Gah, what should i say to him? So nervous...

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    May 18, 2013 10:15 PM GMT
    What are some good ice breakers?

    I need some tips, rj. My friend tried setting me up with one of her med student guy friends once and i said something that i found incrediy funny that he totally did not understand and that was that... Word got to my friend and she immediately asked me "WTF!!??" Needless to say, i wanna step up my game.

    I have a list sitting on my nightstand with the nicknames of all the hotties at my gym that I'm already mentally committed to and in long-term relationship status' with. First thing's first, though... I gotta break the ice.. I've asked one where he got his watch after nearly staring a hole through him, today..

    I asked another if we went to elementary school together because he looked "familiar" icon_rolleyes.gif......... And i got the number and email of another by baiting him with a pdf file of a routine that i have.. We texted and i mustered the courage to ask if he was gay and he said no and then two months later, i texted him out the blue and told him i had a dream about him in which he looked like an angel (exact words).

    he replied: "not cool".

    I at least pat myself on the back because i made the effort. I'm a bigger man because of it and have the gains to prove it.

    Now, how do i get the man?

    tl;dr: i want the D.
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    May 18, 2013 10:26 PM GMT
    st0ne saidWhat are some good ice breakers?

    I need some tips, rj. My friend tried setting me up with one of her med student guy friends once and i said something that i found incrediy funny that he totally did not understand and that was that... Word got to my friend and she immediately asked me "WTF!!??" Needless to say, i wanna step up my game.

    I have a list sitting on my nightstand with the nicknames of all the hotties at my gym that I'm already mentally committed and in as long-term relationship with them. First thing is first, though... I gotta break the ice.. I've asked one where he got his watch after nearly staring a whole through him..

    I asked another if we went to elementary school together because he looked "familiar"......... I at least pat myself on the back because i made the effort. I'm a bigger man because of it and have the gains to prove it.

    Now, how do i get the man?



    Okay first, not going to lie, that's a bit Cray, actually no, that's a lot cray.

    Second, I understand that humor is a good thing, but what I like to do If I don't have the slightest clue about them, on a first date is to be charming, and think before you speak.

    Smile like you have a secret, and play with your eyes, be a little mysterious. I personally think guys who are not an open book to be more desirable, and fascinating.

    And third. Stop being CRAY. icon_mad.gif

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    May 18, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    Mesmer said
    st0ne saidWhat are some good ice breakers?

    I need some tips, rj.


    on a first date be charming, and think before you speak.

    Smile like you have a secret, and play with your eyes, be a little mysterious. I personally think guys who are not an open book to be more desirable, and fascinating.



    Really? I have lots of secrets. But which one's do i keep???
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    May 18, 2013 10:33 PM GMT
    st0ne said
    Mesmer said
    st0ne saidWhat are some good ice breakers?

    I need some tips, rj.


    on a first date be charming, and think before you speak.

    Smile like you have a secret, and play with your eyes, be a little mysterious. I personally think guys who are not an open book to be more desirable, and fascinating.



    Really? I have lots of secrets. But which one's do i keep???



    Boy, do you know how to flirt? I think you need to get on the basics.
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    May 18, 2013 10:42 PM GMT
    Mesmer said
    st0ne said
    Mesmer said
    st0ne saidWhat are some good ice breakers?

    I need some tips, rj.


    on a first date be charming, and think before you speak.

    Smile like you have a secret, and play with your eyes, be a little mysterious. I personally think guys who are not an open book to be more desirable, and fascinating.



    Really? I have lots of secrets. But which one's do i keep???



    Boy, do you know how to flirt? I think you need to get on the basics.


    Well, i think i do.. I mean, i think i can successfully fake it for just a few minutes before i go in for the closing. I live somewhat of a sheltered life. My approach is usually very direct and so i say "fake it" because i would have to cool my sh!t a bit before i go in and go hard like i automatically would; with guys at the gym, it would bode very well for me if i first broke the ice to find out if they at least stress their "s" when they speak before i begin to flirt.

    I skip the basics. I would be the one to approach a guy and tell him I've been staring at him from across the room and that he's taken my breath away because he's so beautiful and that I'd like to take him out to get to know him a bit, share workout tips and possibly spot each other in the future..

    I lay it on thick and mean every second of it along the way.

    I'm a romantic.

    In my mind, it all leads to passionate kissing in my car and marriage in the very near future.
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    May 18, 2013 10:44 PM GMT
    st0ne saidWe texted and i mustered the courage to ask if he was gay and he said no and then two months later, i texted him out the blue and told him i had a dream about him in which he looked like an angel (exact words).
    he replied: "not cool".
    Of course he did, because he's fucking straight, dumbass.
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    May 18, 2013 10:48 PM GMT
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    st0ne saidWe texted and i mustered the courage to ask if he was gay and he said no and then two months later, i texted him out the blue and told him i had a dream about him in which he looked like an angel (exact words).
    he replied: "not cool".
    Of course he did, because he's fucking straight, dumbass.


