How to get motivated?

  • Baoish

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    May 21, 2013 6:57 AM GMT
    Okay so,

    I have been a fatass since my depression started taking over me. This started like around 09-10? People, past, etc. It was horrible. It made me think of crazy stuff like quitting school (which I did); killing myself; and other stuff. My depression randomly pop-ups whenever there is a reason like friends, jealously (relationship), family, etc.

    Now its 2013 and on my new years resolution I have been setting up goals for myself but these goals I have a feeling that I won't be able to accomplish them. I tried going to class to get my GED but yet I skipped going there. I try to even lose weight and it's kind of working. I stopped drinking soda and now I drink juice or water. Before I was overweight like around 220 pounds and now I weigh 208. I want to look like and be ''myself'' again. Being depressed all the time isn't going to get me anywhere.

    Anyways enough about me. My question is how can I get motivated to do stuff that I want to accomplish? Such as losing weight, getting my ged, getting a job and stick to it.

    Also I I'm 18 and I don't want to ask my parents for a membership for going to a gym so what is a good way to lose weight at home? I don't have any exercising tools atm. I so doooo want a nice and defined looking body haha. Help me?

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    May 21, 2013 11:54 AM GMT
    Grow up.
    Drop the juice, only drink water.
    Look up bodyweight exercises online.
    Hit the the deck and crank out push-ups until you can't lift your arms.
    Cut out most carbs.
    Set your goals and take the next right step.

    The power to change your life is in your hands.
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    May 22, 2013 3:00 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear about your depression and as someone who is bi-polar I can certainly sympathize. One way to get motivated is to realize is that study after study shows that exercise is the bane of all depression. Start off slowly and start going for long brisk walks around your neighbourhood for an hour or two each night. Just put on some music and get the fuck out there.

    Nutritionally, start by cutting back on wheat and carbohydrates (proven to weigh you down and make you feel tired) and up the mono and poly-unsaturated fats in your diet which will help you feel better and happier as well as good sources of protein like sardines (cheap).

    My last piece of advice is to not think about weight loss as your first goal. Make "feeling better" your primary goal. When you feel good, then start keeping a food log and keep in mind the number of calories you probably burn in a day.I use an iphone app called tap&track for this, but myfitnesspal is also great.

    Hope this helps.
  • NeuralShock

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    May 26, 2013 2:47 AM GMT
    How I personally do it.


    How bad do you want it? Really. How bad do you want to change?

    Only you can answer that question for yourself.

    For me I was asked that question and I didn't say anything. I sat there that night and then I thought on it.

    How bad did I want it? What an insane question, isn't it?

    I woke up the next morning and I went to the gym. From that day forward I went 6 days a week, slowly but surely tweeking my routines into what they are now.

    It may suck to hear this, because it is brutally truthful.

    How bad do you want that physique? How badly do you want that lifestyle? Because if you do want the body it is going to be a lot more than just working out, it is about diet, treating your body the way it deserves to be treated (avoiding alcohol and the plethora of nasty effects it has), and resting properly.

    So you sit and think about it. How badly do you want to change? Then take that desire and apply it in the real world, physically, rather than mentally. Take up the challenge and do it and let not even the wrath of hell stop you.

    Few things in life are guaranteed, but I can nearly promise you beyond a shadow of a doubt that if you put in the time and effort to do this... you WILL get exactly where you want to be.

    But it's up to you to decide if this is what you want, and then to go and actually do it. But there is no reason you couldn't.
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    May 26, 2013 10:14 AM GMT
    Fountains saidSorry to hear about your depression and as someone who is bi-polar I can certainly sympathize. One way to get motivated is to realize is that study after study shows that exercise is the bane of all depression. Start off slowly and start going for long brisk walks around your neighbourhood for an hour or two each night. Just put on some music and get the fuck out there.

    Nutritionally, start by cutting back on wheat and carbohydrates (proven to weigh you down and make you feel tired) and up the mono and poly-unsaturated fats in your diet which will help you feel better and happier as well as good sources of protein like sardines (cheap).

    My last piece of advice is to not think about weight loss as your first goal. Make "feeling better" your primary goal. When you feel good, then start keeping a food log and keep in mind the number of calories you probably burn in a day.I use an iphone app called tap&track for this, but myfitnesspal is also great.

