How is the Character and Soul Inside

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    May 11, 2013 2:35 PM GMT
    No one wants to talk to me or answer me back for some reason. Am I not physically attractive? too skinny? too hairy? my facial features aren't ideal? Am I too weird? too young? just turned 18 May 9 and gave myself the birthday present of joining this website. Is there a certain way I have to socialize or act? I'm not trying to use anybody for sex, or get a hook-up I am too scared of STD's. But friends, training partners (which I desperately need because I have trouble squeezing my deodorant ) or maybe even a relationship If I can have you close to me or appear before me physically. I may seem desperate or whiny but I am a strong, independent, grown a$$ black man, and I have a very good personality, I can defend, stick-up for, and love myself, and I know who I am. No Matter what they take from me they can't take away my dignity! Anyway if you'd put in the effort to get to know me you'd know that I am a good person and I bet that u r 2. Each 1 of us are special inside and I know it and I know that I have so much to offer. And if any other cookies (My invented slang for beautiful homosexual men) in the house feel the same way then holla up in this forum. I need o give you all some more of my speeches, poems, and other doozy's I've got I see it very clearly it's need so be ready.
  • MikeW

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    May 11, 2013 2:44 PM GMT
    Well, 1) Happy belated Birthday and 2) Welcome to RJ -- May you find the friends you're hoping for. So far as I can tell you're attractive and you seem like a nice guy so it is bound to happen, here, there and everywhere. It just takes some time, testing the waters, putting yourself out there, getting shot down, getting back up, massive fails and ultimate successes. Get to know some of the guys here who participate in the forums. Maybe just 'observe' and see who says what and how you feel about that. Maybe some of them express interests or something you share. Anyway, RJ is what one makes of it mostly and a lot of those who have been here for years are 'shy' of people who just joined. For one thing, they don't always stay. Wish you the best tho!
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    May 11, 2013 4:29 PM GMT
    H*A*P*P*Y B*I*RT*H*D*A*Y
    I haven't figured out how this site works yet either and I'd really like to meet someone.
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    May 11, 2013 4:36 PM GMT
    First late Happy B-day. Second, people on RJ are all looking for different things. Don't be discouraged just because a few turned you down. (Trust me, I know) And for the record, your looks have nothing to do with it. There are very few people here who would find you unattractive.

    Try being more active in the forums. Once people get to know you, they'll gravitate towards you on their own.

    Feel free to hit me up to IM or message if you want. I'm always looking for people to talk to.
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    May 11, 2013 6:26 PM GMT
    Thnk u everybody for your help I really needed it, now Imma b patient and wait with all my love and when the time comes imam flush'em out with my words of wild funkylicious funkafication! my inventive lanjuageicon_biggrin.gif
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    May 11, 2013 6:53 PM GMT
    o and thnx 4 da happy belated birthdayers
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    May 11, 2013 7:14 PM GMT
    ArdatYaksha said...when the time comes imam flush'em out with my words of wild funkylicious funkafication! my inventive lanjuageicon_biggrin.gif


    You should write children's books . You'd be the new Dr. Seuss.

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  • psycsnacha

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    May 11, 2013 8:51 PM GMT
    Happy B day.

    Regarding how to proceed; always proceed without holding too strongly to expectations. Embrace randomness and things will fall into place in accordance with who you are. Both quality connections with great dudes and illogical rejections with a** holes will come at random. I'd say to find your passion in life (hobby, profession, etc.) and put all of your efforts towards obtaining it. Play the dating game casually. That means, use the sites/apps, pay attention to what sells in your community (looks, photo quality, dress, cultural tastes, body type, etc.) and fashion your image based upon what you think fits best for you. Then, only pay attention to people who respond positively to you. No one is attractive to everyone. Once you develop a feel for how to navigate the dating world, do so, yet do so casually. Seek your passion in life, not a husband. A husband will come.
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    May 11, 2013 8:54 PM GMT
    man, just be you because that's all you can be. the only person you can answer to at the end of the day is yourself. you may not have nobody around to pat your back but as long as you kept it 100 percent honest to yourself, who cares. cry and be lonely or whatever the fuck you want to feel.
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    May 11, 2013 9:01 PM GMT
    pazzy saidman, just be you because that's all you can be. the only person you can answer to at the end of the day is yourself. you may not have nobody around to pat your back but as long as you kept it 100 percent honest to yourself, who cares. cry and be lonely or whatever the fuck you want to feel.


    OR He could connect with other Guys.

    Your words are generally self-aggrandizing and ultimately useless.

    Your greatest claim is you don't care.

    Try caring.

    It gets MUCH more interesting when you do.
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    May 11, 2013 9:03 PM GMT
    Cash said
    pazzy saidman, just be you because that's all you can be. the only person you can answer to at the end of the day is yourself. you may not have nobody around to pat your back but as long as you kept it 100 percent honest to yourself, who cares. cry and be lonely or whatever the fuck you want to feel.


    OR He could connect with other Guys.

    Your words are generally self-aggrandizing and ultimately useless.

    Your greatest claim is you don't care.

    Try caring.

    It gets MUCH more interesting when you do.


    lol true
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    May 11, 2013 9:03 PM GMT
    Cash said
    pazzy saidman, just be you because that's all you can be. the only person you can answer to at the end of the day is yourself. you may not have nobody around to pat your back but as long as you kept it 100 percent honest to yourself, who cares. cry and be lonely or whatever the fuck you want to feel.


    OR He could connect with other Guys.

    Your words are generally self-aggrandizing and ultimately useless.

    Your greatest claim is you don't care.

    Try caring.

    It gets MUCH more interesting when you do.


    how do you "connect" with other guys?icon_question.gif
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    May 11, 2013 9:32 PM GMT
    JohnSpotter said
    ArdatYaksha said...when the time comes imam flush'em out with my words of wild funkylicious funkafication! my inventive lanjuageicon_biggrin.gif


    You should write children's books . You'd be the new Dr. Seuss.

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    And now for my patently offenive post of the day:


    Wait for it...


    Wait for it...


    Ok, here it comes.

    My imam's feet get pretty funkyliciously funkafied after a long day of runing about from mosque to mosque, flushing out guys to go blow up things with bomb vests.

    With his inventive lanjuage.
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    May 11, 2013 9:42 PM GMT
    [QUOTE]You should write children's books . You'd be the new Dr. Seuss.[QUOTE]

    O thnx I'm flattered and u just gave me ide-ers, yehehehehehe

    AlphaTrigger I have no idea what that meant but it was a doozy
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    May 12, 2013 1:21 AM GMT
    ArdatYaksha said[QUOTE]You should write children's books . You'd be the new Dr. Seuss.[QUOTE]

    O thnx I'm flattered and u just gave me ide-ers, yehehehehehe

    AlphaTrigger I have no idea what that meant but it was a doozy

    Writing in slang or txt limits the number of people who are going to reply to you. I will not continue reading a post, much less reply to it, if i have trouble reading it and of course, other people make assumptions about your intelligence if the English is off consistently. ESL people, like me, have some allowance there. icon_redface.gif
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    May 12, 2013 1:35 AM GMT
    Don't live in the expectations of other men, because that is setting yourself up for failure.

    Happy belated birthday by the way.