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Oct 25, 2008 4:16 PM GMT
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why do guys hook up? My ex told me he never hooked up before and now i found out that he does at the most 2 to 3 times a week before we started dating, for some reason that made me sick to my stomach when i discovered this... so im asking my fellow realjock members... why do guys hook up?
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Oct 25, 2008 4:33 PM GMT
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SPAM!
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Oct 25, 2008 5:12 PM GMT
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Likely because it's so easy. I set up a profile on a sex site once and I got a lot of responses (before taking it down pretty fast). It made me realize how easy it is to get laid as a gay guy, and it also made me realize why I want to stay a virgin until I have found the right guy. I suppose getting laid feels a lot better than JO too.  |
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Oct 25, 2008 5:27 PM GMT
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Good question!
I think from my own experiences, there are a number of contributing factors and I don't think those factors or reasons are any different for gay or straight hook ups.
There is always the "thrill of the chase" and the "conquest", or just curiosity of what some guy looks like, sounds like, tastes like, style of sex, etc....Some are into hook ups as a "game", some are looking for some unmet psychological need, or others just enjoy sex and decided to "kiss alot of frogs" before they found their prince charming.....Guys are genetically hard coded to "wander" and "test the waters".....you know...the "little head" sometimes does more thinking and acting than the other head....straight or gay.
I think every guy needs to have an experience with a "hook up"...it gives you a perspective on your motives and expectations of a partner. It also gives you a chance to work on your "technique" and "style".
I never had the expectation of ever getting anything from the encounter other than raw and recreational sex. It was almost a “cathartic stress relief” with another person, something more than just jacking off in private.....probably not the best answers or reasons and I am sure that some psychologist could or has done in-depth research on the topic of hook ups....but it touches on some of my thoughts.
Personally, I never had the opportunity to date or "play the game" when I was a teen, 20-30 or early 40 something, because of my former weight issue. I am now able and almost feel the need to get "caught up"...which I know I never will, but a few experiences have taught me enough. Just make absolutely sure that you are ALWAYS protecting yourself with a condom or other means and always in a safe and consensual situation.
Try reading a book called "Fear of Flying', by Erica Jong...while it is about sex from a woman's perspective, it gives a good account of sex for the sake of sex. One of the chapters is "In search for the Zipless Fuck"....quite the eye opener.....enjoy!
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Oct 25, 2008 6:25 PM GMT
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Really? I always did it for the exercise. /just kidding //got nothin' ///slash-a-way! |
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Oct 25, 2008 6:28 PM GMT
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Because we can.
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Oct 25, 2008 6:37 PM GMT
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canadianguy35 said I want to stay a virgin until I have found the right guy. Good for you. Your first time should be with someone who cares about you and that you care about. |
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Oct 25, 2008 6:43 PM GMT
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Sex is beautiful and natural. People should safely have it as often as they like without guilt, provided no one is hurt (as in cheating).
Don't be a puritan, you wouldn't look good in the hat.
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Oct 25, 2008 6:46 PM GMT
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redheadguy saidBecause we can.  |
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Oct 25, 2008 6:47 PM GMT
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Why do gay guys hook up?
Why does anyone hook up?
Why do we masturbate?
Why does, gasp, pre-marrital sex exist at all???
The most basic and driving function of all living things on earth is to further perpetuate themselves. Nature has set up an insurance policy to ensure that we will do this. It is called the orgasm.
Then nature was like "well the orgasm is all well and good and seems to have a good approval rating, but it needs more of a turn out. So how about we build in an innate desire to achieve this orgasm, rather than just the after effect of the orgasm when someone decides they want a baby. So instead of reproduction after sex, a constant need for sex will create even FURTHER spawning of a species, without even wanting a baby!!"
