Birthdays are Depressing

  • Tombo

    Posts: 355

    May 11, 2013 1:39 PM GMT
    Every year less and less people come, I barely have any people to invite and the last time I threw a party (non-birthday) NOBODY came so I hardly have high hopes for my 21st

    2 of my best friends have an exam the day after so I have moved the date till then but I've not really invited anyone yet cos I don't think anyone will come again. Another good friend of mine is working and he lives an hour away and he can't get the time off or whatever, I do have one friend that has got me a present and he said he would come. Everyone else is just people in my extended network so they have less chance of coming anyway

    Last year like 4 people went clubbing with me and before that I had a few drinks with my housemates

    Year before around 4/5 people as well

    For my 18th I threw a party and invited like 100 people on facebook and like 57 said they were coming and there was like 30 maybes and then only like 30 people came + family so that was another depressing birthday experience

    When I was 16, I had 3 people come and I practically had to beg to find another person but on the day we just drove to a friend of a friends house and brought them

    Basically I was thinking of going to a bar/restaurant that does loads of cocktails and stuff

    I could just do nothing for my birthday but that would be even more depressing
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 4:41 PM GMT
    A birthday is what you make of it.

    Try making it more about you, and less about them.

    I've spent pretty much all of my birthdays alone. Only once did I have a party and it ended in disaster.

    Use the opportunity to make new friends, or grow closer to the ones you have.
  • HottJoe

    Posts: 21366

    May 11, 2013 6:33 PM GMT
    It gets better.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 7:12 PM GMT
    don't expect other people to celebrate YOUR special moments. if you live that way, then you won't be as disappointed as you are now.

    personally, i don't think i ever had one of those "birthday parties" where there's like 20 people celebrating my birthday with me. it was more of a private matter where my family would just wish me a happy birthday, toss me a card, birthday gifts and maybe a birthday cake then call it a day. when i got older, it became less and less of a big deal. just got the cards and the gifts, then it's just another day. so even though my bday is something exciting to me, it's not something that i wanted other people to celebrate along with me.

    my birthday is one of the days where i'm actually happy and nobody could bring me down or make me feel like shit.

    you should just treat yourself to go to the nearest gay bar and have fun.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 7:26 PM GMT
    Bah, try having your birthday the day before Independence Day, which also happens to be during the week that our city has its big annual music festival. icon_mad.gif

    You adapt, find ways to make it work and be happy with the turnout you get. Even if its just a few of your closest friends, they are still taking the time to celebrate with you, and that shouldn't be discounted. Quality over quantity.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 7:31 PM GMT
    After this past year's B'day, I have decided to give up.... it's just another day.... It's just easier that way.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 7:31 PM GMT
    I used to have massive parties every year for my birthday. This year I've come to realize that I'd rather spend it only with the people that really matters to me. So whether it's 10 or 2 people hanging out with you, you should be happy that you have people who care for you icon_wink.gif.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 7:47 PM GMT
    If you think birthdays are depressing at 21, you'll be a suicide risk at 41.

    Enjoy your youth.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 7:48 PM GMT
    seekonk saidIf you think birthdays are depressing at 21, you'll be a suicide risk at 41.

    Enjoy your youth.
    my sentiments exactly....
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 7:49 PM GMT
    I don't think I have ever spent a birthday with more than 10 people. When I was 17-18 I had a huge party at my house but only hung out with my close close friends. =/

    Tomorrow is my b-day and Im celebrating it tonight, and I only have one person who can go out with me. And I will have one hell of an AWESOME time! icon_biggrin.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 7:56 PM GMT
    Does quantity really matter that much? What about the quality of the people that you invite? That's way more important.

    For my birthdays I always tell my closest friends only about like 10 really really good friends of mine, ahead of time maybe like a month ahead of time so they can get that day off, if they would want to come to my birthday party. Usually all 10 always come, so that's good enough for me.

    Usually what I like to do is do a pot luck, and order some pizza, everyone brings their game consoles, jamming out to some tunes and watching movies. The highlight is when I get a lap dance from everyone in the living room. And sometimes I give them lap dances, haha.

    I personally don't think the number of people you bring in really matter, as long as the people you bring in matter.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 7:56 PM GMT
    30+ people came to your birthday party, and that was a depressing experience? Come on.

    Birthdays were never important in my family. I had two birthday parties growing up. The first one I don't remember because I was too young. The second, only a few guys came, but I barely knew anyone anyway. I never really celebrate my birthday that much. I've never understood what the big deal is.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 7:57 PM GMT
    dc0776 saidBah, try having your birthday the day before Independence Day, which also happens to be during the week that our city has its big annual music festival. icon_mad.gif

    You adapt, find ways to make it work and be happy with the turnout you get. Even if its just a few of your closest friends, they are still taking the time to celebrate with you, and that shouldn't be discounted. Quality over quantity.


