QuasarMarauder7 saidTitle says it all, I don't know how to do it. Am I supposed to get noticed? Go chase after a guy? hit on him? what do I do to get a hot guy to talk to me? Is there something offensive about me? What is up with guys not responding to the messages? I'd really like some help and also I am new and slow to this whole dating game thing.
I read a fun article on Cracked.com a while back. The author made a very cogent point, which of course resonates with anyone who's given similar advice to others about being in control of your life: life sucks, the world doesn't owe you anything, nobody cares about you--until you make yourself valuable to others.
Want others to find you attractive? Be attractive. Someone who's genetically gifted (let's say, a supermodel) merely bathes to remain attractive. But suppose you're not a model; you have to work harder at being attractive--like, showering, grooming, working out to develop a tight body, having a high-paying job and a nice ride...and being a tiger in the sack. It's work, sure, but you're not in competition with yourself (or for your mom's approval), you're in competition with three-and-a-half billion other men. Men who don't know you exist.
You can aim low, like me, who strives to be attractive for the ONE man who has my attention--which is still work, I might add, because the gym has lots of attractive, distracting guys--but that doesn't always work when you're trying to cast a net. Aim higher, then be happy with the fish you catch when it's on your hook.