Nature was very happy with its new decision, but then realized that they made a mathematical error. All of this populating would soon turn into over-populating in a species, thus making a social-ecosystem unstable. SO they decided- "ok some part of the population needs to stop procreating, or we are going to be up to our elbows in placenta. How about a small percentage of the population have sexual desires for the same sex? With two of the same organs bumpin against each other, no babies are made and we still havent lowered the ever necessary overwhelming sex drive!! DAMN We are smart!"
Humans eventually caught on and realized all of this scheming, and soon realized that they wanted to have orgasms more than they wanted to have babies. The gays got the best end of this deal however. While still given this gift of insane desire to spread seed, they are unable to impregnate. So they get to have this amazing little miracle as much as they want without having to raise kids!
The only thing that surprises me about all of this is that we dont see more uncontrolable public fucking.
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Oct 25, 2008 6:59 PM GMT
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I say do what you like, if you feel that sex has a very important meaning to you then wait for your guy. If not then do what you like and be yourself, if you like hooking up then go hook up, protect your self properly and do it. Why? cause if you like it no one has the right to judge you, as long as you dont be in a relationship.
But just think about it carefully, dont lie to your self, that doesnt make any sense. Be happy and satisfy your curiosity when you have this curiosities, cause seriously what it looks kinda wrong is some guys ive seen they want to do at 60 years old what didnt do at 20 and that doesnt look right.
Please don misunderstand me, Im not saying hooking up is what everyone should be doing, im just stating that you should do what you like to do and live your life the way you like it. In other words, be happy.
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Oct 25, 2008 7:00 PM GMT
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I don't remember where exactly I read this, poor scholarship I know, but a recent study found that one of the greatest indicators of adolescent sexual activity was the amount of loving parental touch.
I'd offer that we hookup to feel touched and to feel, if even for a moment, not alone.
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Oct 25, 2008 7:07 PM GMT
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inspired answer, brady. thats one of the most factual statements ive heard in a while.
im going to use that, and i wish i could quote you on it.
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Oct 25, 2008 7:08 PM GMT
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Nautical saidwhy do guys hook up? My ex told me he never hooked up before and now i found out that he does at the most 2 to 3 times a week before we started dating, for some reason that made me sick to my stomach when i discovered this... so im asking my fellow realjock members... why do guys hook up? I'm interested to know why it made you « sick to my stomach when i discovered this... » were you worried about STD's? Didn't like the thought of him sleeping around as a moral thing? etc... I do a number of hook-ups (for me though it's more 2-3 times a month rather than 2-3 per week) so I'm interested to know why people wouldn't like it |
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Oct 25, 2008 7:15 PM GMT
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Some guys just want sex man, it's that simple......plus it is easy in the gay community.
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Oct 25, 2008 7:16 PM GMT
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ItMoons saidinspired answer, brady. thats one of the most factual statements ive heard in a while.
im going to use that, and i wish i could quote you on it. I kinda think the reason behind most of what we do is a wanting to feel love, but not really knowing what it is or how to get it. I was in a research methodology course with a somatic psychotherapist who was working on narratives of infant massage and she mentioned this study and I can't remember the name at all. I wish I had better notes from that class so that I could quote me too  |
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Oct 25, 2008 7:25 PM GMT
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It's all about getting back to that maternal status when we were touched and embraced and loved by our mothers. Or not.
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Oct 25, 2008 7:43 PM GMT
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redheadguy saidIt's all about getting back to that maternal status when we were touched and embraced and loved by our mothers. Or not. Haha red imma say not on that lol. At least you had a different theory though tehehe. |
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Oct 25, 2008 7:51 PM GMT
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Men hook up for a number of reasons:
1. They don't love themselves and cant face an emotional connection with someone without loving themselves.
2. They are afraid of commitment and responsibility.
3. Sex addiction.
4. Some men don't understand that there should be a level of respect involved in sex - this includes not understanding that sex is an intimate act.
