Lifes too short....

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    May 19, 2013 7:35 AM GMT
    Most of the men ive dated were beautifully built men, jock types that everyone wanted & the guys almost always ended up cheating on me cuz of all the attn theyd get & etc. My most recent ex was with me for 6 yrs & he was the luv of my life....I loved him more than anything but he kept cheating & treated me horribly at times putting me down for how I "looked". It about ruined me.

    My fiance now is more of a muscled bear type...big, tall, strong & thick and could careless about looking perfect or me being perfect. We go out drinking and have a blast! He makes me laugh & treats me so good in every way! He cant get enough of me in bed & always compliments me & luvs me for me.

    Its taken me sooooo long to learn & realize that none of us are perfect but yet so many of us especially as gay men constantly seek approval & perfection from ourselves & others & when we dont get it, its heart breaking.

    I thank God for sending my man to me. Ive never been so comfortable, accepted & loved for me like he does. He even joined the gym with me but Im starting to think he only did it to keep the other guys away from me....lmfao!

    Life is too short guys....no one is perfect....the guy that could be your soulmate may not be a jock with a 6 pack. Find someone that luvs you for you no matter what.
  • CityofDreams

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    May 19, 2013 7:50 AM GMT
    Great post ;)
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    May 19, 2013 8:03 AM GMT
    CityofDreams saidGreat post ;)


    Thanks man.
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    May 19, 2013 2:42 PM GMT
    My fiancee gets hit on my guys and girls lol.he is very cute but also has a funny personality that attracts people.I trust him completely so it is not even an issue..that said my eyes are always open lol. My mother used to say..water seeks it's own level lol.I never knew what that meant lol but I think when an average looking guy or girl dates someone with flawless looks they may not see that trouble that could arise.Just sayin..Ry
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    May 19, 2013 4:45 PM GMT
    That's refreshing icon_smile.gif. I'm glad you found a guy who loves you and treats you right.
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    May 19, 2013 4:47 PM GMT
    Knob.
    Every relationship is doomed for failure until you find the one that's not.
  • mmnt

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    May 19, 2013 4:51 PM GMT
    Very happy for you :-)!
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    May 19, 2013 4:57 PM GMT
    Good stuff.

    I've been on this forum a week, and finding so many people are obsessively image-focused.

    A certain level of sexual attraction is important, but ultimately, you need to be with:

    - someone who you fucking love spending time with,
    - some you trust,
    - someone who brings out the best in your character
    - someone who supports you mentally,
    - someone who will not judge you, but encourage you to grow.

    I'm lucky to have found such a person.
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    May 19, 2013 5:04 PM GMT
    ^^^^^^^ Then stop flirting with me then you tart Terry.

    lol
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    May 19, 2013 5:06 PM GMT
    haha

    It's 'cos we've got that ultimate level of trust that I can flirt with you, mate! ;-)
  • mr_bijae

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    May 19, 2013 5:29 PM GMT
    Good on you for realizing and posting this. Yes, there are good men out there! Some times we have to go through a bunch of crap to really appreciate the blessings!
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    May 19, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    Great post mate...we go through our fair share of assholes to find the one, the diamond we deserve!!
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    May 19, 2013 8:28 PM GMT
    warrior86 saidGreat post mate...we go through our fair share of assholes to find the one, the diamond we deserve!!



    I think alot of times we forget diamonds are made from lumps of coal. I agree there has to be sexual attraction & etc but ive dated some men that became sexy & btfl to me once I really got to know them.
  • cityguy39

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    May 19, 2013 9:40 PM GMT
    redbull saidMost of the men ive dated were beautifully built men, jock types that everyone wanted & the guys almost always ended up cheating on me cuz of all the attn theyd get & etc. My most recent ex was with me for 6 yrs & he was the luv of my life....I loved him more than anything but he kept cheating & treated me horribly at times putting me down for how I "looked". It about ruined me.

    My fiance now is more of a muscled bear type...big, tall, strong & thick and could careless about looking perfect or me being perfect. We go out drinking and have a blast! He makes me laugh & treats me so good in every way! He cant get enough of me in bed & always compliments me & luvs me for me.

    Its taken me sooooo long to learn & realize that none of us are perfect but yet so many of us especially as gay men constantly seek approval & perfection from ourselves & others & when we dont get it, its heart breaking.

    I thank God for sending my man to me. Ive never been so comfortable, accepted & loved for me like he does. He even joined the gym with me but Im starting to think he only did it to keep the other guys away from me....lmfao!

    Life is too short guys....no one is perfect....the guy that could be your soulmate may not be a jock with a 6 pack. Find someone that luvs you for you no matter what.


    Well put my brother!!!
  • Tombo

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    May 19, 2013 9:50 PM GMT
    So happy for you pal icon_smile.gif
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    May 19, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    Great post! Just shows that the most important things in life are invisible to the eyes. Thanks for sharing, it made me smile.
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    May 20, 2013 4:42 PM GMT
    redbull said
    warrior86 saidGreat post mate...we go through our fair share of assholes to find the one, the diamond we deserve!!



    I think alot of times we forget diamonds are made from lumps of coal. I agree there has to be sexual attraction & etc but ive dated some men that became sexy & btfl to me once I really got to know them.


    Wow this is deep and very true! you are awesome and I am so very happy for you! I do hope other available single gay men are taking note!