The real of the gay community?

  • ignaceqbc

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    May 17, 2013 2:59 PM GMT
    i have no comment
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1bYpKKmbvE
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 17, 2013 3:12 PM GMT
    What he said in the video is the truth in my perception.

    Let me say several years ago I might have thought the same thing (about Asian guys). Pretty ignorant of me. There are many men of various races that are very nice looking and have much to offer. The idea of stating, "I don't date a specific race" says more about the commentator than anything else. We all have preferences... but to "exclude" ... no.
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    May 17, 2013 3:17 PM GMT
    As the saying goes...
    "When you stare only at a single tree, you'll miss the beauty of the forest behind it"
  • ignaceqbc

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    May 17, 2013 3:24 PM GMT
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fn8TzjLJIhc

  • May 17, 2013 4:39 PM GMT
    Yep, it is one of the reasons why all of the white guys I have wound up dating has approached me rather than me approach them...

    Most white American gay and bisexual males still possess a hang up about dating interracially. I do mean dating not fucking or hooking up...
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    May 17, 2013 9:14 PM GMT
    I see ALOT of gay guys of color, especially black and/black mixed guys complain about how white guys wont date them because they are not " white ", which is very true, however i have seen more often that guys within my racial category( black&mixedblack) seem to have no desire to even date their own race, I've been to gay clubs and attractive black guys only dance with white guys, i literally saw this one black guy dance with every white guy in the club and turn down other ethnic guys.
    Now i'm not saying we have to only date inside our race, i'm not promoting segregation or anything like that, but i feel its a problem when you want another group of people to except you when you wont even except your own group.
    In my own experience i have not been able to attract the black&blackmixed guys within my race that ive been interested in, they have all only wanted white guys, and ironically i have ended up having more guys outside of my race showing me interest and asking me out because of this.
  • Import

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    May 17, 2013 9:18 PM GMT
    would like to see more Black/Asian couples and more Asian/Asian couples. .

    I never see that, sadly. It's always white guy/blk guy or white guy/Asian guy
    I've seen a few "blk guy/blk guy and Latino/Latino. . .

    But NEVER do I see Asian on Asian man action or black on Asian man action.

    And I think thats a god damn shame.
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    May 17, 2013 9:52 PM GMT
    I prefer my guys with a good amount of melanin in their bodies. If you don't have any, or is low on it, or need sun to give you the look of high levels of melanin. I won't date you.
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    May 17, 2013 11:09 PM GMT
    Well I will be that person who stand out from the crowd and say I will only date a white guy. Sure I find other races attractive in the same way I can tell you a woman is attractive. But I wouldn't want to date them and I really wouldn't want to hookup with them. And if someone else black feels the same way that's on them cause I'm not checking for them any damn way. Does it annoy me more white guys don't date black guys? On some level yes. I can't help thought that I really only find one particular race attractive in general. And let's end this 'you haven't met everyone of every race' bullshit. That's like saying 'well you haven't met every fem or mas guy' or 'you haven't met every fat or slim person'. You and I both know exactly what someone is talking about. Don't act like you're suddenly brain dead.

    Why is it someone can get praised for finding ethnic men attractive and openly stating this preference and yet people who exclusively like white men get called racists or self haters? Liberal 90's style 'everyone is awesome' style bullshit. Yes there are different things you get from dating different types of men be they a different race, religion, income bracket, etc. And some people like myself like what they get by dating white men or having a higher chance of getting what they are looking for in dating a white guy. Some people like myself are looking for a very specific type of guy and seeing as there's more whites than anything else (for now) numbers will tell you that you have a better chance of finding that in the Caucasian dating pool.

    Also has anyone thought well maybe there's more openly gay white men than men of color? At least where I live most of the open ones are white and if there are of color they are drag queens or men in the process of further understanding and redefining their gender identity. It's easier to find an openly gay white man with no hang ups or issues about his sexuality than it is to find a black man who is the same. Hell most of the black men I've met on this site alone still have issues in that regard aside from like maybe three or four.

    Let's also not discount that certain people from some racial and ethnic groups carry certain baggage. Hell even I'm guilty of this at times. I'm moving past it though. I'm all for awareness but shit some black guys are downright bitter about their situation. I get the bitterness and I empathize but that doesn't mean I want it around me. Yes there are plenty of black men who are not this way bit again its a numbers game. i can easily find a white guy I can be happy with who isnt like that. And why should sift through the people I dislike to find the few that are differenta? If I already know what I like what is the point? I don't have a lot of experience with Latino, Asian or other racial ethnic groups and I don't want to. Why must we all expand our horizons beyond what we are actually into? That's nothing but PC liberal bullshit.

    And last but not least what if someone just isn't attracted to other or their own race? Call it a preference or whatever you want but I'm beyond giving a shit about what other people like. If a white guy won't date me because I'm black I'll get upset and get over it. I won't harp on it and I just move on.
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    May 17, 2013 11:10 PM GMT
    this might come off offensive and i apologize if it does but i don't get what's the hype about white guys to the point where nonwhite gay guys are going crazy over them. icon_mad.gif sure, i'd date a white guy as i don't give a fuck about skin color, ethnicity and etc BUT i'm sick and tired of hearing folks talking as if white guys are so special. they're just like everybody else.
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    May 17, 2013 11:22 PM GMT
    MisfitToy saidWell I will be that person who stand out from the crowd and say I will only date a white guy. Sure I find other races attractive in the same way I can tell you a woman is attractive. But I wouldn't want to date them and I really wouldn't want to hookup with them. And if someone else black feels the same way that's on them cause I'm not checking for them any damn way.