In the end, men are pigs. But, we all like to play in the mud, don't we? The 4 answers above are generalized to an extent, but are the simple explanations for someone doing such an intimate act with a stranger without building an emotional connection. For the fourth answer, what can you do? But for the first three, there are numerous options to resolve these issues and learn to connect with a sex partner. We all live by certain standards, and what we like shouldn't manipulate our standards. Most people like sweets, but RealJockers should know well that we cant just eat as much as we want just because we like it. Sex is sex, but the sex partner should be respected - not used.
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Oct 25, 2008 7:52 PM GMT
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Hookups are easy and require no real emotional connection. Though you learn pretty quickly that emotionless sex can be pretty damn boring. Every once in a while its fun though.
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Oct 25, 2008 7:55 PM GMT
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looknrnd saidMen hook up for a number of reasons:
1. They don't love themselves and cant face an emotional connection with someone without loving themselves.
2. They are afraid of commitment and responsibility.
3. Sex addiction.
4. Some men don't understand that there should be a level of respect involved in sex - this includes not understanding that sex is an intimate act.
In the end, men are pigs. But, we all like to play in the mud, don't we? The 4 answers above are generalized to an extent, but are the simple explanations for someone doing such an intimate act with a stranger without building an emotional connection. For the fourth answer, what can you do? But for the first three, there are numerous options to resolve these issues and learn to connect with a sex partner. We all live by certain standards, and what we like shouldn't manipulate our standards. Most people like sweets, but RealJockers should know well that we cant just eat as much as we want just because we like it. Sex is sex, but the sex partner should be respected - not used. Yeah, I'd watch it with the generalizations. Nothing you've described fits me, for example. And some guys get off on being used. Sexual boundaries are not cookie-cutter, after all. |
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Oct 25, 2008 7:57 PM GMT
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BioMatty saidYeah, I'd watch it with the generalizations. Nothing you've described fits me, for example. What you mean you *don't* like to play in the mud?!?!?! Are you Canadian or not?!?!?! ;-) |
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Oct 25, 2008 7:58 PM GMT
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Only if it's raining. It's how dirty guys get clean  |
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Oct 25, 2008 9:28 PM GMT
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looknrnd saidMen hook up for a number of reasons:
1. They don't love themselves and cant face an emotional connection with someone without loving themselves.
2. They are afraid of commitment and responsibility.
3. Sex addiction.
4. Some men don't understand that there should be a level of respect involved in sex - this includes not understanding that sex is an intimate act.
In the end, men are pigs. But, we all like to play in the mud, don't we? The 4 answers above are generalized to an extent, but are the simple explanations for someone doing such an intimate act with a stranger without building an emotional connection. For the fourth answer, what can you do? But for the first three, there are numerous options to resolve these issues and learn to connect with a sex partner. We all live by certain standards, and what we like shouldn't manipulate our standards. Most people like sweets, but RealJockers should know well that we cant just eat as much as we want just because we like it. Sex is sex, but the sex partner should be respected - not used. How about: It's really fun and they are both horny. |
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Oct 26, 2008 9:49 AM GMT
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I'm not a pig and I don't like playing in mud, thank you very much!
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Oct 26, 2008 10:25 AM GMT
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I have no say in this since i'm a virgin .
But, I have been saving myself for true love.
I want to have sex with the guy I love all night long. Then cuddle in bed. I want him to be there next to me when I wake up and know that he will not got to the club/public restroom/park/bar later that night looking for another meanless fuck.
I want him to want to be with me... to make breakfest in bed for me that morning after we have sex (or vice versa).
I want candles around the bed and rose petals all over the 800+ tread count egyptian cotton sheets. And if we need some spice in our sex life... we go to the sex shop for kinky stuff or invite good firends over (monogomous couples)... as long as nothing gets weird after. But I personaly couldn't have sex with a stranger I don't think.... I wouldn't feel comfortable.
I have fantasies about having random sex... but I don't think I could... its not in my personality. (cyber sex takes care of those fantasies lol)
I think a lot of gay man have meaningless sex because it is somewhat a part of our history. Most men had to hide... and some now even still. If your suppose to play it str8, how can u get a bf? or eventually a life partner? Sex was only thing that could be taken care of though... just no relationships afterwards.
