Getting a Guy on Real Jock

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    May 18, 2013 12:42 AM GMT
    Title says it all, I don't know how to do it. Am I supposed to get noticed? Go chase after a guy? hit on him? what do I do to get a hot guy to talk to me? Is there something offensive about me? What is up with guys not responding to the messages? I'd really like some help and also I am new and slow to this whole dating game thing.
  • heyom

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    May 18, 2013 1:03 PM GMT
    ArdatYaksha said What is up with guys not responding to the messages?


    New to the game I see. icon_smile.gif No worries, you will get used to that type of thing ^_^
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    May 18, 2013 1:42 PM GMT
    ArdatYaksha saidTitle says it all, I don't know how to do it. Am I supposed to get noticed? Go chase after a guy? hit on him? what do I do to get a hot guy to talk to me? Is there something offensive about me? What is up with guys not responding to the messages? I'd really like some help and also I am new and slow to this whole dating game thing.


    Participate in the Forum posts and share your opinions on them. By doing this, you are giving people to read your opinions, understand you as a person. Express a lot about you in your profile.
    Have a good close up pic of your face. Hope this helps. RJ is a great place to be with a lot of wise hearted men around.
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    May 18, 2013 4:20 PM GMT
    QuasarMarauder7 saidTitle says it all, I don't know how to do it. Am I supposed to get noticed? Go chase after a guy? hit on him? what do I do to get a hot guy to talk to me? Is there something offensive about me? What is up with guys not responding to the messages? I'd really like some help and also I am new and slow to this whole dating game thing.

    I read a fun article on Cracked.com a while back. The author made a very cogent point, which of course resonates with anyone who's given similar advice to others about being in control of your life: life sucks, the world doesn't owe you anything, nobody cares about you--until you make yourself valuable to others.

    Want others to find you attractive? Be attractive. Someone who's genetically gifted (let's say, a supermodel) merely bathes to remain attractive. But suppose you're not a model; you have to work harder at being attractive--like, showering, grooming, working out to develop a tight body, having a high-paying job and a nice ride...and being a tiger in the sack. It's work, sure, but you're not in competition with yourself (or for your mom's approval), you're in competition with three-and-a-half billion other men. Men who don't know you exist.

    You can aim low, like me, who strives to be attractive for the ONE man who has my attention--which is still work, I might add, because the gym has lots of attractive, distracting guys--but that doesn't always work when you're trying to cast a net. Aim higher, then be happy with the fish you catch when it's on your hook.
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    May 18, 2013 4:27 PM GMT
    for starters...

    that testimonial you have written about yourself in your profile, is really, really, really bizarre.
  • tuffguyndc

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    May 18, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    yeah that seems to be the norm on a lot of sites. however, you have just keep it going buddy. eventually you will get the right guy to speak to you
  • Saffron69

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    May 18, 2013 7:43 PM GMT
    Dude there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. I read your profile it was thoughtful and honest. Remember this cause it will save u a lot of grief... online anything turns people into dickheads. Finding Quality men online is like looking for gold in a terd mound. Even a hottie like me strikes out on this site... well my case is different, RJ n most of its members discriminate against closeted guys who don't show thier faces immediately. But back to your woes... I strongly suggest u don't completely rely on online dating to find men around the gym is a great place to start. Other place that interest u as well... You can't be the only hot gay guy aroundicon_biggrin.gif
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    May 18, 2013 7:50 PM GMT
    Maybe keep your profile text shorter and sweet to the point.

    I gave up after second paragraph, but keep smiling and its a nice one you have mate.

    besides your only 18, what's the rush.
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    May 18, 2013 7:52 PM GMT
    who is this cubsben and where can I get one?

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    May 18, 2013 7:55 PM GMT
    RJ isn't really set up as a dating site. The active members are spread out all across the globe. If you're really interested in finding a date, you'd be better off on a site dedicated to that purpose.