    Now, now... Let's not live up to the screename McQueen. No need to get hussy. He and i are still on a friendly basis and talk to each other when we cross paths at the gym from time to time. Maybe he is straight but just a very friendly, bearded guy, is all.
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    May 18, 2013 10:51 PM GMT
    st0ne said
    Mesmer said
    st0ne said
    Mesmer said
    st0ne saidWhat are some good ice breakers?

    I need some tips, rj.


    on a first date be charming, and think before you speak.

    Smile like you have a secret, and play with your eyes, be a little mysterious. I personally think guys who are not an open book to be more desirable, and fascinating.



    Really? I have lots of secrets. But which one's do i keep???



    Boy, do you know how to flirt? I think you need to get on the basics.


    Well, i think i do.. I mean, i think i can successfully fake it for just a few minutes before i go in for the closing. I live somewhat of a sheltered life. My approach is usually very direct and so i say "fake" it because i would have to cool my sh!t a bit before i go in and go hard like i automatically would; with guys at the gym, it would bode very well for me if i first broke the ice to find out if they at least stress their "s" when they speak before i begin to flirt.

    I skip the basics. I would be the one to approach a guy and tell him I've been staring at him from across the room and that he's taken my breath away because he's so beautiful and that I'd like to take him out to get to know him a bit an maybe share workout tips and possibly spot each other in the future..

    I'd lay it on thick and mean every second of it along the way.

    I'm a romantic.

    In my mind, it all leads to passionate kissing in my car and marriage in the very near future.



    The art of flirting doesn't mean fake, flirting is hints and signals that you are interested without actually saying you are interested.

    Clearly you're a romantic, that's the down side with romantics, they come on too strong for their own good.

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    May 18, 2013 10:55 PM GMT
    Say, Hey, This is crazy, I just met you, let's fuck in my car and get married. We can listen to whatever kind of music you want.
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    May 18, 2013 11:03 PM GMT
    #1 - Stop waxing your eyebrows. The lizard look is downright scary.

    #2 - Stop trying so hard. You don't need to memorize pick-up lines like a straight douchebag with a gold chain around his neck. Just be yourself and ask casual questions about the other person. Don't get too personal though. If you see them in the gym, ask about their workout routine.
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    May 18, 2013 11:03 PM GMT
    Mesmer said
    st0ne said
    Mesmer said
    st0ne said
    Mesmer said
    st0ne saidWhat are some good ice breakers?

    I need some tips, rj.


    on a first date be charming, and think before you speak.

    Smile like you have a secret, and play with your eyes, be a little mysterious. I personally think guys who are not an open book to be more desirable, and fascinating.



    Really? I have lots of secrets. But which one's do i keep???



    Boy, do you know how to flirt? I think you need to get on the basics.


    Well, i think i do.. I mean, i think i can successfully fake it for just a few minutes before i go in for the closing. I live somewhat of a sheltered life. My approach is usually very direct and so i say "fake" it because i would have to cool my sh!t a bit before i go in and go hard like i automatically would; with guys at the gym, it would bode very well for me if i first broke the ice to find out if they at least stress their "s" when they speak before i begin to flirt.

    I skip the basics. I would be the one to approach a guy and tell him I've been staring at him from across the room and that he's taken my breath away because he's so beautiful and that I'd like to take him out to get to know him a bit an maybe share workout tips and possibly spot each other in the future..

    I'd lay it on thick and mean every second of it along the way.

    I'm a romantic.

    In my mind, it all leads to passionate kissing in my car and marriage in the very near future.



    The art of flirting doesn't mean fake, flirting is hints and signals that you are interested without actually saying you are interested.

    Clearly you're a romantic, that's the down side with romantics, they come on too strong for their own good.



    Well, tbh, I'd love affection, too..
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    May 18, 2013 11:04 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidSay, Hey, This is crazy, I just met you, let's fuck in my car and get married. We can listen to whatever kind of music you want.


    YES!!!!!!!!!! Perfect.





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    May 18, 2013 11:07 PM GMT
    Mesmer said
    HottJoe saidSay, Hey, This is crazy, I just met you, let's fuck in my car and get married. We can listen to whatever kind of music you want. So call me maybe?




    I added that line in case his future husband is sick of that song.icon_razz.gif
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    May 18, 2013 11:09 PM GMT
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    Mesmer said
    HottJoe saidSay, Hey, This is crazy, I just met you, let's fuck in my car and get married. We can listen to whatever kind of music you want. So call me maybe?




