Is something wrong with me for being sexually attracted to White guys only?

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    May 20, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    I removed this post because guys were totally freaking out over it. I can only get so much hate mail.
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    May 20, 2013 8:59 PM GMT
    You date whoever you want to. Do you. The only people who seem to have a problem with it are self-hating blacks who can't any decent ass. Ignore them.
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    May 20, 2013 9:03 PM GMT
    The only people who will pressed about you preferring non black men are black guys who are too mungowa black power to see past their own life choices and see some people are different.
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    May 20, 2013 9:11 PM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidYou date whoever you want to.


    This! You don't need validation or reasons from strangers as to why you're attracted to a particular race. Those are your preferences so just go with it. From reading your post, I don't think race is your issue but rather, it's age and at 35 years old, I'm having a hard time believing.

    Also, you live in one of the most diverse gay communities in the country. I, on the other hand, live in the South and if I'm able to find a white guy here to date, I'm sure you can do the same there. Chin up and good luck!
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    May 20, 2013 9:15 PM GMT
    There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. You're attracted to who you're attracted to. You can't help that any more than you can help being gay. I know people that are the same and reverse of you. I know white guys that are only attracted to black chicks. It's nothing wrong, and you sure as hell don't owe anyone an explanation or an apology for it. Go after what you want dude, it's your life.
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    May 20, 2013 9:15 PM GMT
    no
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    May 20, 2013 10:54 PM GMT
    From how you present yourself, I don't feel you have a problem but rather a strong preference. I can understand gay black men worrying that other gay black men view themselves as less/lower than other groups. It is a problem is blac culture as a whole with many factors & influx exes. Irregardless, you live for you. Your happiness does not come 2nd to opinions of others, black, white, or whoever.
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    May 20, 2013 11:00 PM GMT
    You like who you like period. There is no explanation necessary. Yes there are white guys that feel the same way about black guys. And its not like you wont date your own race. Its just not your thing. Go for it. You deserve to be happy.
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    May 20, 2013 11:14 PM GMT
    Why care what others think? They aren't you, if people try to put you down for your preferences then it just shows how close minded they are. Life's too short to change your life just to make others comfortable, be happy doing things YOU want.
  • EJ994

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    May 20, 2013 11:52 PM GMT
    As another black guy, I really don't care that you're only attracted to white guys. I like men in general (though a tad bit biased towards black guys), so I understand we all have our types.


    Go do your thang. icon_cool.gif I will say though, if you never find your white Prince Charming, don't go running to a black guy as if he's the second best thing. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 20, 2013 11:59 PM GMT
    Hanaboy saidAs another black guy, I really don't care that you're only attracted to white guys. I like men in general (though a tad bit biased towards black guys), so I understand we all have our types.


    Go do your thang. icon_cool.gif I will say though, if you never find your white Prince Charming, don't go running to a black guy as if he's the second best thing. icon_rolleyes.gif


    But wouldn't he be?
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    May 21, 2013 12:24 AM GMT
    datscarf said
    NJDewd saidYou like who you like period. There is no explanation necessary. Yes there are white guys that feel the same way about black guys. And its not like you wont date your own race. Its just not your thing. Go for it. You deserve to be happy.



    They just haven't been created yet.
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  • EJ994

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    May 21, 2013 12:25 AM GMT
    MisfitToy said
    Hanaboy saidAs another black guy, I really don't care that you're only attracted to white guys. I like men in general (though a tad bit biased towards black guys), so I understand we all have our types.


    Go do your thang. icon_cool.gif I will say though, if you never find your white Prince Charming, don't go running to a black guy as if he's the second best thing. icon_rolleyes.gif


    But wouldn't he be?

