Modern cruising

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    Oct 24, 2008 4:39 PM GMT
    I'm headed to New York this week for the first time and won't have a computer. I'm not big on the gay bar scene, but have read about The Rambles in Central Park and thought about checking it out. Have any of you been threre?icon_question.gif
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    Oct 24, 2008 6:33 PM GMT
    I wonder at who would admit to being there... icon_eek.gif

    Well I'm not sure if it was the ramble or not but when I was in NYC with friends we left Natural History Museum and cross into central park. Went left and ended up in some looping paved paths with guys having sex on rocks some fairly obvious queers walking alone or seating along benches. Lots of eye contact like they were trying to sell something.

    Kinda a thrill for straight girls. Same thing occurs here in Hartford in Bushnell Park they say.
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    Oct 24, 2008 6:38 PM GMT
    I always think hooking up in the bushes is creepy, disturbing, trashy and well...illegal.
  • Delivis

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    Oct 24, 2008 6:42 PM GMT
    Stuff i wouldnt touch with a ten foot pole.
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    Oct 24, 2008 6:45 PM GMT
    Rhodielifter saidI always think hooking up in the bushes is creepy, disturbing, trashy and well...illegal.


    Hmm.. perhaps that can be the new Central Park marketing campaign icon_biggrin.gif

    Why don't you try manhunt.com before you leave, then you will only metaphorically have to "shake the bushes", you can stroll through the profiles on the site (instead of the park), and it's not illegal, yet...



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    Oct 24, 2008 7:00 PM GMT
    Not to seem uptight or anything, but The Ramble is one of the first efforts in our country at ecological restoration. Olmsted wanted to recreate the little hidden treasures of the eastern deciduous forest right in Central Park. These places, especially in urban areas, serve to replenish the soul and reconnect with something larger than ourselves.

    Frankly, some dick-swinging troll would ruin the experience pretty fast. Shame, but then again, I blame a society that still very much has us in hiding as much as I blame the actual trolls.

    I know not everyone shares my priorities for outdoor public spaces, so berate me if you must.
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    Oct 24, 2008 7:05 PM GMT
    XRuggerATX saidNot to seem uptight or anything, but The Ramble is one of the first efforts in our country at ecological restoration. Olmsted wanted to recreate the little hidden treasures of the eastern deciduous forest right in Central Park. These places, especially in urban areas, serve to replenish the soul and reconnect with something larger than ourselves.

    Frankly, some dick-swinging troll would ruin the experience pretty fast. Shame, but then again, I blame a society that still very much has us in hiding as much as I blame the actual trolls.

    I know not everyone shares my priorities for outdoor public spaces, so berate me if you must.


    I agree with you. Parks are for enjoying the outdoors and nature. Not for some "dick-swinging troll" to get his rocks off.
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    Oct 24, 2008 7:10 PM GMT
    I ran into dick swinging trolls last time i hiked one of the lesser known trails in the Daniel Boone National forest here in Ky. I actually got Pawed, I took off for the main trail to Natural bridge quick enough.
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    Oct 24, 2008 7:24 PM GMT
    I have not been to Lady Bird Park on the Potomac in years. But years ago, I used to go there often to read....read all of Will and Ariel Durant's Story of Civilizaton there, as well as many other books.

    The park was very popular with gays both day and night. The park stayed open after dark because of a "romantic" illuminated bridge. So at night, the park became basically divided into the lit walkways, benches and bridge and the dark bushes and trees. One night I decided that I would screw up my courage and walk straight thru one of the dark tree areas to the lit highway on the other side to see what it was like in there. I had never dared walk into the dark areas before because I was afraid I would get my throat slit and who would know! Anywy, I walked in....I walked straight thru, not stopping or meandering....and just as soon as I got to the other side, the cops sprung a raid! I heard a scream, turned to look back and I still have seared in my memory the horrified grimice on a guy's face, illuminated by a policeman's flashlight, as the policeman grabbed him by the shoulder. Nobody called for me to stop so I kept right on going. Maybe since I was just walking thru the police didnt not include me in the trap because I could make the case that I was just walking thru and not cruising. Or maybe I was just lucky. In any event, that was the last attempt by me to go into the bushes in the dark! BTW, my eyes never had time to adjust to the dark and I never really saw a thing in the brief time I passed thru.

    But then there was definitely a double standard in the park. Straight people could roll all over the grass doing anything short of fucking and they could stroll around embracing, but gays couldnt.

    The last I saw of the park most of all the bushes had been cut down.
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    Oct 24, 2008 8:56 PM GMT
    So you're saying Virginia is not for lovers?
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    Oct 24, 2008 9:02 PM GMT
    JustJohn saidSo you're saying Virginia is not for lovers?

    It wouldnt be a problem now so much, I dont think ....at least in Northern Virginia ....but 20 years ago it was more so...and I dont know what happens in the rest of the state.
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    Oct 24, 2008 9:56 PM GMT
    XRuggerATX saidNot to seem uptight or anything, but The Ramble is one of the first efforts in our country at ecological restoration. Olmsted wanted to recreate the little hidden treasures of the eastern deciduous forest right in Central Park. These places, especially in urban areas, serve to replenish the soul and reconnect with something larger than ourselves.

    Frankly, some dick-swinging troll would ruin the experience pretty fast. Shame, but then again, I blame a society that still very much has us in hiding as much as I blame the actual trolls.

    I know not everyone shares my priorities for outdoor public spaces, so berate me if you must.


