
  • Nhlakz

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    May 09, 2013 11:20 AM GMT
    Pazzy maybe u getting these attention because of the way u look...well built,lil bit of a nerd thing going on.some ppl hv the believe that "one should go after what they desire".
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    May 09, 2013 5:14 PM GMT
    Nhlakz saidPazzy maybe u getting these attention because of the way u look...well built,lil bit of a nerd thing going on.some ppl hv the believe that "one should go after what they desire".


    naw, this happened when i was just skin and bones and wasn't even going to the gym.
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    May 09, 2013 5:22 PM GMT
    My best friend has known I was gay for years, even though I realized it myself few months ago only. But she knows me very well hehe apparently better than I knew myself!icon_smile.gif
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    May 09, 2013 5:45 PM GMT
    boytoone saidMy best friend has known I was gay for years, even though I realized it myself few months ago only. But she knows me very well hehe apparently better than I knew myself!icon_smile.gif


    sounds like this right here. icon_lol.gif

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    May 09, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    boytoone saidMy best friend has known I was gay for years, even though I realized it myself few months ago only. But she knows me very well hehe apparently better than I knew myself!icon_smile.gif


    sounds like this right here. icon_lol.gif



    It was exactly like this! icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 09, 2013 5:51 PM GMT
    boytoone said
    pazzy said
    boytoone saidMy best friend has known I was gay for years, even though I realized it myself few months ago only. But she knows me very well hehe apparently better than I knew myself!icon_smile.gif


    sounds like this right here. icon_lol.gif



    It was exactly like this! icon_biggrin.gif


    lol. that's cool as hell though where you don't even have to say it but yet you want to. if only this was the norm... icon_sad.gif actually am right at that situation right now where i want to tell my friends but then i'm scared of them disowning me because of it.
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    May 09, 2013 6:07 PM GMT
    I don't get guys who never realized they were gay until later in life.

    Yes, there was a time when I didn't have a name for it, but I knew I was different because my guy friends were crushing on girls and I was more attracted to men. When I learned what gay was and saw how villified gay people were I sure didn't want to acknowledge it publically and even went so far as to try and fit in the hetero world, which was a disaster. However, I was just masculine enough to "pass" or put doubt in people's minds, although, people did have their suspicions and talked.

    Secrets are hard to keep and are eventually revealed.
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    May 09, 2013 6:20 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidI don't get guys who never realized they were gay until later in life.

    Yes, there was a time when I didn't have a name for it, but I knew I was different because my guy friends were crushing on girls and I was more attracted to men. When I learned what gay was and saw how villified gay people were I sure didn't want to acknowledge it publically and even went so far as to try and fit in the hetero world, which was a disaster. However, I was just masculine enough to "pass" or put doubt in people's minds, although, people did have their suspicions and talked.

    Secrets are hard to keep and are eventually revealed.


    it happens. sometimes they know but don't want to believe it. it's easier to live a lie than it is to live out the truth.

    i knew that i might have been gay when i was 12 when it just hit me while i was doing a routine masturbation sesssion humping the bed to a bunch of dudes in a magazine. like you, i was in full blown denial and tried to make myself stright when i saw how the world around me treated gay people or people that they thought were gay. believe it or not, i was able to convince myself that i was heterosexual even though it was in itself a fight to fend off those urges. icon_surprised.gif the urges would come and go. just when i thought i made myself straight, i would have something that would remind me that i was really gay such as dreams of guys fucking and getting naked. used to wake up depressed. icon_sad.gif it used to get me very depressed. after awhile, i realized that i couldn't do the act anymore. smoked weed sometime about 2 years ago over the summer and those feelings that i was trying to keep under control came out where i was saying so and so's name and how i wanted them to fuck me in the ass.

    after that whole ordeal, it left me feeling guilty and very troubled where i decided to talk to someone about it online. got referred to by someone else and before i know it....
  • 24hourguy

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    May 09, 2013 6:40 PM GMT
    my mom
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    May 09, 2013 6:54 PM GMT
    pazzy said
    UndercoverMan saidI don't get guys who never realized they were gay until later in life.


    it happens. sometimes they know but don't want to believe it. it's easier to live a lie than it is to live out the truth.