I'm happy though cause you hear more and more younger guys saying... "I'm not here for hook-ups, I wanna find love."
Is there anything wrong with meaningless sex? hmmm not really IN MY POINT OF VIEW. Now, if I were James Dobson it be different-- realize your actions are giving fuel to the Christian Right. And when the Morman Church gives 15 million dollar to Yes on Prop 8 cause to ban gay-marriage in Cali.... you have to wonder why they are so against gays-- other than what they read in the Bible.
Hell, I'll say it... I think EXCESSIVE promiscuous sex by gay men, all throughout history and still today, has hurt and/or delayed our chances for equal rights. Why do I think that? Damn I could write a 15-page thesis paper on that subject. lol
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Oct 26, 2008 12:11 PM GMT
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Some of you people sound like women - brainwashed by the religious, patriarchal society to think a certain way about sex so as to be easily manipulated and sidelined while others have the fun and power.
There's nothing wrong with casual sex...if you're doing it safely, within sane reason, and of mutual understanding/consent. True, many men are rampant sluts due to some psychological trauma or deficiency, to some emotional void they're looking to fill in a manner that's easy/quick vs doing the tough emotional work.
But there are many who can engage in casual sex because IT'S FUN. When it's safe, in mutually respectful terms - even if he wants to be called a dirty butt slut and have cum on his face - and not in clear excess...casual sex can be a healthy physical and psychological experience. Predicated on there not being unseen or unknown baggage motivating the behavior from negative roots, of course.
All this harping about oh those sluts or oh that's filthy I don't want to be like that...realize that's PROGRAMMING and SOCIALIZATION put on you by our incredibly repressed, religious, straight white male controlled society. Free yourself of that thinking, clear up your own emotional baggage, and then, if you don't want to have casual sex...that's fine - but you'll stop judging others for having it and being perfectly fine with it.
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Oct 26, 2008 12:22 PM GMT
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kind of a silly question
like asking "why does it rain"?
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Oct 26, 2008 1:20 PM GMT
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Thanks, RunintheCity, for being a sane voice in this thread.
In reference to the OP of this thread, I don't think the question you're asking is, "Why do guys hook up?" so much as it is, "Why did my ex lie to me about his pre-dating-me hook-up history?"
Everyone has their own set of values. Guys hook up because "hooking-up" is compatible with their values. Why do some people think cyber-sex isn't sex, or "cheating"? Why do people continue to support big-box stores? Why do some people not recycle? Why does that person drive so slow in the fast lane, at the speed limit?
I'm pretty sure I know where the "saving myself" idea came from. Why it's there though, I don't know.
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Oct 26, 2008 2:22 PM GMT
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Why? Just as easily ask, "Why not?"
The answer is the same as the reason you (and others) don't.
Because they want to. Because they're personal moral system doesn't require it. Because they don't equate sex with emotional intimacy. Because because because.
Because they want to and it fits in with their own personal belief system, just like you.
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Oct 26, 2008 3:00 PM GMT
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RunintheCity said
All this harping about oh those sluts or oh that's filthy I don't want to be like that...realize that's PROGRAMMING and SOCIALIZATION put on you by our incredibly repressed, religious, straight white male controlled society. Free yourself of that thinking, clear up your own emotional baggage, and then, if you don't want to have casual sex...that's fine - but you'll stop judging others for having it and being perfectly fine with it. That's why I spammed this from the start.... |
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Oct 26, 2008 3:45 PM GMT
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I guess I'm a women cause I'd like to have more than just a physical connection with a guy I have sex with.
The only thing I care about casual sex in gay culture is its negative affect on gay rights.... i.g. family reseach council, and focus on the family using promiscuity against gays.Yes, those group will always find stuff to bash our community... I just think more people would think differently about gays if they were precieved in different ways... instead of getting arrested while fucking in a public park.
go- have all the meaningless sex you want...Str8 guys/ and girls have meaningless sex too, yes. But most of them eventually settle down to start a family with one person... unless they go cheat on their spouse.
ughhh scratch everything i've said lol...