    You're birthday is July 3rd?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 7:58 PM GMT
    Watch one of those St. Jude's commercials if you want depressing....icon_cry.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
    Lo5t5oul5 said
    dc0776 saidBah, try having your birthday the day before Independence Day, which also happens to be during the week that our city has its big annual music festival. icon_mad.gif

    You adapt, find ways to make it work and be happy with the turnout you get. Even if its just a few of your closest friends, they are still taking the time to celebrate with you, and that shouldn't be discounted. Quality over quantity.


    You're birthday is July 3rd?


    Yep. Downside - people are often busy that day. Upside - my parties usually end with fireworks. icon_smile.gif

    Which reminds me OP - you could do what I'm doing this year... having a combination birthday with two friends who also have birthdays around the same time. They are both inviting a bunch of their own friends are we're having a big shindig in my backyard. Win-win! icon_biggrin.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 8:04 PM GMT

    Happy Birthday, Tombo! icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 8:31 PM GMT
    I had birthday parties when I younger but that was a LONG time ago. Now I just celebrate my birthday's by myself with my mom and step-dad. And it doesn't bother me that much anymore. I just go up to my room with a slice of cake and watch a movie.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 8:32 PM GMT
    Me and my guy, just the two of us, out for a dinner at my favorite restaurant. That was last night, my birthday, and I loved it. Perfect. I don't need no stinking party.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 8:32 PM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said30+ people came to your birthday party, and that was a depressing experience? Come on.


    Yeah. icon_rolleyes.gif

    I don't think this is about birthdays though. There is something else going on.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 9:01 PM GMT
    - Until 12: had elaborate parties my parents arranged with most of the neighborhood kids.
    - Teen years: nothing except a cake with my parents at home.
    - 21: alone in the Army barracks at Ft. Benning, Georgia. Was unable to phone my parents. I always thought my 21st would be a big deal, when I could first vote (back then), legally an adult, instead a total downer.
    - 20s: nothing at all.
    - 30: staged my own wake in Berlin, Germany, to mark the "death" of my youth. Only invited friends who wouldn't be offended by the macabre theme.
    - 30s: nothing at all.
    - 40: wife did a surprise party in our Army quarters. I almost came downstairs in my boxers when called w/o a clue, decided at the last second to slip on cargo shorts because I saw the front door was open. Underwear would have ruined my career in front of other Colonels & Majors, many female, a good part of the staff of HQ 5th Army, including my boss.
    - 40s: nothing at all.
    - 50: a small surprise party in my university office.
    - 50s: nothing at all, except drinks at a gay club with my late husband.
    - 60: a lovely surprise party by my husband, about 50 of our friends. That's my favorite. icon_biggrin.gif
    - Since then: nothing at all.

    Happy Birthday Tombo & RadTT.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 9:03 PM GMT
    RadRTT saidI don't think I have ever spent a birthday with more than 10 people. When I was 17-18 I had a huge party at my house but only hung out with my close close friends. =/

    Tomorrow is my b-day and Im celebrating it tonight, and I only have one person who can go out with me. And I will have one hell of an AWESOME time! icon_biggrin.gif


    Early happy B-day Rad icon_biggrin.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 9:04 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    - 30: staged my own wake in Berlin, Germany, to mark the "death" of my youth. Only invited friends who wouldn't be offended by the macabre theme.


    confused.gif

    AND THANK YOU ART! icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 9:04 PM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidEarly happy B-day Rad icon_biggrin.gif
    Thanks!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    May 11, 2013 9:06 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said- Until 12: had elaborate parties my parents arranged with most of the neighborhood kids.
    - Teen years: nothing except a cake with my parents at home.
    - 21: alone in the Army barracks at Ft. Benning, Georgia. Was unable to phone my parents. I always thought my 21st would be a big deal, when I could first vote (back then), legally an adult, instead a total downer.
    - 20s: nothing at all.
    - 30: staged my own wake in Berlin, Germany, to mark the "death" of my youth. Only invited friends who wouldn't be offended by the macabre theme.
    - 30s: nothing at all.
    - 40: wife did a surprise party in our Army quarters. I almost came downstairs in my boxers when called w/o a clue, decided at the last second to slip on cargo shorts because I saw the front door was open. Underwear would have ruined my career in front of other Colonels & Majors, many female, a good part of the staff of HQ 5th Army, including my boss.
    - 40s: nothing at all.
    - 50: a small surprise party in my university office.
    - 50s: nothing at all.
    - 60: a lovely surprise party by my husband, about 50 of our friends.
    - Since then: nothing at all.


    so now that you are in your late 100's do you regret ruining that woman's life with your fakery and deceit?

    Just curious.

    icon_confused.gif
  • Asmodeus

    Posts: 178

    May 11, 2013 9:09 PM GMT
    spent mine away from home, that wasn't so bad.