CollegeDude27 saidI have got no support from the gay community. All I have gotten is saasy attitude from a bunch of bitchy queens that like to do nothing but put other people down for every little thing and judge me for my looks likes interests. I don't fit the Football player/Model look they all desire.
Yeah, you're going to get shit.
Don't confuse the bar crowd with "the gay community." If you want to meet a broader spectrum of gay guys, you could start by joining gay interest clubs, sports teams, community centers, etc.
It's no surprise that guys are driven by sex and attractiveness, that's not unique to gay guys. You're a good looking guy but at 5'6" and 175 lbs., please forgive my saying so because I've only seen your profile pic, but you if you want to be one of those guys who immediately attracts other guys, you might lose some weight/work on your body a bit. It has the side benefit of making you feel like you've accomplished something.
And remember, no one owes you anything. You get from the universe what you put out into the universe, so make sure you're giving before you whine too much about what you're not getting.
you do realize that you're only confirming his feelings with what you wrote.
and i don't see where he's wrong with what he said. to be honest with you, i think that when the lgbt "community" gets accepted into the larger society where we intergrate with our straight peers and etc. you guys will be in for a rude awakening when you see that the world is NOT preoccupied with the same bullshit that we are. in the regular world, most people aren't so worried about their appearance or priding it like it's their everything. maybe teenagers and young adults but for the most part, people don't give a fuck about that. i think that some of you need to understand that what's mostly acceptable in the gay community is really NOT the way of the world outside of it. most people will think that you're a jackass if you're showing yourself off and etc. people will back away from you and think you're a loser.
in the regular world, someone like davey wavey would get laughed at for always not wearing a shirt. people are not so concerned with how you look.
Yes, Davey Wavey would get laughed at. But it's not true that people aren't so concerned with how you look. Guys are - straight guys looking for straight girls are fixated on hotness. In the business world being better looking is a definite advantage, too.
If OP is happy with how he looks, great, but I got a tinge of "I'm unhappy with the fact that I don't immediately attract other guys." Some of that is within his control if he wants to change it.
but see, straight guys are nowhere near as picky as gay guys are believe it or not. when it comes down to it, a straight woman whether she's attractive, ugly, fit or obese is more likely to get laid and/or have a boyfriend compared to a gay man so that's a bad comparison. try finding a straight female that is a virgin at 30 years old by choice. straight guys on the other hand have it easier than us as all they have to do is have confidence when approaching women. all they need to do is build the impression that they are someone to give a fuck about and they'll get a woman on their arm. it's also a numbers game too. i know this because i was trying to get a girlfriend at some point, could have had one but i had issues with my sexuality as in i was a closet case.
either way, straight people have their issues but they're NOWHERE near as chaotic as it is compared to gay people where it's a huge adjustment change.
gay people on the other hand make simple things complicated such as friendships. i've made gay friends but they make themselves distant to the point where you and them don't talk like that. however, if they're interested in dating you in some sort of way, they'll talk to you despite you and them JUST being friends. strange shit. you think they're just your friend but they want something more than that.
gay men will simply not interact with you if they don't think you're attractive enough to socialize with for some odd reason. even if it's in regards to being a friend, they won't talk.
i have tried to make gay friends with guys in my age group and i have a couple. the other ones who i thought were my friends turned out to not be interested because they just distance themselves away from me as soon as they found out that i wasn't entirely interested in dating them or didn't want to go in that direction. it's like WTF. the gay friends i do have are mostly older guys.
them and me just have simple conversations about life and etc. they understand that them and me are just friends where we can talk about everything and they're loyal. it just makes me wonder why that is though. the younger guys can't even interact with me on just a friendly level for the most part.
i can't simply just go up and date any guy or fuck them. i have to know them first and being that i'm entirely new to this whole experience. if i do decide to have sex when i'm ready to, i would like to have a friend with benefits and even that isn't going to happen right away as in i want to know him first. hang around him, go to the mall, shopping, go to dave and busters, the club and etc. i'm not about to just give it up like that.