    The tips for dating on RJ aren't any different than any other site. You can do a search for hints about how to write a good profile and show your best side. But it really comes down to attraction, and you can't control or predict that.
  • Joeyphx444

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    May 18, 2013 8:01 PM GMT
    VenkyJock said
    ArdatYaksha saidTitle says it all, I don't know how to do it. Am I supposed to get noticed? Go chase after a guy? hit on him? what do I do to get a hot guy to talk to me? Is there something offensive about me? What is up with guys not responding to the messages? I'd really like some help and also I am new and slow to this whole dating game thing.


    Participate in the Forum posts and share your opinions on them. By doing this, you are giving people to read your opinions, understand you as a person. Express a lot about you in your profile.
    Have a good close up pic of your face. Hope this helps. RJ is a great place to be with a lot of wise hearted men around.


    Yah as long as you conform to the general attitudes and political agenda of the forums icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 18, 2013 8:08 PM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidYah as long as you conform to the general attitudes and political agenda of the forums icon_rolleyes.gif

    I love how you cleverly disguised your post to the OP to remind him not to sound bitter because that's a big turn-off. Great advice. icon_wink.gif
  • Aodhan

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    May 18, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    Its kind of impossible for me!

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    Well not impossible but all the guys I like are in different countries far away ..
  • HottJoe

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    May 18, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said
    Joeyphx444 saidYah as long as you conform to the general attitudes and political agenda of the forums icon_rolleyes.gif

    I love how you cleverly disguised your post to the OP to remind him not to sound bitter because that's a big turn-off. Great advice. icon_wink.gif


    I love how you were all over that like a hooker on a crack pipe.icon_smile.gif
  • HottJoe

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    May 18, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
    $$$
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    May 18, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
    HottJoe said$$$

    And noodz.
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    May 18, 2013 9:38 PM GMT
    Guys^ in committed^ relationships^ need to go...icon_mad.gif

    Edit: Not you DIN...lol
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    May 18, 2013 9:54 PM GMT
    Go to a4a. Hook up with some local guy who thinks your'e hot. After meeting him or having sex, if he wants to meet you again and calls you the next day... Walla you have a boyfriend!

    Might have an std too but you can't win em all!
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    May 18, 2013 9:55 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidEdit: Not you DIN...lol

    No one thought you meant me. icon_neutral.gif
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    May 18, 2013 10:02 PM GMT
    Awww....you, too, will have your moment in the sun.....icon_wink.gif
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    May 18, 2013 11:09 PM GMT
    ataraxiathat testimonial you have written about yourself in your profile, is really, really, really bizarre.

    I will re-word it, and is it bad to write testimonial's about yourself

    Saffron69You can't be the only hot gay guy around
    Thank you! icon_smile.gif

    Joeyphx444Yah as long as you conform to the general attitudes and political agenda of the forums
    What are the popular traits of conformity on here, I will not confirm, I never do, but I'm just curious, and I can look for these traits to avoid the conformist, if the traits are too bad.
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    May 18, 2013 11:13 PM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said
    turbobilly saidEdit: Not you DIN...lol

    No one thought you meant me. icon_neutral.gif


    sad

    correct but sad--lovya DIN


    @turbobilly--why you got'a hate.
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    May 18, 2013 11:16 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    DudeInNOVA said
    turbobilly saidEdit: Not you DIN...lol

    No one thought you meant me. icon_neutral.gif


    sad

    correct but sad--lovya DIN


    @turbobilly--why you got'a hate.


    No hatin'....DIN get his moment in the sun and he be complaining he left his SPF at home....icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Nayro

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    May 18, 2013 11:20 PM GMT
    I'm talking regularly with a few really nice guys on here. They also happen to be hot. I gave up on chasing on all the hot guys.. Just become friends with the ones who are open to it.
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    May 18, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidNo hatin'....DIN get his moment in the sun and he be complaining he left his SPF at home....icon_rolleyes.gif

    Damn! I was just going to make that same joke. icon_lol.gif

    #NoComicTiming