    Hope this helps.


    Good advice!
    If you're struggling to start because of anxiety/depression/esteem then start small. The important thing at first is to build a routine. Get used to doing something small each night, then when you're happy with that, you can start to increase the amount/intensity of the exercise.
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    May 26, 2013 10:28 AM GMT
    If the depression is an external factor try to remove it from your life. If you can't remove it and feel stuck, then try to avoid it by counteracting the situation with positive thinking to combat the feeling. Some added useful tips: Wear the color orange or yellow, or look at something orange & yellow. (these colors lift mood). Also force yourself to smile when you're depressed or feeling it come on. Smiling sometimes can trick the brain and self psych yourself onto a different thought process. Also find that person, place or thing that motivates you. Once you find it. use it, think of it... the moment you feel depressed.
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    May 26, 2013 10:54 AM GMT
    NeuralShock saidHow I personally do it.


    How bad do you want it? Really. How bad do you want to change?

    Only you can answer that question for yourself......



    Slightly militant, perhaps?
    There's a happy, healthy, mid-ground between overweight and obsessively-ripped.
    I'm content with being "in-shape".

    I exercise regularly (I walk/cycle almost everywhere, and do stuff at home like push-ups, crunches, etc). But I also enjoy food (even the bad stuff), I drink (never to excess) and smoke weed.

    A happy life is a life in balance.
  • njnick

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    May 26, 2013 11:25 AM GMT
    Working out and getting in shape will definitely help with your depression, but if your depression is causing you to lose the motivation to get in shape you should seek professional help.

    Either therapy or talk to your primary physician and see about trying some antidepressants. If your depression is caused by something or someone - like Integrity said - try to remove it...but sometimes it really is a chemical imbalance that medication can greatly help (trust me, I know firsthand...I've suffered from this my whole life).

    Good luck man....

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    May 26, 2013 11:33 AM GMT
    this gets me..motivated! icon_cool.gif

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  • NeuralShock

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    May 26, 2013 3:56 PM GMT
    gayinterest said
    NeuralShock saidHow I personally do it.


    How bad do you want it? Really. How bad do you want to change?

    Only you can answer that question for yourself......



    Slightly militant, perhaps?
    There's a happy, healthy, mid-ground between overweight and obsessively-ripped.
    I'm content with being "in-shape".

    I exercise regularly (I walk/cycle almost everywhere, and do stuff at home like push-ups, crunches, etc). But I also enjoy food (even the bad stuff), I drink (never to excess) and smoke weed.

    A happy life is a life in balance.


    I guess in a sense I could be taken as being a bit militant icon_lol.gif

    But to be straightforward I've been battling depression myself, that is what attracted me to post in the topic in the first place. I realized that the first thing that I had to do was to 'move on'. To tackle 'challenges' that were hindering my progress to become a self I wanted to be.

    And from there I removed any and all obstacles that would hinder any of my goals- getting a physique worth caring about being only one of them.

    Am I trying to imply I'm there? Oh hell no icon_lol.gif I actually began only 7 months ago but the gains I've gotten are incredible, and have no desire to even think of quitting.

  • MikeW

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    May 26, 2013 4:06 PM GMT
    Motivation is a huge issue, especially if you're dealing with depression. Personally I seldom get depressed anymore. Becoming more physically active (and having lost a lot of weight) is definitely part of that. Changing my diet, too, was another huge part of it. Sugar in all its forms *has* to be cut out or at least way down (and these days it is in almost everything like fast food and pre-packaged food).

    I set goals for myself but I accept that I may not achieve the goal 100%. If I can achieve 80% of the goal, that's way better than not having the goal and achieving 0%. So, goals are good so long as you don't beat yourself up if you don't hit the bulls-eye every time. I'm a sugar addict. I mean, truly addicted. So, occasionally, I fall off the wagon and BINGE. It sucks but it happens. Still, next day I get right back on the wagon again. Over time the binges have become less frequent, so that's improvement.

    Just don't give up, no matter what. Your life is worth it. It may take years but that's ok. As a general rule great things don't happen over night.