    I added that line in case his future husband is sick of that song.icon_razz.gif


    lol, I was like, I don't think you got that song right, i'ma just fix it for him.
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    May 18, 2013 11:18 PM GMT
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    Now, how do i get the man?

    What man? Any man? Hopefully not this straight man you talked about - that's a dead-end street.

    Mesmer gave you a ton of great advice in his posts. Think about them.
  • Webster666

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    May 18, 2013 11:25 PM GMT
    Stop playing games.
    That, obviously, isn't working out very well for you.
    Approach this as if you were making a new friend, rather than trying to snare a husband.

    Do you have business cards ?
    If not, have some printed up, with just your first name and your phone number.
    Then, hand one to a guy you're interested in, and say, "If you'd like to get together sometime, give me a call."
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    May 18, 2013 11:32 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said#1 - Stop waxing your eyebrows. The lizard look is downright scary.

    #2 - Stop trying so hard. You don't need to memorize pick-up lines like a straight douchebag with a gold chain around his neck. Just be yourself and ask casual questions about the other person. Don't get too personal though. If you see them in the gym, ask about their workout routine.


    Thanks a lot, scruffy. Something to keep in mind: It's 2013. I'm approaching beautiful guys at the gym-- in Miami, nonetheless.. -not a lumberyard and it's not 1827; Nothing like bushy eyebrows to accompany my piercing stare from a distance but I'll keep it in mind. I like the lizard look. It works for me. Right off the bat, it lets em know that I'm shocking and eccentric, maybe even exotic if they're into that sort of thing. These are guys that groom themselves quite well, mind you.. We may end up doing each others eyebrows on our first night out.

    I'm not trying to memorize pickup lines but just need something other than a routine for an excuse to talk to them. I'm pretty sure it's been tried and tested.

    I wanna stand out and stay fresh on their mind once i approach these guys. I wanna be the person that immediately pops into their head while they're masturbating that they just can't stop thinking about and have to have and marry right away!
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    May 18, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidStop playing games.
    That, obviously, isn't working out very well for you.
    Approach this as if you were making a new friend, rather than trying to snare a husband.

    Do you have business cards ?
    If not, have some printed up, with just your first name and your phone number.
    Then, hand one to a guy you're interested in, and say, "If you'd like to get together sometime, give me a call."

    What I underlined from Webster is the key element, in my view. You should be trying to make friends, and nothing more.

    Friends may (or may not) turn into boyfriends, and boyfriends may turn into a partner. But if your goal is partner first, you'll be subconsciously trying too hard, and being too selective too early, which will defeat you. And frankly, you'll likely have more fun and pleasure, if your goal is just friends. That was always my strategy, and it worked really well.

    As for business cards, I like that idea, and have used it myself. But I'd make it more professional, with a full name, not just the first. Otherwise it's just a preprinted trick card. Just my personal take, but maybe others have a different view. Not a street address, of course, just the town perhaps, but cell and email. You want to get a call-back.
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    May 18, 2013 11:39 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidStop playing games.
    That, obviously, isn't working out very well for you.
    Approach this as if you were making a new friend, rather than trying to snare a husband.

    Do you have business cards ?
    If not, have some printed up, with just your first name and your phone number.
    Then, hand one to a guy you're interested in, and say, "If you'd like to get together sometime, give me a call."


    Good idea. I don't carry any.

    This is really new turf for me because I'm 24, now. I've bulked to like 200lbs whereas before, i was approx 160lbs in my super early 20's with this twinkish shape and was approached all the time so i never had to do anything.. It's a bit different now because I'm starting to realize that at 6'2, my size is a little intimidating for some people.. I have business cards from other people up the wazoo but it's always been relevant to the environment we were in. I'm no fitness trainer or guru so other than offering my card, what would be my excuse? That's the main focus for me, here.. I've gone the routine route, the you look familiar route, the "where'd you get your watch route".. I can pull a lot more out of my ass, honestly. I just want to make the sale, though.. And if i want to make the sale, the approach (my pitch, if you will) has to be solid.

    An offer they can't refuse.
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    May 18, 2013 11:41 PM GMT
    Wear a condom when you exchange business cards or you'll get a paper cut.
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    May 18, 2013 11:41 PM GMT
    st0ne saidWhat are some good ice breakers?

    I need some tips, rj. My friend tried setting me up with one of her med student guy friends once and i said something that i found incrediy funny that he totally did not understand and that was that... Word got to my friend and she immediately asked me "WTF!!??" Needless to say, i wanna step up my game.

    I have a list sitting on my nightstand with the nicknames of all the hotties at my gym that I'm already mentally committed to and in long-term relationship status' with. First thing's first, though... I gotta break the ice.. I've asked one where he got his watch after nearly staring a hole through him, today..

