Pinny saidI am out, you should be too, they also do not give a damn.
Good for you, but what has that got to do with the unique circumstances of the OP? Will you guarantee him the same happy result you had, with his situation, and the people with whom he must deal? Or are you just speaking in ideal theoretical terms?
You remind me of the spectator in the street, who sees a person on the ledge of a tall skyscraper and yells "Jump! Jump!" No skin off your own nose.
I made the mistake of listening to gay friends, who told me I had to come out to my family. And I resisted, saying I knew them better than they did, and that they would overreact to my being gay.
My gay friends countered by making me feel like a coward for not coming out to my family, that I wouldn't be really "gay" until I spilled my guts to them. And so, against my better judgment, I did.
Well, one of them promptly called the police, and told them I was a pedophile, with no more proof than I had admitted to being gay. A prosecutor went to a conservative judge, and with no evidence whatsoever, the judge issued a search warrant against me for pedophile materials.
And so one day, at 1 PM, a SWAT team burst into my home, and searched it for 5 hours, seizing my computers, printer, PDA, and all digital storage media. Items I didn't see again for 4 months, when they were finally returned to me.
Because the state crime lab found no evidence of pedophilia on my computers, a crime I detest. Nor did they find anything else illegal on my computers. But I was subjected to that treatment solely on the basis of my being a gay man, whom a prosecutor & judge automatically assumed must be a criminal pervert.
If I were you I'd be more careful before advising any gay man to come out for the sake of coming out, without knowing his facts & circumstances. As I said in my previous post, each decision is situational, and unless you know that situation, you have no business giving unequivocal advice.