I met a real virgin

  • jayatl56

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    May 17, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    What do you propose when you meet a guy who is 100% total virgin? Never kissed a guy, never slept with a guy, never nothing with a guy.

    Ok, he's much younger than me - a real country boy - he says he's known since he was young that he was attracted to guys older than him. Now at 21 he's looking to meet someone and low and behold I happen along.

    Sex the first time was interesting, to say the least. He came in a few seconds. He has no idea how to kiss and giggles a lot (I'm sure that's a nervous response).

    He's very very mature for a 21 year old. A good conversationalist and just a lot of fun. But then he doesn't know how to behave in or out of bed. He won't approach (reach out to) me. He'll sit on the sofa with his arms crossed. As we go to the bedroom he asks "do you have condoms?" as though I would go any other way.

    He doesn't like the idea of having a tongue in his mouth so I told him to Google how to French kiss. His idea of sex is bam bam (three seconds later...) thank you sir and that's it. He hasn't touched me anywhere except penetration.

    So the question is: get out while the getting is good or at least work with him and let him enjoy the experience? I'm afraid, however, that doing that might hurt his feelings because he might get too emotionally attached.
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    May 17, 2013 7:04 PM GMT
    All in good time me thinks! When I met my ex - there was 1.) a huge age difference and 2.) I was very inexperienced. I never kissed, held hands, or ever been in a relationship before. On top of that I flew across the other side of the U.S. to meet him, and none of my friends/family knew I was gay or where I was going. You can imagine me being nervous when I got there. I trembled and shook for the first couple of hours. It was so embarrassing haha icon_redface.gif

    Just let things flow as they should. No need to rush anything, really. I think as gay people we experience a lot of the dating scene late in life, and have to learn things a little later than others.

    Last thing, COMMUNICATE! Tell him exactly how you feel and what you're expecting from this. Be honest with him, and expect the same in return. You really do only have one life - so just live it!


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    May 17, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    I think virgins are more common in the gay community. Takes longer to accept ourselves, dating is more difficult to lack of options (depending on location), the emotional issues, etc.

    Unfortunately virginity is still heavily stigmatized by people. Not exactly sure why it's viewed as such a big deal.
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    May 17, 2013 9:37 PM GMT

    So did I!