    I'm the opposite.
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    May 17, 2013 11:33 PM GMT
    likan said
    MisfitToy saidWell I will be that person who stand out from the crowd and say I will only date a white guy. Sure I find other races attractive in the same way I can tell you a woman is attractive. But I wouldn't want to date them and I really wouldn't want to hookup with them. And if someone else black feels the same way that's on them cause I'm not checking for them any damn way.


    I'm the opposite.


    So you only date people of your own race?

    And yet you've gotten on me for saying I will only date white guys.....
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    May 18, 2013 12:36 AM GMT
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    Mesmer saidI prefer my guys with a good amount of melanin in their bodies. If you don't have any, or is low on it, or need sun to give you the look of high levels of melanin. I won't date you.
    thank god.



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  • ignaceqbc

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    May 18, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    i didn`t see any comments for this, or may be i didn`t see it??

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fn8TzjLJIhc
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    May 18, 2013 10:11 AM GMT
    MisfitToy said
    likan said
    MisfitToy saidWell I will be that person who stand out from the crowd and say I will only date a white guy. Sure I find other races attractive in the same way I can tell you a woman is attractive. But I wouldn't want to date them and I really wouldn't want to hookup with them. And if someone else black feels the same way that's on them cause I'm not checking for them any damn way.


    I'm the opposite.


    So you only date people of your own race?

    And yet you've gotten on me for saying I will only date white guys.....


    No, it's just that i'm not drawn to white guys. And I don't care if you only date white guys, it's sometimes the way you speak about black people and yourself that I've commented on.
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    May 18, 2013 10:28 AM GMT
    Meh! this should be in the "Racism in the gay community (thread #534)" thread.

  • May 18, 2013 6:27 PM GMT
    CopperDevil said I see ALOT of gay guys of color, especially black and/black mixed guys complain about how white guys wont date them because they are not " white ", which is very true, however i have seen more often that guys within my racial category( black&mixedblack) seem to have no desire to even date their own race, I've been to gay clubs and attractive black guys only dance with white guys, i literally saw this one black guy dance with every white guy in the club and turn down other ethnic guys.
    Now i'm not saying we have to only date inside our race, i'm not promoting segregation or anything like that, but i feel its a problem when you want another group of people to except you when you wont even except your own group.
    In my own experience i have not been able to attract the black&blackmixed guys within my race that ive been interested in, they have all only wanted white guys, and ironically i have ended up having more guys outside of my race showing me interest and asking me out because of this.


    I concur 100%. However, it might have something to do with your locale. I've heard about Raleigh, and how so many black dudes there do seem to like anything but other black guys. You might need to slide up I-40 to Durham although it is smaller you might have much better luck.
  • ignaceqbc

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    May 19, 2013 10:45 AM GMT
    Import said would like to see more Black/Asian couples and more Asian/Asian couples. .

    I never see that, sadly. It's always white guy/blk guy or white guy/Asian guy
    I've seen a few "blk guy/blk guy and Latino/Latino. . .

    But NEVER do I see Asian on Asian man action or black on Asian man action.

    And I think thats a god damn shame.


    i put the video taken from youtube. this is a good video, cause i don`t think this is only a fake or just for making a public senstion. I don`t speak chinese, i don`t understand what they talking about. but seeing the style of the video. it is a true story. The problem is western style couple is open so you can find easily but NOT in the gay asian-asian gay couple.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iKctd0qFlfc
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    May 19, 2013 11:04 AM GMT
    good vid
  • Aodhan

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    May 19, 2013 11:40 AM GMT
    he is hot, nothing to worry about. I'd totally date him .America is so obsessed with race, it confuses me so much.
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    May 19, 2013 11:47 AM GMT
    ActualAodhan said...America is so obsessed with race, it confuses me so much.


    +1
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    May 19, 2013 12:53 PM GMT
    gayinterest said
    ActualAodhan said...America is so obsessed with race, it confuses me so much.


    +1

    You imply that this racism is an American problem.

    It's not. It's just as bad -- if not worse -- in the UK. Of course, you wouldn't know about it.
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    May 19, 2013 12:58 PM GMT

    http://youtu.be/-sZMJ_-xqn4

    With the above video and this one from the same youtube producer, I'm concluding this is an interesting collection of uploads.
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    May 19, 2013 1:02 PM GMT
    nevz said
    gayinterest said
    ActualAodhan said...America is so obsessed with race, it confuses me so much.


    +1

    You imply that this racism is an American problem.

    It's not. It's just as bad -- if not worse -- in the UK. Of course, you wouldn't know about it.


    hah! How can you assume that? I live in one of the most multi-culturally diverse cities on the planet. London, in fact, is thought to be less than 50% Caucasian.

    Just because I'm white, doesn't mean I have no idea about racism. I lived in Islamabad when I was a kid and was subjected to both verbal - and even physical on one occasion - abuse. White people can be subject to prejudice also.

    Such a minority victim-complex you have.

    The UK, sure, has racism. Look up the EDL or the BNP. But there is far more racial integration in the UK than in the US.
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    May 19, 2013 1:04 PM GMT
    Import said would like to see more Black/Asian couples and more Asian/Asian couples. .

    I never see that, sadly. It's always white guy/blk guy or white guy/Asian guy
    I've seen a few "blk guy/blk guy and Latino/Latino. . .

    But NEVER do I see Asian on Asian man action or black on Asian man action.

    And I think thats a god damn shame.



    We are rare couples indeed. I have two friends in Fransico who been together for 4 years black/asian


    and my bf is asian .