Free -Weight Room Fear

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    May 09, 2013 10:13 PM GMT
    Okay so I have a a fear in a certain way, I try my best to get to the gym every day and have really high expectations in my fitness and athlete fitness as well, I do my cardio and my swim training but, when it comes to the free-weight room I most like go 2 times a week and just don't go anymore, why because i feel intimidated by room full of guys and that are bigger than me. And I feel so insecure. I don't know if it's due to the fact that hang around more with girls than one or two guys ... wait make that one. So I have lil exposure guys so sometime i don't know how to interact with other straight dudes ... Any help on this guys to overcome this and get myself to freewieght room on my training days? ")
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    May 10, 2013 12:44 AM GMT
    You don't have to interact with anyone else at the gym. I rarely do unless it's to ask someone if they're using a weight or bench or something. And yeah, there are LOTS of guys at the gym who lift WAY more weight than I do, but if they're serious about their workout (and one would assume any muscle dude is) then they're not paying attention to how much you lift. Just do what you want. No one's paying attention to you. Oh wait...maybe that's not a good thing icon_wink.gif
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    May 10, 2013 12:46 AM GMT
    This isn't about training. This is about some dude who can't handle being around straight dudes.

    Get over that part and the free-weight thing will be a non-issue.
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    May 10, 2013 12:52 AM GMT
    Were you raised by lesbians?

    Do you think the guy's in the weight room were born with big arms?

    Snag a couple bar bells at Academy and set with your girls till you build some self esteem.
  • MikeW

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    May 10, 2013 4:06 AM GMT
    Talk about gym anxiety... I've never been particularly athletic and I only started working out a little over two years ago at age 63. Worse, *most* of the guys in my gym are college age and *many* of them have been working out since they were teens and *are* very athletic. Worse still, it is a very *busy* gym. Although it is a huge facility, it services something like 3,000 people a day, which means the three weight rooms are always crowded.

    Just saying when I started it was TOTALLY INTIMIDATING on just about every level I could think of. However, I stuck with it and just sort of threw myself into the fray. Now I mostly don't even think about it.

    If I can do it, you can do it.

    Just do it.

  • TheiKevin

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    May 10, 2013 4:36 AM GMT
    We all started somewhere. I'm still no where near the biggest guy at my gym, but I don't get intimidated by them, and I rarely interract with them verbally. I'm at the gym to train, and I get in my zone. I don't care what people are doing or if they're looking at me. It doesn't matter.

    Just go into the weight room, realize that although they are straight and bigger than you, they're still people just like you. What are they going to do? Are they going to attack you? Unlikely. It's a matter comfortability which comes with time.
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    May 10, 2013 6:42 PM GMT
    Well thanks guys, I seems its just about me worried about how other people view me... And no I wasn't raied by laesbians although I wish I had lol
    But thanks ") ill keep posting about how It goes. And thanks Again !
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    May 10, 2013 6:43 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidWere you raised by lesbians?

    Do you think the guy's in the weight room were born with big arms?

    Snag a couple bar bells at Academy and set with your girls till you build some self esteem.

    Thanks I guess you have point there ")
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    May 10, 2013 6:48 PM GMT
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    TheiKevin saidWe all started somewhere. I'm still no where near the biggest guy at my gym, but I don't get intimidated by them, and I rarely interract with them verbally. I'm at the gym to train, and I get in my zone. I don't care what people are doing or if they're looking at me. It doesn't matter.

    Just go into the weight room, realize that although they are straight and bigger than you, they're still people just like you. What are they going to do? Are they going to attack you? Unlikely. It's a matter comfortability which comes with time.

    Well Thanks Kevin I belive it you name, altough what I got from everybody here its just a matter of mind set and just being more confident in the gym icon_wink.gif
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    May 10, 2013 6:55 PM GMT
    TheiKevin saidWe all started somewhere. I'm still no where near the biggest guy at my gym, but I don't get intimidated by them, and I rarely interract with them verbally. I'm at the gym to train, and I get in my zone. I don't care what people are doing or if they're looking at me. It doesn't matter.

    Just go into the weight room, realize that although they are straight and bigger than you, they're still people just like you. What are they going to do? Are they going to attack you? Unlikely. It's a matter comfortability which comes with time.

    He's afraid that he's not good enough to workout at a gym. I think he needs some self-esteem.
  • FRE0

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    May 10, 2013 6:59 PM GMT
    The first time I lifted was when I was 22. I had about zero self-confidence. In high school physical education I got complementary Cs because I had no game skills. When I was younger, my mother told me that I should always wear something more substantial than a T shirt so that people couldn't see how skinny I was.

    Understandably, my first trip to a gym was almost traumatic, but I didn't let that stop me. The trainer set up a program for me which I followed. I quickly got over my gym anxiety when I realized that there were also others starting. In those days, there was more conversation in the gym, but I never felt intimidated; everyone was helpful. Since I was just starting, my gains were very rapid and in less than three months, the change in my physical appearance was unmistakable. At the beach, I sometimes overheard comments about my muscles. Of course that boosted my confidence.

    Fear and anxiety when starting a gym-based exercise program are very common. It is a very temporary problem. If you just ignore your fear, it will quickly go away.
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    May 10, 2013 7:08 PM GMT
    You're an athletic-looking handsome 20-something. Who could ask for more? I promise no-one will stare at you with nasty intent. What lifters like is seeing that someone is disciplined. So show up. Work hard. Focus on the work, not on the scene.
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    May 10, 2013 7:28 PM GMT
    Dude, screw them. I was scared as shit when I started, back when I was 15 and started to train. But.. I realized that mostly nobody gives a crap when you're there. The only people who'll notice you is people who know you. :p

    Really, learn to not give a fuck about what other people ''might'' think of you.
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    May 10, 2013 7:31 PM GMT
    Nobody is looking at or thinking about you.

    Like you, they are too busy thinking about themselves to have the time for it.
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    May 10, 2013 7:37 PM GMT
    I had the same problem when I first started going to the gym, but then I decided to stop being so stupid and just go for it. honestly nobody cares and some of the big big guys have even come over to offer advice and help me get started.


    don't be afraiiiddd icon_twisted.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 10, 2013 8:11 PM GMT
    No worries .. just relax and enjoy

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  • TheiKevin

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    May 10, 2013 10:06 PM GMT
    aidenMaximus said
    TheiKevin saidWe all started somewhere. I'm still no where near the biggest guy at my gym, but I don't get intimidated by them, and I rarely interract with them verbally. I'm at the gym to train, and I get in my zone. I don't care what people are doing or if they're looking at me. It doesn't matter.

    Just go into the weight room, realize that although they are straight and bigger than you, they're still people just like you. What are they going to do? Are they going to attack you? Unlikely. It's a matter comfortability which comes with time.

    He's afraid that he's not good enough to workout at a gym. I think he needs some self-esteem.


    Right, and self-esteem comes from comfortability in one's own skin. He just needs to get in there and get used to the feeling of being around other guys and realize with time that there is no threat and nothing to be self-conscious about. OP The gym is full of guys that are very self-aware; it comes with wanting to improve one's body. They're paying more attention to themselves and how they come off to others at the gym than to the smaller guys who are just starting out.
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    May 10, 2013 10:19 PM GMT
    just keep going. the more you go, the more comfortable you will feel.

    also, despite what you may feel, not everyone is looking at you. icon_eek.gif
  • waccamatt

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    May 10, 2013 10:47 PM GMT
    Straight guys at the gym? icon_eek.gif