When are we good enough and IPV?

  • 1001H

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    May 21, 2013 2:01 PM GMT
    Many things in my life fall to the territory that is in between, including visiting RJ forum. And two things in particular keep drumming in my head in that space between posts. So many guys here who are self-motivated, directed, disciplined, and driven. I wonder when is this enough? When does the sense of self-worth become absolutely innate and undeniable? Not demand some proof or program? Is acceptance and self-love always present even before you go to the gym, when you are still above your desired weight, when you are not in a relationship (and want to be)? And what if someone is less than perfectly motivated and disciplined? The second issue, kind of related to this, is about IPV. I wrote my story about this but it would not fit on this page, so had to put it on my profile icon_sad.gif. Maybe the pronouns need to be switched for some guys to make it more personal, my apologies. Surely, there are more than a few of us in denial, or not entirely, but simply stuck, unable to end what is demeaning and no longer works. Discipline and self-actualization aside. This IPV thing really does exist and its costs are really big.
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    May 25, 2013 5:18 PM GMT
    What do you mean by "I wonder when is this enough? When does the sense of self-worth become absolutely innate and undeniable?"
    Enough for what? and, when you say 'self worth' do you mean confidence? Or self-conceited?
  • LJay

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    May 25, 2013 5:43 PM GMT
    IPV? What do the letters stand for?
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    May 25, 2013 5:52 PM GMT
    LJay saidIPV? What do the letters stand for?

    I think it's 'Intimate Partner Violence'