    I asked another if we went to elementary school together because he looked "familiar" icon_rolleyes.gif......... And i got the number and email of another by baiting him with a pdf file of a routine that i have.. We texted and i mustered the courage to ask if he was gay and he said no and then two months later, i texted him out the blue and told him i had a dream about him in which he looked like an angel (exact words).

    he replied: "not cool".

    I at least pat myself on the back because i made the effort. I'm a bigger man because of it and have the gains to prove it.

    Now, how do i get the man?

    tl;dr: i want the D.



    I would respond the exact same way if you were just a vague aquintance.. thats kind of odd
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    May 18, 2013 11:55 PM GMT
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    st0ne saidWhat are some good ice breakers?

    I need some tips, rj.


    on a first date be charming, and think before you speak.

    Smile like you have a secret, and play with your eyes, be a little mysterious. I personally think guys who are not an open book to be more desirable, and fascinating.



    Really? I have lots of secrets. But which one's do i keep???


    The ones where you say you have dreams about heterosexual men as angels.
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    May 18, 2013 11:58 PM GMT
    I'm gonna make it... Right, guys?
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    May 19, 2013 12:12 AM GMT
    st0ne said:
    ...I have a list sitting on my nightstand with the nicknames of all the hotties at my gym that I'm already mentally committed to and in long-term relationship status' with...

    LOve. Love. Love this.
    Nick names???? need to know now!!!

    "Mentally committed and in a LTR"--rock that shit.



    ....he replied: "not cool".

    I at least pat myself on the back because i made the effort. I'm a bigger man because of it and have the gains to prove it.

    Hell yes pat yourself...freaking pussy's on here never have the ball for that and obviously never had to tell their straight bud the same "NOT COOL".

    Now, how do i get the man?

    Relax, hell you're way ahead of the GAME from where I'm setting.

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    dustin_K_tx saidst0ne said:
    ...I have a list sitting on my nightstand with the nicknames of all the hotties at my gym that I'm already mentally committed to and in long-term relationship status' with...

    LOve. Love. Love this.
    Nick names???? need to know now!!!

    "Mentally committed and in a LTR"--rock that shit.



    ....he replied: "not cool".

    I at least pat myself on the back because i made the effort. I'm a bigger man because of it and have the gains to prove it.

    Hell yes pat yourself...freaking pussy's on here never have the ball for that and obviously never had to tell their straight bud the same "NOT COOL".

    Now, how do i get the man?

    Relax, hell you're way ahead of the GAME from where I'm setting.



    I love u.





    Nicknames:

    Romeo: i swear to you, he's so dreamy. He's all upper body with a fetish for bright colors when he works out. He'll wear lime green pants and a blue top with a black cap usually and always has his Nike duffle with him. He's the one. I asked him about his watch today. He's latin, my height, obviously in great shape, about my age, his slender legs look so good in his sweats and his upper body fills his shirts out like a glove. beautiful. We're gonna marry.

    NattyJo: he's gotta be in his mid 30's or early 40's. built like a tank. Always has a singlet or a shirt on with the sleeves cut off probably because his arms don't fit into them. He's unquestionably gay. Very friendly with the ladies but made it blatantly clear that he's interested. He's been cycling for years, more than likely. My calf is probably the size of his forearm.

    The Preacher's Son: this is the guy i asked if we went to elementary together. The epitome of the all star quarterback. Dark hair, handsome as hell, perfect jaw, beautiful green eyes, amazing arms, athletic and into sports. Something about him is awesomely sweet. He's so quiet. When i talked to him he let me know he went to private catholic school...In my head it felt so wrong but then i remembered that I'm ordained and that made it perfectly right.

    Hugh Jackedman: he and i used to lock eyes at another gym we used to go to. We had never spoken til i asked if i recognized him at our new one. He's got this long beautiful hair that he loves to show off. He does one of those baywatch things where he takes it down and bends over to fix it and tosses it back with flair. A lesser man would probably get made fun of but this guy is so built (with a beard) that it's just damn sexy. He's homoerotic in an ancient Rome sort of way. He's the angel from my dream. Also has that *spirit* when he speaks and so i thought he was gay.

    BigDaddy: has the swollest arms in the gym. About early-mid 40's i would say. This is just sex material, i think. He's cute in an understated way. I used to check him out all the time and noticed that he liked it. I then stopped once i saw he had no intentions of doing anything about it and he raised the stakes. We were on the stair masters and he had finished his time a few machines over.. He got off and i noticed but made it a point not to look. He raised one leg on the bottom stair to stretch as i took a sip from my water (i caved in and looked) and i fucking choked on my shit. Coughed water EVERYWHERE. He enjoyed it. He knew what he was doing. He stretched but made it a point to give me the crotch view.