Translation please? Does this mean he wants FWB?

  • linvect96

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    May 09, 2013 8:56 PM GMT
    I met someone a few weeks ago, got their number, which I usually don't do, and we set up a date. It went really well, lots of conversation, and he said he wanted to hang out again and we kissed goodnight. I told him I would be out of town for a week (true) and he said we should do something when I get back.

    I texted him today saying I had a great time etc. He responded by saying he likes me, but he wants to be upfront and let me know that he isn't looking to date anyone seriously.

    I came back asking if that means he doesn't want to hang out with me at all, because dating seriously is kind of a big jump from being on a first date...and he said no, he does want to hang out, but wanted to be upfront. I assured him I wasn't looking to put a ring on his finger and that we should hang out, which he says he's fine with.

    I would love to hang out with him and have some fun and see where it goes...but do people really feel the need to blurt out things like that? It just seemed to me like he was trying to kindly get rid of me, which is ok, but then again he seems like he wants to hang out...
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    May 09, 2013 10:33 PM GMT
    Yes, obviously.
  • jackooh

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    May 10, 2013 12:16 AM GMT
    just because he isnt looking to date anyone seriously doesnt mean he wouldnt in time, he probably just ment lets take it slow, which people should do anyway!
    when people say "i love you lets move in together" after the first few dates generally it doesnt last n fizzles out

    doesnt sound like hes tryin to get rid of you so dont worry about it
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    May 10, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    Does he want to be a FWB? Probably.

    Sometimes things can begin as FWB, or dating non-seriously, and progress to something more. It can be a good way to try it out before you commit and it takes away the pressure of expectations. My bf and I began this way, with me not wanting to date seriously. At the beginning, I just wanted a FWB. Fast forward 2 years and here we are still together.
  • LUVH2O

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    May 10, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    linvect96 saidI met someone a few weeks ago, got their number, which I usually don't do, and we set up a date. It went really well, lots of conversation, and he said he wanted to hang out again and we kissed goodnight. I told him I would be out of town for a week (true) and he said we should do something when I get back.

    I texted him today saying I had a great time etc. He responded by saying he likes me, but he wants to be upfront and let me know that he isn't looking to date anyone seriously.

    I came back asking if that means he doesn't want to hang out with me at all, because dating seriously is kind of a big jump from being on a first date...and he said no, he does want to hang out, but wanted to be upfront. I assured him I wasn't looking to put a ring on his finger and that we should hang out, which he says he's fine with.

    I would love to hang out with him and have some fun and see where it goes...but do people really feel the need to blurt out things like that? It just seemed to me like he was trying to kindly get rid of me, which is ok, but then again he seems like he wants to hang out...


    It could mean that he wants a FWB relationship... or he just wants to be friends.
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    May 10, 2013 3:57 AM GMT
    linvect96 saidbut do people really feel the need to blurt out things like that?


    Yes! Get used to it!
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    May 10, 2013 4:08 AM GMT
    Sounds to me like he likes you, but may not just love you. Maybe he wants to be friends? Would that be so bad?
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    May 10, 2013 4:19 AM GMT
    Where did you get FWB out of anything he said?!

    He said he didn't want to date anyone seriously. This means he wants the freedom to date others if the opportunity arises.

    He said he'd like to hang out with you. That doesn't necessarily mean he wants you as a fuck buddy.

    He was open and upfront with you. Why don't you be open and upfront with him and ask him if he expects you two to be FWB. If he's open to it and you are open to it then what's the problem? If you aren't open to it and expect something more before becoming sexually intimate with him, them tell him so and go your separate ways.

    It is really that simple.
  • stratavos

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    May 10, 2013 4:50 AM GMT
    I've been hearing this often. I've also heard 'I'm looking for a boyfriend now" about half as often.
  • jayatl56

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    May 11, 2013 9:09 PM GMT
    What is dating? I thought that dating was just going out with someone until it develops into something more serious. Then "dating" ends and just being together begins.

    Someone told me that dating can be wide open too. In other words, you can "date" two or three guys at one time while you figure things out - who you feel best with.

  • WApilot

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    May 13, 2013 6:08 PM GMT
    I say, be happy that he was upfront with you from the start. It can be annoying when two people are in a relationship with each other and they don't talk to each other about how they truly feel.

    I think it was his way of letting you know, if this, whatever's going on between you two, happens to lead somewhere and you start to get feelings for him, don't be surprised if he doesn't reciprocate the same sentiments.

    He probably is looking for a FWB thing, if that's okay with you, then continue, or make it clear to him that you'd like to be friends, but nothing more. If you can deal with a FWB relationship and not be hurt if he happens to hook-up with someone else, then by all means, get yours.

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    May 13, 2013 6:36 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidWhere did you get FWB out of anything he said?!

    He said he didn't want to date anyone seriously. This means he wants the freedom to date others if the opportunity arises.

    He said he'd like to hang out with you. That doesn't necessarily mean he wants you as a fuck buddy.

    He was open and upfront with you. Why don't you be open and upfront with him and ask him if he expects you two to be FWB. If he's open to it and you are open to it then what's the problem? If you aren't open to it and expect something more before becoming sexually intimate with him, them tell him so and go your separate ways.

    It is really that simple.


    I've heard this a lot recently. You aren't the one, so he wants to be "open" to trade up to a better model if it comes along . So I'm guilty of this as well as I have adjusted to being single . I have two fuck buds but am still on the hookups dating sites.