    That's exactly my point. They KNOW. But I've read some guys post here on this site who say they came to the realization they were gay when in the thirty or forties. I have to call BS. You may have not wanted to believe it and sublimated your attraction to males and even married a female. Trust me I did it, but I KNEW I was gay from a very early age. They may have come to ACCEPT it in their 30s and 40s, but I maintain they KNEW long before then.
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    May 09, 2013 7:21 PM GMT
    your mom usually knows waaaaayy before you
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    May 09, 2013 7:51 PM GMT
    chryan1989 saidyour mom usually knows waaaaayy before you


    So true. So why all the hysterics on the part of some parents when a child comes out? They've been knowing. It's really not much of a surprise.
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    May 09, 2013 8:08 PM GMT
    boytoone said
    pazzy said
    boytoone saidMy best friend has known I was gay for years, even though I realized it myself few months ago only. But she knows me very well hehe apparently better than I knew myself!icon_smile.gif


    sounds like this right here. icon_lol.gif



    It was exactly like this! icon_biggrin.gif



    Hahaha! I loved this! icon_biggrin.gif I would have died laughing if he yelled out "I'm gay" just as the rollarcoaster took off.
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    May 09, 2013 8:12 PM GMT
    Writer22 said
    boytoone said
    pazzy said
    boytoone saidMy best friend has known I was gay for years, even though I realized it myself few months ago only. But she knows me very well hehe apparently better than I knew myself!icon_smile.gif


    sounds like this right here. icon_lol.gif



    It was exactly like this! icon_biggrin.gif



    Hahaha! I loved this! icon_biggrin.gif I would have died laughing if he yelled out "I'm gay" just as the rollarcoaster took off.


    that would take away the anxiety and fear during the drop.
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    May 09, 2013 8:27 PM GMT
    This is very typical.

    Many gay guys, especially those conflicted by false belief systems (religion, cults, brainwashing, culture, etc) seem to be the most effected.

    "Nobody knows I'm gay" is their typical delusion.

    Nope, Juan, Hank, or whoever, you are...everyone knows you're gay, except you.

    You don't have to have doctorate to be able to observe human behavior. DOH.
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    May 09, 2013 8:44 PM GMT
    chryan1989 saidyour mom usually knows waaaaayy before you


    My mom still doesn't believe I'm gay.
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    May 09, 2013 8:54 PM GMT
    SkittleGangsta said
    chryan1989 saidyour mom usually knows waaaaayy before you


    My mom still doesn't believe I'm gay.


    Denial and not knowing are two different things
  • jeepguySD

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    May 09, 2013 8:59 PM GMT
    No, that has never happened to me. Especially not by the 4 women who wanted to marry me, and the one who wanted me to father her child...I'm not exaggerating. Women still hit on me, and yet gay guys pretty much ignore me.
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    May 09, 2013 9:08 PM GMT
    When I was 20, a girl at work just walked up to me and said, "Are you gay?". She was a notorious button-pusher, but I was still totally shocked. Also, even though in the deepest pit of my gay heart I knew I was gay, I was living in denial at that stage of my life, and answered "No."
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    May 09, 2013 9:17 PM GMT
    livelifenow saidWhen I was 20, a girl at work just walked up to me and said, "Are you gay?". She was a notorious button-pusher, but I was still totally shocked. Also, even though in the deepest pit of my gay heart I knew I was gay, I was living in denial at that stage of my life, and answered "No."


    I had something similar happen to me and this is what I said: I wouldn't fuck you if you and I were the only two warm bodies left on earth so it really isn't a concern of yours. Now is it?