Coming Out!!! (Don't think, just do)

  • IsrealiBoy

    Posts: 165

    May 21, 2013 6:37 AM GMT
    Hey, so originally this post was gonna be me asking whether I should come out or not and how to do it. But guess what? I did it.
    It feels amazingg! I swear, I never though it would feel so great and that I would feel so comfortable around people but I'm telling you it is just awesome.
    Soo, if you are considering coming out or wanna post and share your coming out story please do so.
    My story: yesterday I watched this movie called 'Yossi and Jaggar' it's a gay Israeli film about two generals in the army who are in love and well, basically sorry for the spoiler but one of them dies, (Obviously the one that wanted to come out with the man he loved) and this made me think all day what if I will die like that? With only hopes of coming out but never actually doing it. Also there is a rabbi that used to teach in my school who is an older man that is gay and still in the closet. This made me think can I be content with my life and truly happy being 'secretly' gay. Bam! It hit me, either way (if I die before with the intent of coming out or live without being able to come out) I wil not be happy. There just wasn't a way that not coming out would work. I decided I can't do this face-to-face because I am a wuss and it is just too scary for me. Anyway, I realized that posting this somewhere public where everyone I know could see would be the best thing so, at 3am I am thinking of what to post. I kept writing different styles of basically the same message.
    So I finally wrote a message I liked and here it is.
    -Hey, so I've decided that it is about time I start making adult decisions and i don't want to live to be old and hold on to regrets, therefore, it's pretty much now or never.
    As much as I love everyone very very much, I gotta put myself first this time. This being said I am truly sorry but I'm not sorry if this actually 'hurts' you.
    I think I'm gay. If you can't handle it, try wondering what I've been going through my entire life. If you can, please let me know your secret.
    Ps. You know where the delete/block button is.. if you are one of 'those' people who now choose to hate me, don't hesitate to use it.
    Don't forget I am still Amos, and truth being told I've always been this way, we just chose to ignore this hoping that it will go away but that's not how things work in life and I truly believe that was a mistake. So if you love ME or care about ME, and not just my gender or the gender I am attracted to, you will get through this with me and be there by my side when I am being discriminated against or bullied for being 'different,' and if not then I am sorry we couldn't see eye to eye but this is where we part our ways. Love you all and thanks for the hate or support, whatever it may be.
    Oh... And have a nice monday ;)
    I thought it met all my goals
    - telling people about me
    - asking for support
    - making sure to give the option of not being in my life
    - and most importantly sounding damn good about it.
    The amount of support I have is incredible. I swear so many people messaged me saying they support me and are there for me if I need to talk. Even my family members (including mom and dad) that I believed were extremely homophobic said they love me and accept me. I don't think I have ever felt more 'me'. I'm soo greatful to have all these amazing people in my life and can't believe I have been so hesitant about this for so long.
    Soo my message to you: if you are thinking about coming out, make sure YOU are ready for it because you will need to be strong. If you are do not hesitate, just do it. Don't think about it too much or read into it. I swear it is worth it.
  • HottJoe

    Posts: 21366

    May 21, 2013 6:44 AM GMT
    N00dz?
  • IsrealiBoy

    Posts: 165

    May 21, 2013 6:59 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidN00dz?

    Haha I'm not even gonna ask
  • HottJoe

    Posts: 21366

    May 21, 2013 7:02 AM GMT
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe saidN00dz?

    Haha I'm not even gonna ask


    Well, you are Mr. Scandalous! Lol

    Congrats on coming out!icon_smile.gif
  • IsrealiBoy

    Posts: 165

    May 21, 2013 7:10 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe saidN00dz?

    Haha I'm not even gonna ask


    Well, you are Mr. Scandalous! Lol

    Congrats on coming out!icon_smile.gif

    Noodz?
  • HottJoe

    Posts: 21366

    May 21, 2013 7:17 AM GMT
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe saidN00dz?

    Haha I'm not even gonna ask


    Well, you are Mr. Scandalous! Lol

    Congrats on coming out!icon_smile.gif

    Noodz?


    Naked pics. It's part of the tradition of coming out.
  • IsrealiBoy

    Posts: 165

    May 21, 2013 7:28 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe saidN00dz?

    Haha I'm not even gonna ask


    Well, you are Mr. Scandalous! Lol

    Congrats on coming out!icon_smile.gif

    Noodz?


    Naked pics. It's part of the tradition of coming out.

    Babe, I know what noods are. I was making fun of ur comment. Part of the tradition? How abt u send me some instead and we'll call it even ;)
  • HottJoe

    Posts: 21366

    May 21, 2013 7:31 AM GMT
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe saidN00dz?

    Haha I'm not even gonna ask


    Well, you are Mr. Scandalous! Lol

    Congrats on coming out!icon_smile.gif

    Noodz?


    Naked pics. It's part of the tradition of coming out.

    Babe, I know what noods are. I was making fun of ur comment. Part of the tradition? How abt u send me some instead and we'll call it even ;)




    That's a relief. I was little worried, thinking you were way too naive.
  • IsrealiBoy

    Posts: 165

    May 21, 2013 7:37 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe saidN00dz?

    Haha I'm not even gonna ask


    Well, you are Mr. Scandalous! Lol

    Congrats on coming out!icon_smile.gif

    Noodz?


    Naked pics. It's part of the tradition of coming out.

    Babe, I know what noods are. I was making fun of ur comment. Part of the tradition? How abt u send me some instead and we'll call it even ;)




    That's a relief. I was little worried, thinking you were way too naive.

    Nah. Hmm, trying to figure out whether u rlly mean that or are just trying to avoid the whole nudes thing..
  • HottJoe

    Posts: 21366

    May 21, 2013 7:44 AM GMT
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe saidN00dz?

    Haha I'm not even gonna ask


    Well, you are Mr. Scandalous! Lol

    Congrats on coming out!icon_smile.gif

    Noodz?


    Naked pics. It's part of the tradition of coming out.

    Babe, I know what noods are. I was making fun of ur comment. Part of the tradition? How abt u send me some instead and we'll call it even ;)




    That's a relief. I was little worried, thinking you were way too naive.

    Nah. Hmm, trying to figure out whether u rlly mean that or are just trying to avoid the whole nudes thing..


    Neither, actually
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    May 21, 2013 7:47 AM GMT
    combo breaker
  • IsrealiBoy

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    May 21, 2013 7:50 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe said
    MrScandalous said
    HottJoe saidN00dz?

    Haha I'm not even gonna ask


    Well, you are Mr. Scandalous! Lol

    Congrats on coming out!icon_smile.gif

    Noodz?


    Naked pics. It's part of the tradition of coming out.

    Babe, I know what noods are. I was making fun of ur comment. Part of the tradition? How abt u send me some instead and we'll call it even ;)




    That's a relief. I was little worried, thinking you were way too naive.

    Nah. Hmm, trying to figure out whether u rlly mean that or are just trying to avoid the whole nudes thing..


    Neither, actually

    You my friend are a very confusing man. Eh, don't really care
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    May 21, 2013 1:08 PM GMT
    good on you for coming out
  • Import

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    May 21, 2013 1:17 PM GMT
    HottJoe and MrScandalous are totally an RJ item now.
  • psycsnacha

    Posts: 161

    May 21, 2013 2:23 PM GMT
    Cheers.
    Congrats.