Naked in a Hot Tub?

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    May 13, 2013 3:13 PM GMT
    I'm curious what you guys make of this scenario:

    You've been dating a guy for four months, and the two of you plan a weekend together, staying with friends of his, another couple, who live in a resort-type place. Discussing preparations for the weekend, the guy mentions that his friends have a hot tub. So you say, "Cool, I'll bring a bathing suit." But your new guy tells you that everyone else will be in the hot tub naked. (Though he is not averse to you wearing a bathing suit.)

    So I'm wondering: would you feel a little awkward about the prospect of being naked in a hot tub with your new guy and another male couple you are just meeting? Would it strike you as an unusual arrangement?

    I want to add here: I am not shy about being naked in locker rooms, or even in my own house. But in a hot tub with two gay guys I'm just meeting, though . . . I dunno. Maybe I'm uptight? Not the worst thing in the world to be uptight, but if so, I want to know.

    Thanks in advance for the thoughts.

  • HottJoe

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    May 13, 2013 3:14 PM GMT
    What are you a nun?
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    May 13, 2013 3:50 PM GMT
    I dont know where you are with your guy with regards to monogamy and playing around. Discuss with your guy in advance whether this could end in group sex and how comfortable you are with that thought. Especially since these guys are strangers.
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    May 13, 2013 3:51 PM GMT
    I would personally be very hesitant about the situation, specially since you have never met these guys. but, wow, what an awkward position your new boyfriend is putting you in... I mean, I am no prude but there are just some people who I would rather not see me naked. It would actually be dangerous, new young love brings inappropriately timed boners.
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    May 13, 2013 4:01 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidWhat are you a nun?

    This.

    Only because it's another gay couple doesn't make it more awkward than with any other couple. But being naked doesn't automatically mean the next thing you do is to bang.
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    May 13, 2013 4:07 PM GMT
    Some people are just comfortable with nudity, I mean, I don't think the other 2 guys want to bang you. It's normal to get naked in a hottub in an intimate setting. Just cover your penis when you get in and out of the water, that way they can't see your junk.

    I went to a spa with my ex and his dad, I didn't want to see my ex-dad naked at all. That was really awkward for me lol but I just figure it's more like a cultural thing.
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    May 13, 2013 4:25 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidI dont know where you are with your guy with regards to monogamy and playing around. Discuss with your guy in advance whether this could end in group sex and how comfortable you are with that thought. Especially since these guys are strangers.

    That would be my only concern if I was in this situation, too. The nudity itself is nothing - you're all men. I use a hot tub with naked strangers all the time, will be again this coming weekend when we're down in Key West.
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    May 13, 2013 4:26 PM GMT
    I don't give a fuck who's naked, I'm wearing a bathing suit.
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    May 13, 2013 4:30 PM GMT
    nudity is no big deal in a hot tub, but the question you are really wondering about is if group "stuff" happens or is expected to happen. You should know going in since this guy is new.
  • Timbales

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    May 13, 2013 4:40 PM GMT
    Do what makes you comfortable. If you want to wear a swimsuit, then go ahead.

    Anyone who judges you for it isn't worth the time or effort.
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    May 13, 2013 4:51 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidWhat are you a nun?


    Hmmm. No. What are you, an asshole? icon_smile.gif
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    May 13, 2013 4:53 PM GMT
    Thanks for the replies. Seems like some people would be totally good with this, and others wouldn't be.

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    May 13, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    Despite the way it sounds, four gay men in a hot tub doesn't have to lead to group sex. If you are worried about it though just try to keep a clear head. Also I don't recommend long board shorts in a hot tub.
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 13, 2013 6:27 PM GMT
    4 naked gay men in a hot tub is an invitation to an orgy. Add a few glasses of wine and the odds go up to about 98% ... First it starts up with the other couple hugging then some light casual kissing then a little jovial play between couples .... It's not a sudden act ... There is a building up to it.
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    May 13, 2013 6:41 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk said4 naked gay men in a hot tub is an invitation to an orgy. Add a few glasses of wine and the odds go up to about 98% ... First it starts up with the other couple hugging then some light casual kissing then a little jovial play between couples .... It's not a sudden act ... There is a building up to it.


    anything can lead to an orgy if the party are willing. nothing will lead to an orgy if they are not. have a chat with your new man in advance and make your interests known.

    ....that being said. If I was with Runnerben in that hot tub, i would certainly be suggesting an orgy!
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    May 13, 2013 7:03 PM GMT
    So, okay:

    I think I get it.

    An orgy's not happening.

    But here's the thing: It's not just that I don't want an orgy, it's that I'm not interested in even the slightest hint of orgy possibility. Not even a whiff of orgy. Not even a vague behind the scenes odd tingling of orgy gasses. Nothing.

    So, yeah, I think you guys are right. I need to talk to the guy I'm seeing about this.
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    May 13, 2013 7:07 PM GMT
    Maybe it's a hot tub time machine and everyone needs to be naked in order for it to work?! icon_biggrin.gif

    Anyways, as long as no one's balls touch, it's totally fine.
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    May 13, 2013 7:09 PM GMT
    RunnerBen said
    HottJoe saidWhat are you a nun?


    Hmmm. No. What are you, an asshole? icon_smile.gif


    That's so uncalled for.icon_cry.gif
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    May 13, 2013 7:48 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    RunnerBen said
    HottJoe saidWhat are you a nun?


    Hmmm. No. What are you, an asshole? icon_smile.gif


    That's so uncalled for.icon_cry.gif


    It's true. icon_sad.gif Sorry Joe.
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    May 13, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
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    bhp91126 saidI dont know where you are with your guy with regards to monogamy and playing around. Discuss with your guy in advance whether this could end in group sex and how comfortable you are with that thought. Especially since these guys are strangers.

    That would be my only concern if I was in this situation, too. The nudity itself is nothing - you're all men. I use a hot tub with naked strangers all the time, will be again this coming weekend when we're down in Key West.


    That's scary.
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    May 13, 2013 9:14 PM GMT
    The guy you're dating didn't mention being naked when not in the hot tub.
    He didn't say anything about it being a naked weekend.

    If you're all just being naked in the hot tub but not before, it would seem that they want to play together.
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    May 13, 2013 11:51 PM GMT
    It's like most things - - the more often you go to hot tub parties where the guys are sans-clothing, the more you'll realize it's no big deal.
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    May 13, 2013 11:55 PM GMT
    If the other couple is hot, do a 4-way! icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 13, 2013 11:57 PM GMT
    CharleyChase90232 said
    ART_DECO said
    bhp91126 saidI dont know where you are with your guy with regards to monogamy and playing around. Discuss with your guy in advance whether this could end in group sex and how comfortable you are with that thought. Especially since these guys are strangers.

    That would be my only concern if I was in this situation, too. The nudity itself is nothing - you're all men. I use a hot tub with naked strangers all the time, will be again this coming weekend when we're down in Key West.


    That's scary.


    Agreed, going to a hottub naked with strangers is so unsafe and risky!
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    May 14, 2013 12:12 AM GMT
    yeah I wouldn't think it's a big deal. but you can always still bring the swim trunks in case you wanted to go swimming elsewhere?

    just talk to your boy about it. just keep it open and honest....if you aren't cool with it, then tell him. but if you are, then roll with it.