pingpong saidMy dad's been dumping tens of thousands of dollars into my bank account every year to lower his income taxes. Keeps telling me I can't touch it, even though technically it's mine now But I've already been self sufficient for a couple years now.
I had a different experience. My Mother had told my sister & I that she had set aside millions for us. But when she died suddenly of a heart attack at 75 her standard will left everything to our Father, except for small token amounts for us, drawn when we were just children. She evidently thought she would outlive him as being 6 years her senior, but that didn't happen.
Our Father went wild with the money. We thought it might have been revenge against our Mother, as we knew he resented our Mother for being wealthier than him. And she was very tight with money, which was mostly hers. About which I must admit she often taunted him, even in our presence, that she had all the money, not him. Well now he had his revenge.
He had a string of mistresses (even at his age money will buy you anything), bought them homes and took them on luxury vacations, went to Vegas and acquired a gambling habit that lost him millions.
My sister & I discussed taking legal action, to have him declared incompetent. But that's expensive in itself, the outcome uncertain, our own position suspect. We decided to let him have his way, as both of us didn't need the money. (I could sure use it now, though)
When he died 4 years after our Mother the estate was depleted, and we each received only a few hundred thousand dollars, not the millions our Mother had promised us. But the ultimate insult came during his funeral.
My sister & I invited his last mistress to ride with us in the funeral home limousine to his internment in the mausoleum alongside our Mother. In the car she actually told me our Father had made cruise ship reservations for the 2 of them for the next month, and asked if she could have her ticket so she could still take the cruise by herself!
If that wasn't bad enough, she also said our Father had told her he would give her a fortune in his will, and requested would I make sure that would happen. She's telling me this as we're in a funeral procession to bury our Father! I thought my sister & I exercised the utmost in restraint in not throwing her out onto the sidewalk then & there.
Needless to say I gave her nothing (as my Father's legal Executor of his estate) since his will made no mention of her, or of any other of his mistresses. My sister & I got almost nothing, of the millions our Mother had promised us. I still love my late Father, he was a great dad, but in this thing he screwed his children, and ignored his wife's wishes regarding her fortune.