I dunno there are too many factors... I don't judge those who have random sex... i just don't condone it or find myself in a bathhouse anytime soon. Maybe that'll change But if that makes me a women... so be it. I'm a sensitive guy anyways.
I need to go do my nails......
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Oct 26, 2008 3:46 PM GMT
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cjcscuba1984 saidHell, I'll say it... I think EXCESSIVE promiscuous sex by gay men, all throughout history and still today, has hurt and/or delayed our chances for equal rights. Why do I think that? Damn I could write a 15-page thesis paper on that subject. lol What about the "excessive promiscuous" sex by heterosexual men? |
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Oct 26, 2008 3:52 PM GMT
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We think it's a bit narrow to think of hooking up as a gay phenomenon.
It's very popular among straights and always has been. That said, it's more common among gays, and appears even more so by their far smaller demographic.
It is wrong? No!
However, there are now and then certain lengths a person will go to, to get a successful hook-up, such as misrepresenting their intentions. Some present themselves as the LTR type to get their jollies with those that that don't usually hook up.
....and that's wrong. We've both found that the idea of 'saving' one's self for the right man is often to precisely avoid the above dishonesty.
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Oct 26, 2008 3:57 PM GMT
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Hooking up is a sport. Do we pathologize playing badminton?
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Oct 26, 2008 3:59 PM GMT
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First off, it's men in general my friend. Don't think for a second straight men wouldn't be having more sex if women were more like men. It's more obvious in the gay community because it's easier for us...period. Why do it? Well assuming you're not using sex in an unhealthy or destructive manner, it can be incredibly fun and satisfying if you keep it in perspective. I don't hook up nearly as often as many of my friends but they aren't leaving a light on for me at the monastery either  Granted, sometimes casual sex can be a bit of a let down. There are those times though when you end up with that guy you never thought was in to you and it's ever bit as incredible as you imagined...hot, passionate, sweaty, intense, exhausting. I wouldn't take those times back for anything, and there's nothing wrong with enjoying if for what's it worth as long as you're safe and not hurting anyone in the process. |
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Oct 26, 2008 3:59 PM GMT
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MunchingZombie saidcjcscuba1984 saidHell, I'll say it... I think EXCESSIVE promiscuous sex by gay men, all throughout history and still today, has hurt and/or delayed our chances for equal rights. Why do I think that? Damn I could write a 15-page thesis paper on that subject. lol
What about the "excessive promiscuous" sex by heterosexual men? Read my second post.... i wrote "scratch everything I said." Anyways, ya I know. But the Christian Right doesn't concentrate of hetero cheaters and promiscuous single heteros..... They concentrate on our community! Wrong I know But it's a complicated issue i only hope that when we can marry... more guys will settle down-- Honestly, when i frist came out (to myself that is), I thought I was a whore/slut for being gay. I had always heard jokes about promiscuious gay men and that the HIV/AIDS crisis wouldn't be are bad as it is today if more gay men had partners and didn't cheat. Not entirely true... but that's what I was hearing. |
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Oct 26, 2008 4:01 PM GMT
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obscenewish saidHooking up is a sport. Do we pathologize playing badminton? Bad! Bad bad minton! You need a spanking. |
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Oct 26, 2008 4:01 PM GMT
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bwg77 said,
"I wouldn't take those times back for anything, and there's nothing wrong with enjoying if for what's it worth as long as you're safe and not hurting anyone in the process."
BINGO!
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Oct 26, 2008 4:07 PM GMT
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I agree with the "judgemental" argument. Most discrimination, hate mongering and fear of those different than ourselves stems from the judgemental attitude that people who don't act, think or look like us are inherently "bad".