    Yes, which is why I told him don't do it because I know for sure I wouldn't date him if he were trying to pull that on me.
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    May 21, 2013 12:43 AM GMT
    In my mid-twenties I became friends with a first generation African American (his parents were from Nigeria) who pursued, then got me. Afterwards we became friends and hung out together for the next five years, then drifted apart, and recently reconnected. He's a lawyer now (was going to law school at the time) and went to private school in Manhattan and I noticed he had not one black friend. I also noticed that he not only never pursued a black man but got aggressive/competitive/distasteful when he'd meet other hot black friends of mine, and that all of his boyfriends and tricks were white. Even now his long term partner is white. Back then he said something which I never forgot - "I prefer blondes and redheads because I like the way they smell." From what I've read so far in this thread is that the OP is getting a pass because this is his preference, but if I ever said something like that I'm sure I'd be called out as racist!
  • psycsnacha

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    May 21, 2013 1:56 AM GMT
    Is this a real question?

    Oy

    Nothing wrong with who you're attracted to. Unless it's a different species.
  • Karl

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    May 21, 2013 6:38 AM GMT
    no, you date whoever you want to.

    I'm Asian and I'm more attracted to any other races but my own race, physically.
  • BloodFlame

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    May 21, 2013 6:42 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with it at all. You like who like and don't feel bad for your preferences. So just keep on looking, I'm sure you'll meet your guy one day. icon_smile.gif
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    May 21, 2013 6:59 AM GMT
    I personally feel that caucasoid features are more beautiful. So I'm attracted to white guys much more than any other race. If an Asian is extra hot, I'd go for it too.
  • IsrealiBoy

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    May 21, 2013 7:03 AM GMT
    Felt the same way. One gay black pron video later.. Haha but in all seriousness, give gay black men a shot and see whether u really aren't into that or you are just being picky.
  • TannerMasseur

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    May 21, 2013 7:27 AM GMT
    I'm Filipino & my preference has always been hot built white guys, any age bracket long's their hot, built, good-looking & intelligent. Of course they could start off as a cub & grow into their man body icon_smile.gif ......
  • TroyAthlete

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    May 21, 2013 7:27 AM GMT
    datscarf saidYes.
    Because white guys don't like black guys so you pretty much going to stay celibate.


    QFT, hahaha.

    This is one of those questions that's answered by the fact that it had to be asked. If you find yourself asking "Is something wrong with _________" then that means there's something probably wrong with it for you.

    Now whether it's worth giving enough of a flip about to spur self-change is a different question. There's a lot of things wrong with every person -- not all of those things are consequential enough to fix. That's for each person to decide.

    In the OP's case...

    RowdyRugbyim starting feel alone and more strange the older I get because I am unable to find a guy where I live (San Francisco Bay area). White seems to be everyone's preference here. No one look at me twice. I almost feel invisible.

    Help.


    Well clearly your pattern of attraction is maladaptive and harmful to you so you might consider either changing your standards or accepting loneliness. White-black same-sex interracial couples certainly do exist, but it sounds like it's not in the cards for you. It does not seem to make much sense to remain attracted to that which is not interested in you. *shrug*
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    May 21, 2013 7:28 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong with that.. cause white men are awesome...
    Big balls, and a huge carrot ! icon_surprised.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

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    May 21, 2013 7:29 AM GMT
    I see everybody is doing the kumbaya like who you like deal, but as someone who likes every shade of man, I just cannot fathom how someone can be exclusively attracted to one race. But c'est la vie.
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    May 21, 2013 7:50 AM GMT
    :S

    Cause i'm latino-german? icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
  • Beeftastic

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    May 21, 2013 7:56 AM GMT
    I wonder why you are not able to find suitable dates in the Bay Area. I see a tremendous amount of interracial dating here, including my own life.

    Most of the black guys I know in San Francisco date mostly white guys - of course that's kind of a self-fulfilling statement as I am white and meet a lot of black men. I have had two significant relationships with black men myself. If you are a hot black man in SF, you will find white men that will date you. Whether you will find a man to have a serious relationship with, that might be more challenging.

    Oakland is a bit different, I meet more black men that are into other black men, but I do know some interracial couples there too.

    It could have less to do with the racial issue, and more to do with your attitude or approach.

    Me, I'm ready to meet a fit, established, well put together man with a good head on his shoulders, honest and truthful and passionate. Race would be the last issue on my mind.