You're certainly not alone. Fresno, however, is a pretty small pond as you obviously know so chances are you're going to have to find some other ponds to fish in.
I'd like to make a couple suggestions. First of all, Pacific Center is an LGBT organization in Berkeley that has peer-facilitated meetings on a more or less regular basis. Check out their Events page
, and note the May 16th "8:00 PM - Express 20's Peer Support Group" in the side bar. If you click on that it will reveal info about the group. I understand this is kind of a long drive for you and you might not be able to do it as soon as the 16th. However, if it looks at all interesting, I suggest you contact the facilitator via email and see whether or not it is an on-going, drop in group. If so, you could plan to go sometime just to check it out. A very *LONG* time ago I was a volunteer peer-counselor at PC.
Another organization you might find interesting is The Discovery Community
. This community organizes three-day weekend retreats for gay men. I haven't been to one in a very long time, however, assuming not much has changed, they're generally interesting and fun experiences. The focus is *not* sexual (as, say, some of the Faerie gatherings can tend to be). Rather the focus is on communication skills, community building and meeting and making friends. The costs for the retreats is also fairly reasonable. Historically, Discovery actually grew out of Pacific Center but that's a long story.
Beyond that, my question is what are you looking for in terms of a relationship? I'm not asking you to answer that here, necessarily, but suggesting you really think about it. How will you know when you've met the right man?
Years ago (around 1990) when I was a peer-counselor at PC I led a workshop on finding Mr. Right. Over 30 gay men of various ages (mostly 20s) attended. *All* of them were looking for Mr. Right. Since this was a drop in group and only lasted 90 minutes, I asked that each person take 2 minutes to describe what they were looking for in a man and maybe something about their experience looking for him. That took up the first hour of the meeting. When everyone had put in their time more or less I pointed out how strange it was to me that here were 30 gay guys all in the same room, all looking for relationships, and each finding it next to impossible to find what they were looking for. I let the group discuss why this might be in the remaining time.
I would say what stands out in my mind about that evening is how difficult it is for all of us to let ourselves open up to the real possibility of meeting someone for something more than just sex. We often have a very long list of qualifications for what we *think* we want. And, worse perhaps, all the prospects have their own list! So, dating and figuring out whether or not we match one another's list often takes a lot of time.
This is one of the reasons I like gay social events as a way of meeting men. This is especially true when, say, 30 or more guys get to spend a long weekend together and really get to know one another.
Anyway, as others have said, finding the right guy takes both patience and putting yourself out there. I have no doubt that you not only can but eventually will find someone. THEN you get to discover all the joys and tribulations of relationship!