It is actually refreshing to see that some of the younger guys have a more "one man man" attitude toward sex and relationships however, you can still have that view about relationships and not necessarily NOT have sex for the pure fun of it! Sex is a normal part of being human and everyone has the drive to do it, though some more than others. Do what you feel is right for you, just don't judge other people because they choose to heed the call of nature.
You can argue FOR anyway you wish, experience, perfecting technique, horniness, whatever.....just be educated and responsible. That's what our kids need to learn early in their adolescence and why sex education should be taught in schools no matter what! Just because you might be part of a conservative religious family and don't believe in having sex before marriage doesn't mean you don't need to be educated about it and most conservative families won't even talk about it at home so where are kids supposed to learn accurate information about sex and how to protect themselves.....anyway, I'm getting off the subject.
Point is, do what you want that's right for you but don't judge others if they do something different and if you meet someone who pushes you to have sex and you don't want to, don't! He'll either understand or he won't. If he doesn't move on, he wasn't right for you no matter how much you "love" him.
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Oct 26, 2008 4:28 PM GMT
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diverBad! Bad bad minton! You need a spanking. You are so right. And if that doesn't work, I probably need the truth drilled into me. I don't get the puritanical, binary thinking about recreational sex. It's not necessarily heartless, even if it's anonymous. As for the inevitable cautions about excess, any activity that gives pleasure has the potential for becoming compulsive. We live in a culture that is at once puritanical and obsessed with sex -- to the degree that we support a mega-billion-dollar porn industry while we use the government to control and limit one another's bodily pleasure. Psychology and religion still cooperate in making various sexual pleasures pathological and sinful. I see no evidence, by the way, that gay men are any more "promiscuous" than straight men. |
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Oct 26, 2008 4:29 PM GMT
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Shortnsexystud saidI agree with the "judgemental" argument. Most discrimination, hate mongering and fear of those different than ourselves stems from the judgemental attitude that people who don't act, think or look like us are inherently "bad". This. Live honestly, happily, and let others do the same. Just remember that while some people want to be married and monogomous, others want to be unmarried and promiscuous. AND some want to be married and promiscuous, and some want to be unmarried and monogomous (and all in between). The thing is not to judge, but to be honest about what you do and why with your partners so they have the ability to make choices like you have. |
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Oct 26, 2008 4:37 PM GMT
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"The thing is not to judge, but to be honest about what you do and why with your partners so they have the ability to make choices like you have."
DiverScience that's classy.
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Oct 26, 2008 4:47 PM GMT
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cjcscuba1984 saidRead my second post.... i wrote "scratch everything I said."
Anyways, ya I know. But the Christian Right doesn't concentrate of hetero cheaters and promiscuous single heteros..... They concentrate on our community! Wrong I know But it's a complicated issue
i only hope that when we can marry... more guys will settle down--
Honestly, when i frist came out (to myself that is), I thought I was a whore/slut for being gay. I had always heard jokes about promiscuious gay men and that the HIV/AIDS crisis wouldn't be are bad as it is today if more gay men had partners and didn't cheat. Not entirely true... but that's what I was hearing. We posted within a minute of each other, I missed your second post. Ultimately, I don't think we need to alter our behavior to please the Christian Right. That is called a false compromise(Thanks TigerTim!) and we don't win when we do that. We do win when we question the status quo and make the rights calls to a perceived normalcy irrelevant. There is nothing wrong with the way we love and the way we live. So they can take Leviticus and shove it up their pooper. So, from what you were hearing. Fuck them. You are not a slut. You are a worthwhile person free to live his life has is natural. So enjoy. |
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Oct 26, 2008 4:57 PM GMT
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The Krazy Kristians can go to hell. I start worrying about what they think...oh wait, never.
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Oct 26, 2008 7:15 PM GMT
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obscenewish said
You are so right. And if that doesn't work, I probably need the truth drilled into me.
I don't get the puritanical, binary thinking about recreational sex. It's not necessarily heartless, even if it's anonymous. As for the inevitable cautions about excess, any activity that gives pleasure has the potential for becoming compulsive.
