is 35 old

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    May 19, 2013 2:51 AM GMT
    Going to be 35 this yr and for the first time starting to feel that age is a factor. Starting to be tired more than usual and thinking about the future. Anybody else in their 30s feel like this or maybe im just burnt out right now.
  • HottJoe

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    May 19, 2013 4:44 AM GMT
    Not for a man.icon_lol.gif
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    May 19, 2013 5:35 AM GMT
    Oh man, I hope 35 isn't old!! icon_lol.gif

    Tired - I haven't really noticed that I'm more tired. That could be related to stress, anxiety, overwork, health issues, etc.

    I have noticed that I get more random aches and pains than I used to.

    I do think about the future and have that feeling that "the clock is ticking" moreso than before, in terms of my career, relationships, etc.

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    May 19, 2013 12:13 PM GMT
    Another age thread? Numbers are always relative.

    For some people, by the time they reach 35 they've got a a stable job, got married, had kids and are now just coasting waiting to die. Life becomes stale, and you feel both physically and mentally old.

    For others, their life doesn't start until their 30+'s. They come to accept themselves later in life and have a drive to achieve things they didn't attempt to before. My partner met me when he was 34. His Dad only started exercising at age 40, and has since been running marathons.

    Age is irrelevant. It's how you live your life that is important.
  • MikeW

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    May 19, 2013 1:52 PM GMT
    gayinterest saidAge is irrelevant. It's how you live your life that is important.

    I wouldn't go quite as far as the first sentence but do agree with the last
    one.

    35 is certainly not old but it is about the time we begin to realize we aren't immortal, that we are 'aging'. In many ways, I regard the 20 year span between 35 and 55 as 'the golden years'. The trials and tribulations of youth are behind us. We've 'found ourselves' for the most part. We may still go through 'mid life crises' of various sorts but we know how to deal with them.

    For me the 10 year span from 55 to 65 have been very interesting. I've changed in ways I didn't anticipate. I've discovered that beyond a certain point, I can't control life. It happens. But over all I've become less stressed, more easy going, in some ways happier than I've ever been. I don't *feel* "old" (although I certainly look it). I truly *get* it that from here on my health has a LOT to do with how I live: What I eat, my activity level, what I think about, what I choose to do with the time I have left.

    All that said, there are many things I know now that I wish I'd known decades ago.


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    May 19, 2013 1:59 PM GMT
    I feel better in my late 30's than I did in my 20's. Of course, I am trying to take better care of myself.

    Maybe once you get some things figured out you will feel better. I wish you all the best!

  • Fritter

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    May 19, 2013 2:01 PM GMT
    I'm in better shape at 43 than I was at 23.
  • He_Man

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    May 19, 2013 2:04 PM GMT
    Is 35 old? Yes, it's ancient!

    I already moved down to beautiful, sunny, warm South Florida to retire. It's too cold up north for these old, achy joints and bones of mine. I'm just sitting back in my rocking chair waiting to die now. There's not much left after 30, so I'm just waiting for the inevitable and, hopefully, I won't be too much of a burden on all those youngsters out there. I'll be lucky if this old body makes it to 40.
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 19, 2013 2:04 PM GMT
    Not even close.

    Over the last few years, I've been happier in most respects than at any time in my life.. and I'm in my 40's. Had a great time at 35.

    The difference is, when you reach this age, you (hopefully) still have health and looks, you've obtained some goals in your life, have gained confidence and maturity.

