Going out looking for /expecting something?

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    Oct 26, 2008 10:26 AM GMT
    Is it just a asking for rejection?


    I never normally do this but I figured if the programming office is going to lump the gay population of a university with 30,000 people in to a hot sweaty room with loud music. I can put on my sluttiest underwear and least manage to get something out of it...

    I managed to hit on three straight people and one turned 17 last week year old.... A new worst record for me.

    As for those that hit on me I have three qualifying critera, which i don't think is much to ask.

    1. A face that resembles human
    2. At least some ass and not anorexic looking
    3. Ability to conduct yourself with dignity in public by which i mean not being shirtless 5 minutes after entering the club, not dripping sweat or spilling your drink on me and introducing yourself before you try to stick your hand down my pants or tongue down my throat.

    and enough isn't enough I get to hear what I'm not having going onnext door.

    I need to get laid (this is the end of my drunk rant you can all go back to your lives)



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    Oct 26, 2008 10:51 AM GMT
    I. Trump. You.

    hehe
    I always find that the best nights are the ones when you go out without expectations.
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    Oct 26, 2008 10:56 AM GMT
    I second that notion

    The smell of desperation usually makes men run the other way
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    Oct 26, 2008 12:49 PM GMT
    Take up the challenge friend. Lay one of those straight people. Rohypnol works wonders!
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    Oct 26, 2008 1:06 PM GMT
    AMT87 saidIs it just a asking for rejection? [CLIP]
    I managed to hit on three straight people and one turned 17 last week year old.... A new worst record for me.


    Not sure how much of your "drunk rant" is literal, but what you could be asking for is jail. Enforcement of US laws regarding minors has become more active in recent years, and I read story after story of busts for messing with anyone under 18, especially where gay men are concerned.

    Not that you said you actually did anything, and what your "hit" consisted of, but we all need to be careful. I won't even chat online with under 18, nor if there's no Profile age recorded with an online service or some other screening mechanism for age is in place.
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    Oct 26, 2008 10:18 PM GMT
    GQjock said
    The smell of desperation usually makes men run the other way


    Or those are the ones you fuck and never call back.
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    Oct 26, 2008 10:55 PM GMT
    Expecting anything is a sure way to end up disappointed. I've given up. I'm done looking for guys intentionally. I cant have the one I want so I'll end up disappointed. I've decided to end all expectations and just let what happens, happen. I think it's best anyways. If someone wants me, they can get my attention by asking and making me feel loved. I assume I'll get over or move on from Mr. Perfect by appreciating and eventually loving someone that wants me like crazy. SOOOOOOOOO...when is that going to happen? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 26, 2008 11:05 PM GMT
    Don't expect anything. If you really need or want sex go to a sex addicts anonymous meeting. They're real vulnerable there.

    If that's all you want is to get laid then do it. Then don't complain years later that you can't find someone to settle down with because you were a slut.
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    Oct 26, 2008 11:13 PM GMT
    I expect to get laid when I go out and I sometimes get laid. It's pretty awesome. But I take risks and go up to anyone and bare a lot of rejection before I get accepted.
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    Oct 26, 2008 11:20 PM GMT
    Why so desperate to get laid? It is not as if you are hard on the eyes, and you are young, so chances are all you have to do is show up and you will get your share of attention.

    As for coming on to straight guys, I am not sure why you want to do that. It is a waste of time. I guess I remember how I felt if women hit on me. I felt uncomfortable and it often put a bit of a damper on having a good time.

    Anyways, go to the club with your mind set on having a good time, meeting new people and if you hook-up with a good looking guy, then all the better. Oh BTW I assume you have enough of your faculties when drunk to practice safer sex. Not all guys do, some black out.
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    Oct 27, 2008 12:03 AM GMT
    I'm not desperate I'm frustrated

    It was a university quarterly dance for gay people with a theme of dress up in some form of underwear and call it a halloween costume.

    I don't know how I even managed to find three straight guys there to hit on unsuspecting girls and a 17 year old.

    As for getting laid I would have been content to round first base but I well and truly struck out. icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 27, 2008 12:12 AM GMT
    Hmmm, let me try to interpret drunkspeak for those of you who obviously didn't "get it".

    He did not intentionally hit on 3 straight guys and a 17-year-old. He hit on 4 guys at an on-campus gay event; 3 of them turned out to be straight and one turned out to be 17. That's why he's bummed out (duh). And for the language challenged, "hit on" means "spoke to in the hopes that something would come of it".

    I agree that going out with no expectations is best, and going out "looking for something" is a great way to be disappointed. But sometimes it's that or nothing. I've been told I'm not hard on the eyes either, and aside from the (very few) times I've been desperate enough to show up at a place like that looking for something, I have not been approached by an interested man in over 15 years. Most of the time even in gay bars I don't get approached. Maybe this is not how it works for you guys, but if I don't make a move, I sit at home alone. And most of the time even if I do.
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    Oct 27, 2008 12:36 AM GMT
    Damn, I just read that back and I sound pretty fucking pathetic. Believe me, guys, I really do enjoy my life. Honest. But I've had to find things other than companionship to fill it up with.

    AMT87, best of luck. Take it slow. Nothing has to happen right now this minute.
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    Oct 27, 2008 12:52 AM GMT
    AMT87 saidI'm not desperate I'm frustrated

    It was a university quarterly dance for gay people with a theme of dress up in some form of underwear and call it a halloween costume.

    I don't know how I even managed to find three straight guys there to hit on unsuspecting girls and a 17 year old.

    As for getting laid I would have been content to round first base but I well and truly struck out. icon_confused.gif


    I guess this goes to show you that straights becoming more comfortable around gays is not all peaches and cream! No straight guy would come within a mile of a gay underwear party when I was going to them in the early 90s. When I went to the parties there was no confusion who was who.

    As for strucking out, any gay guy that has often frequented clubs or parties strikes out more often then scores. There is no rhyme or reason why some nights work out and others don't. When I was single I would go to a gay bar with no expectations, and meet up with a guy. Other times when I was horny as hell, I would go home by myself and have to become self-sufficent. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 27, 2008 1:01 AM GMT

    What the guy next door got probably wasn't all that great anyway.