    It's good to see your sentiment is in the majority here. Too often, online seems to be the territory of the militant cruisers that are dismayed by any homosexuals that challenge their right to "swing there dicks" anywhere they please. Hopefully the fact that this is not a "hookup site" and that most guys here are at least to some respect "out" means that they have better options.

    I agree with you whole heartedly, in Atlanta we have our own Olmsted park, Piedmont Park. When the Park Conservancy's answered the public sex in the wooded area became well known for open cruising (with the arrest of a local weatherman with the last name of Menchew (I kid you not!), but putting up a chain linked fence, many in the gay community got upset, when the woman that led the Conservancy dies on an Antarctic tourist plane crash, members openly celebrated that the "witch is dead."

    Another park in town had open cruising in the woods with in view of a heavily used playground and tennis court. Thank God the police started a sting operation.

    Anyone comes on here and starts to berate you, I'll be right behind you to open a verbal case of whupass! icon_cool.gif
  • DanielQQ

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    Oct 24, 2008 10:06 PM GMT
    XRuggerATX, I think you should have a little more outdoor sex in your life. I hear you love sex, and I also hear you love hiking/etc.... why not combine the two? ;) Let me know if i can be of assistance heh
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    Oct 25, 2008 4:40 AM GMT
    Weather's been nice, but chilly. Rain expected this weekend.

    Besides a time-honored place for casual pickups and instant gratification, the Ramble also has had its share of bashing incidents, many of them pretty serious. Haven't heard much about this in recent years.
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    Oct 25, 2008 4:46 AM GMT
    Plan ahead or buck up and go to a bar.

    Sex is not hard to get in NYC and safe sex is not a priority in the parks. So, just be a man and get a drink, meet a stranger, and fuck his brains out in your hotel.
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    Oct 27, 2008 4:51 PM GMT
    DanielQQ saidXRuggerATX, I think you should have a little more outdoor sex in your life. I hear you love sex, and I also hear you love hiking/etc.... why not combine the two? ;) Let me know if i can be of assistance heh


    Will do. If it's not urban and you can get totally secluded I'm all for it. I was in this great place called Idyllwild recently and thought it might be a good idea to get sketchy up in the foothills, but I couldn't get my date to join me for that hike. He wanted to stay home and play bridge with his siblings instead! I took a naughty pic on the hike, but then I had to delete it because his siblings wanted to play with my camera.
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    Oct 27, 2008 5:04 PM GMT
    RE: Carlson, et. al

    Your antidote brings up an interesting point which I won't linger on as it's not the point of this post: why are cops hiding in parks and public bathrooms trying to entrap gay men engaging in consensual sex? As a sex positive person (ie, I believe sex to be as natural as eating and sleeping and feel its something which shouldn't be demonized or pathologized), isn't there something deeply puritanical and guilt-ridden about this idea that sex, no fucking, has to take place behind closed doors with two people? If a park is paid for by the public for public use, why shouldn't that use include fucking if the participants so wish? I'm not a "bush man" myself (prefer a sex club to the outdoors because I'm a bit of a clean freak) but feel the need to inject another viewpoint on this topic. Rant over.
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    Oct 27, 2008 9:15 PM GMT
    Jackal69 saidRE: Carlson, et. al

    Your antidote brings up an interesting point which I won't linger on as it's not the point of this post: why are cops hiding in parks and public bathrooms trying to entrap gay men engaging in consensual sex? As a sex positive person (ie, I believe sex to be as natural as eating and sleeping and feel its something which shouldn't be demonized or pathologized), isn't there something deeply puritanical and guilt-ridden about this idea that sex, no fucking, has to take place behind closed doors with two people? If a park is paid for by the public for public use, why shouldn't that use include fucking if the participants so wish? I'm not a "bush man" myself (prefer a sex club to the outdoors because I'm a bit of a clean freak) but feel the need to inject another viewpoint on this topic. Rant over.


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    Oct 27, 2008 9:26 PM GMT
    Rhodielifter said
    XRuggerATX saidNot to seem uptight or anything, but The Ramble is one of the first efforts in our country at ecological restoration. Olmsted wanted to recreate the little hidden treasures of the eastern deciduous forest right in Central Park. These places, especially in urban areas, serve to replenish the soul and reconnect with something larger than ourselves.

    Frankly, some dick-swinging troll would ruin the experience pretty fast. Shame, but then again, I blame a society that still very much has us in hiding as much as I blame the actual trolls.

    I know not everyone shares my priorities for outdoor public spaces, so berate me if you must.


    I agree with you. Parks are for enjoying the outdoors and nature. Not for some "dick-swinging troll" to get his rocks off.


    I gotta laugh at this. Rhodielifter used to live here in Seattle so he can verify that our Volunteer Park is also Cruise-and-Bush Sex Central. And it was designed by (drumroll): the Olmsted firm. I'm sure they never knew to what use some guys would put such spots.
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    Oct 27, 2008 9:48 PM GMT
    StanleyHusseinWilson said
    DanielQQ saidXRuggerATX, I think you should have a little more outdoor sex in your life. I hear you love sex, and I also hear you love hiking/etc.... why not combine the two? ;) Let me know if i can be of assistance heh


    Will do. If it's not urban and you can get totally secluded I'm all for it. I was in this great place called Idyllwild recently and thought it might be a good idea to get sketchy up in the foothills, but I couldn't get my date to join me for that hike. He wanted to stay home and play bridge with his siblings instead! I took a naughty pic on the hike, but then I had to delete it because his siblings wanted to play with my camera.


    Your boyfriend needs his head checked out icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 25, 2008 6:42 AM GMT
    If you run into me on the Sunny trail here in ARIZONA.....I can guarantee you will be SHOCKED!!

    LOL