    Sitting here in my, really awesome home and thinking about what I have achieved. 35 is the "spice of life", make adjustments to your "travel plan" and enjoy the ride... and be damned thankful for what you have.
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    May 19, 2013 2:31 PM GMT
    I am 42 and I feel like 52 lol Ry
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    May 19, 2013 2:32 PM GMT
    i work in sports and 35 is considered old for that, probably just letting that affect other parts of my life. All they see is a number because as far as life experience im just now understanding who i am. Just wanted to see what you guys thought
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    May 19, 2013 2:37 PM GMT
    mike34 saidi work in sports and 35 is considered old for that, probably just letting that affect other parts of my life. All they see is a number because as far as life experience im just now understanding who i am. Just wanted to see what you guys thought


    I would encourage you to see beyond "numbers" , such a self limiting point and don't put up artificial barriers to hold you back. You said you are just now "understanding who you are".... awesome! You are just an infant in that part of your "life's ride". Let it energize you. Life is also a transition.
    You have to see it in "multidimensional terms".
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    May 19, 2013 2:38 PM GMT
    Turning 35 beats the alternative of never turning 35. Aches, pain...that's life. But embrace every living breath and enjoy life.
  • rdberg1957

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    May 19, 2013 3:00 PM GMT
    I think 35 is certainly older than 25. It means you need to take better care of yourself if you want to enjoy life. If you drink a lot, slow down or stop. If you smoke, stop. I found out I was hypothyroid when I was 35. I have been taking little purple pills since which help with maintaining my energy.

    When I was 25, I found sex everywhere I went. On the street, on the bus, in shopping malls, on campus at the University. At 35, I was much quieter.

    I am in fair shape at 56. I play tennis 2x/week and racquetball 1x/week. I lift 2x/week. However, I am tired after I play racquetball, usually for the rest of the day. Yesterday, I played hard with a guy who is 62--he's in much better shape than I. I did manage to stay out until 2am last night at a game night party. 8 guys; it was really fun. Drank hard cider and played Pictionary. Laughed a lot.
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    May 19, 2013 3:22 PM GMT
    dont be daft of course not.

    I personally think men around your age are sexy and in there prime much more so then lads around my own age.

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    May 19, 2013 3:36 PM GMT
    OP,

    Other guys are going to sell you short because of your age...don’t do it to yourself! I don’t know this for a fact, but you may just be burnt out. Take a vacation, rejuvenate yourself, and get back on your game!! You’re at a great place in your life at 35 (potentially)...established, grounded, secure, strong! So, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!

    P.S. I'll be 34 this year, so I'm right there with you! icon_smile.gif
  • mr_bijae

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    May 19, 2013 3:37 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidNot for a man.icon_lol.gif


    +1 ^- THIS
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    May 19, 2013 4:48 PM GMT
    It depends, for obese people its very old.
  • cityguy39

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    May 19, 2013 4:50 PM GMT
    This thread is joke right?icon_lol.gif
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    May 19, 2013 4:58 PM GMT
    no its not unfortunately thats how i feel, although time and time again its been proven that some people on this site are a joke . Thats obvious. If your only job in life is to cruise threads to put people down then i feel sorry for u not me...just saying . This is not meant for everybody on here its just u get what you give end of story
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    May 19, 2013 5:01 PM GMT
    At that age, might as well keep a coffin in the living room for the inevitable.
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    May 19, 2013 5:01 PM GMT
    mike34 saidGoing to be 35 this yr and for the first time starting to feel that age is a factor. Starting to be tired more than usual and thinking about the future. Anybody else in their 30s feel like this or maybe im just burnt out right now.


    Thats normal. My first feeling of slowing down came at around 35. Then again at about 41 and finally again this year. Your testosterone could be going down. But yeah, its normal to feel that way. I wouldnt characterize it as old. Its just you are getting older and have to adjust a little bit.
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    May 19, 2013 5:20 PM GMT
    Yes, terribly old.
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    May 19, 2013 5:23 PM GMT
    Fritter saidI'm in better shape at 43 than I was at 23.


    this. +1
    I'm in better shape at 50 than I was at 35 and feel better.
  • starboard5

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    May 19, 2013 5:27 PM GMT
    IMO, all things being equal, a man's physical prime is from 32-38. Very good years and you're right in the heart of it. And they can extend beyond that in some ways. I'm 58 and I just got back from the gym where I did an hour of cardio with a 28 year old, and kept up. Of course, he'll keep going most of the day and I'll be falling asleep in a couple of hours.

    Age brings limitations, but learning to accept them and work with them can give you mental gains. I think you're in a good place, my friend.