grndr hook up

  • recalledz

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    May 11, 2013 7:18 AM GMT
    Hi guys!

    So i have been entertaining the idea of having casual random sex for some time . i even got grndr and started chatting with some guys and stuff. The other day this totally hot guy starts chatting me and we change photos then numbers, and now he told me to meet up to have sex. So finally im going on my first hook up but im concerned about what precautions should i take before continuing.

    What questions do you ask?
    how do ik its not a psycho or something?
    what about std's?

    So what precautions do you take before hooking up like this?
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    May 11, 2013 7:34 AM GMT
    Ask him for several different face pics. This lowers the chance of him not being who he says he is AND this allows you to get a more realistic idea of what he looks like.

    Wear a condom (obviously).

    If you're scared of being kidnapped or something, meet in a public place.

    Don't go to a guys house unless you know him first.

    Use your common sense,
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 11, 2013 7:41 AM GMT
    If you start out by having a drink with him somewhere, don't leave your drink unattended with him alone. In case you do turn up missing, leave some clues behind that detectives can discover that points to the last person you hooked up with.
  • recalledz

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    May 11, 2013 7:44 AM GMT
    Slim2010 saidAsk him for several different face pics. This lowers the chance of him not being who he says he is AND this allows you to get a more realistic idea of what he looks like.

    Wear a condom (obviously).

    If you're scared of being kidnapped or something, meet in a public place.

    Don't go to a guys house unless you know him first.

    Use your common sense,


    Thnx. and yes i missed saying that he had some keys to an apartement so wed go there....
  • recalledz

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    May 11, 2013 7:46 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIf you start out by having a drink with him somewhere, don't leave your drink unattended with him alone. In case you do turn up missing, leave some clues behind that detectives can discover that points to the last person you hooked up with.


    no, its all about goiing to his place and fuking. And i have just talk with him very breifly :S im starting to have second thoughts
  • recalledz

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    May 11, 2013 7:50 AM GMT
    I just thought of letting a friend know where i am going and coordinating a call in an hour or so letting him know im alright.
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    May 11, 2013 1:10 PM GMT
    Regarding STDs....you need to keep in mind that wearing a condom definitely decreases your chances of getting the bloodborne diseases such as HIV and hepatitis. But, you need to know that there are STDs that can be spread by skin to skin contact and they don't necessarily have any symptoms. Those diseases are HPV and herpes. For any new hookup you take on, you increase your chances of getting such diseases.
  • recalledz

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    May 11, 2013 4:19 PM GMT
    Addy23 saidIt’s definitely not a good idea to have sex just after few chats over internet. No one is same over media what they actually are. I’d prefer to meet him at a public place first and see how much we are comfortable with each other over face to face conversation. Later I’d definitely shoot questions on safe sex and previous tests if any. If he is a genuine one he should not run from there. If this went well;
    “Yo! Man!! I gotta a handsome date!”
    Precautions:
    - If you are going to his place and you never been that particular route “ASK QUESTIONS”.
    - Carry few condoms just in case.
    - Check for minor details (not like a spy), Casually walk around and see is someone or more people are hiding in there?
    - Choose the place you wana lay down ( roll your eyes for spy cameras)
    - Make sure you are not carrying much cash but enough for your use for the day.
    - And most importantly as you have shared here, make sure you share the same with someone close to you so that they can reach at you in time of need. (it’s a must step in all internet dates)
    Have fun! Good luck!


    Oh well, i decided im gonna stay put and get to know my hook ups better before just jumping into sex, believe its safer and i would get all wories out of my system. I think the hook up was kinda skecthy and wanted everything right away though i just think to myself that thats what having casual sex and hooking up about lol
  • psycsnacha

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    May 11, 2013 8:43 PM GMT
    lol@ this thread.

    Ask for multiple pics ensure there are no surprises in person.
    Don't be awkward in person, just go for it.
    When having fun, subtly inspect down below for red flags
    Always be safe.

    Easy.
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    May 11, 2013 8:50 PM GMT
    Make sure you have had the vaccine for HPV (which a majority of adult men have, and which you can pick up even if they have no outbreak, and despite condoms). You don't want to get venereal warts just for a meaningless roll in the hay.

    Also, get the Hepatitis B vaccine if you haven't had it.