We live in a culture that is at once puritanical and obsessed with sex -- to the degree that we support a mega-billion-dollar porn industry while we use the government to control and limit one another's bodily pleasure. Psychology and religion still cooperate in making various sexual pleasures pathological and sinful.
I see no evidence, by the way, that gay men are any more "promiscuous" than straight men.
Mmm truth drilling.
I just don't understand the resistance to "live and let live, just do it honestly." If you want a "meaningless" hook up, just say so, and if you only want "meaningful" intimacy laden sex, then... say so! Why is that so HARD (and not in the good way?) |
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Oct 26, 2008 7:25 PM GMT
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Diver I just don't understand the resistance to "live and let live, just do it honestly." If you want a "meaningless" hook up, just say so, and if you only want "meaningful" intimacy laden sex, then... say so! Why is that so HARD (and not in the good way?) Because it's in the culture. Pleasure for its own sake has been relatively taboo since the nation's founding, when Puritans would not even allow people to grow flowers in their gardens. Even sex within marriage for the sake of pleasure is a sin, according to a certain faith. Also, I don't think there's any broad incentive to admit, confess or describe one's personal hedonism. If you disclose it, it's expected that it is done so with the attitude of guilt. You even see that here in some posts, where people "approve" of hooking up but then immediately qualify the approval with stipulations. I've had a few clients over the years who came to see me because they were having affairs. When I asked if their mates knew, they said yes. I asked if their mates cared. They said, no, the mates weren't particularly concerned. "Then what is the problem?" I asked. Whereupon they exploded because they thought it was my job to help them comply with "norms" of monogamy. Referral time. |
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Oct 26, 2008 7:36 PM GMT
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obscenewish, you had us chuckling at that last when you said, "Whereupon they exploded because they thought it was my job to help them comply with "norms" of monogamy."
We've had that kind of explosion at us for being monogamous but accepting equally the validity of anything else. Apparently we're only supposed to approve of our type of relationship.
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Oct 26, 2008 7:53 PM GMT
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because it´s good for all involved
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Oct 26, 2008 8:00 PM GMT
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Humans are social animals and male animals need to get- off...I am amazed that many gay guys rather jackoff then be with another human being.
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Oct 26, 2008 8:11 PM GMT
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Alpha13 saidHumans are social animals and male animals need to get- off...I am amazed that many gay guys rather jackoff then be with another human being. I prefer to jackoff because of the social implications of hooking up. |
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Oct 26, 2008 8:25 PM GMT
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Some guys like to have a variety of male sexual partners. Others not so much. I fall into the second category, but I am not going to worry too much about the first group of guys. Getting equal rights is not going to change male sexual behaviour. Marriage certainly has never prevented straight men from straying and won't do anything for gay or bisexual men.
I don't see anything wrong with guys "hooking-up" as long as they are mature enough to know the price they are paying (and there is always price being paid no matter what we do). Of course if they have promised to be monogamous in a relationship and are hooking-up, and lying about it, then that could be a problem for their partner.
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Oct 26, 2008 8:37 PM GMT
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Gay sluts of the world unite!
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Oct 27, 2008 12:01 AM GMT
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Oct 27, 2008 12:02 AM GMT
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redheadguy saidGay sluts of the world unite! If we don't the gay puritans will chase us off to the old world. |
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Oct 27, 2008 1:10 AM GMT
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Instant gratification, I have bought many a pastel plaid to obtain this feeling so I know the intoxication!
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Oct 27, 2008 4:05 AM GMT
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Now that is a good-looking question. It's in human nature that drives us to get our sex on and have orgasms. If were not hooking up, we're jacking off. Plus, it has it's benefits. Emotional or not, it could serve as a social experience, relieves stress and you get practice too . And did I mention it was fun? There is nothing wrong with a little casual sex, as long as it is safe and not excessive. |
