It's a break up day!!

  • wherewillwebe

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    May 13, 2013 11:03 PM GMT
    Just venting!

    Today I am going to break up with a guy I have been seeing for three months. Half of me thinks 'good on you' and other half thinks 'you are an idiot!'.
    It's just that I don't see this relationship going anywhere. I have thought about this a lot lately and the last straw that broke my back was that he was going to pick me up at 7pm last night but he didn't come. I had to text him at 7:40 asking him if he was coming. He replied that he had a cold and was having a lemon tea with ginger and honey in it in his dressing gown with a box of tissue next to him. I may sound selfish here but you'd think he would let me know beforehand if he couldn't make it (it's not like he was in a car accident and nearly dead!!). I guess it just shows how little he cares about me.

    I am having dinner with him at his tonight and it will be very awkward to break up with him during dinner.
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    May 14, 2013 1:29 AM GMT
    After blowing you off with the car thing, I am hoping he just doesn't bother with the dinner, knowing he was hoping you'd get the hint that he's just not that into, he is probably not going to show just to prove it.
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    May 14, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    Maybe it was yesterday?

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    May 14, 2013 1:39 AM GMT
    You would actually date someone who wore a dressing gown?!
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    May 14, 2013 1:41 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidYou would actually date someone who wore a dressing gown?!

    Wow, I didn't even catch that. Yeah, once I found out I was dating someone wearing a dressing gown, I'd be forced to tell my mother we could no longer date.
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    May 14, 2013 4:21 AM GMT
    If it's not too late, just don't show up for the dinner. Maybe he'll get the hint.
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    May 14, 2013 5:36 AM GMT
    Hope you went through with it, he seems a douche
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    May 14, 2013 4:29 PM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidIf it's not too late, just don't show up for the dinner. Maybe he'll get the hint.



    so
    Beat me to it.

    yeah, text him really late. "had laundry to get done".
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    May 14, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    I feel like how bad could breaking up with someone be if yall have only been seeing eachother for 3 months? lol.

    Just txt him and tell him you're breaking up with him. why go through an expensive dinner experience to do that. fuck it.
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    May 14, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    How about a quick update? Did you end up going to the dinner - - - or did you find something better to do and just not show up? Or did you maybe call an hour late and say your had to polish shoes, or do a cross-word puzzle and forgot the dinner? That would give him a taste of his own medicine. So - what did you decide?
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    May 14, 2013 6:08 PM GMT
    Addy23 saidSo guys dump eachother for silluy things?? Well, I am not into it so can't really advise. "Keeping my mouth shut" - good luck! Bon appetite.


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    and one guy's "dating for 3 months" is another guy's "we hung out a couple times".
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    May 14, 2013 6:12 PM GMT
    What's wrong with dressing gowns?
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    May 14, 2013 7:05 PM GMT
    Good luck!!!

    "It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all."


  • wherewillwebe

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    May 14, 2013 10:56 PM GMT
    ....I couldn't break up with him last night because he looked really sick and I felt sorry for him. Instead, I made him a hot bowl of soup and put him to bedicon_cry.gif
  • Pontifex

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    May 14, 2013 11:10 PM GMT
    wherewillwebe said....I couldn't break up with him last night because he looked really sick and I felt sorry for him. Instead, I made him a hot bowl of soup and put him to bedicon_cry.gif


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    May 14, 2013 11:13 PM GMT
    Well you better straight up tell him about the problems you seem to be having in the relationship when he gets better. Otherwise he'll just be stringing you along.
  • Aodhan

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    May 14, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    wherewillwebe said....I couldn't break up with him last night because he looked really sick and I felt sorry for him. Instead, I made him a hot bowl of soup and put him to bedicon_cry.gif


    Then maybe you shouldn't break up with him. Maybe he assumed that he wasn't up to collecting you and that you assumed the same.

    What other reasons do you have for breaking up cause this could just be lack in communication?
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    May 15, 2013 12:16 AM GMT
    So...what the fuck is a dressing gown? Google search results show bath robes..?
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    May 15, 2013 11:19 AM GMT
    TomatoTomato saidSo...what the fuck is a dressing gown? Google search results show bath robes..?

    Yes.
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    May 15, 2013 3:03 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    Addy23 saidSo guys dump eachother for silluy things?? Well, I am not into it so can't really advise. "Keeping my mouth shut" - good luck! Bon appetite.


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    and one guy's "dating for 3 months" is another guy's "we hung out a couple times".


    lol, exactly.
  • LJay

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    May 15, 2013 3:43 PM GMT
    TomatoTomato saidSo...what the fuck is a dressing gown? Google search results show bath robes..?


    Same thing, tomato, and perhaps my favorite thing to wear apart from nothing at all.

    OP, I have to concur that you should talk it through with him soonest. Though he should have made a call to tell you he could not pick you up, it does appear that he was not well.

    Some people are way too self-absorbed when they don't feel well.
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    May 15, 2013 3:51 PM GMT
    Shawnathan saidIf you reach the 3 month mark and you don't see it going on any longer, I don't see any point in continuing. It's better to end it when you still like each other than 6 months down the road when you hate each other.

    +1
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    May 15, 2013 4:04 PM GMT
    It sounds to me like your relationship is over, you just don't realize it or else he's waiting for you to do the dumping. You don't see the relationship going anywhere, so you might as well just pull the plug and save both of you the time.

    If you don't know how to break up with him, just write him a sensitive letter after the manner of Homer Simpson:


    Dear baby,

    Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: you.

    Regards,

    ~wherewillwebe
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    May 15, 2013 6:23 PM GMT
    LJay saidSome people are way too self-absorbed when they don't feel well.


    And when they feel just fine.
  • wherewillwebe

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    May 16, 2013 10:23 AM GMT
    MileHighYo said

    Dear baby,

    Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: you.

    Regards,

    ~wherewillwebe



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