Summer fling with expiry date

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    May 22, 2013 12:30 AM GMT
    A few months ago I met an awesome guy, who unfortunately just happened to be just visiting on a school trip. We hung out as friends and fooled arund for 5 days, until he had to leave to finish his school term. Now school is out and he's back in town living with his family, until the fall, when he is going overseas to study.

    He says he's not interested in sleeping around for 4 months and wants to have a summer fling, while letting me continue looking for a long-term boyfriend. It smells a bit like a half-open relationship, but I'm seriously considering it. We also look very good together (mostly him lol). My friends keep saying that I hit the jackpot, so I might as well hold onto it as long as I can. Except can one really enjoy a relationship with a set expiry date?
  • Christoforos

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    May 22, 2013 1:34 AM GMT
    You're 24 years old, but you lack the wisdom to make the right decision?

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    Looks to me like you like this guy. You will very certainly be hurt in the end if you go through with this.

  • whytehot

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    May 22, 2013 1:39 AM GMT
    ^^ But RJ dogma says that as long as a contract is signed and you are consenting adults, no one can judge!
  • calibro

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    May 22, 2013 4:28 AM GMT
    has no one seen grease?
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    May 22, 2013 4:56 AM GMT
    Yea I've been there. I actually met him on here. It was one of the greatest summers that I have ever had.

    I'm so glad he and I met each other. I learned a lot about life amongst other things. And because we both knew he was leaving I think we both did not allow ourselves to get too romantically attached nor fall in love.

    My advice would be just be live with no regrets but be a realist and protect your heart.
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    May 22, 2013 5:13 AM GMT
    Nspyerf8 saidYea I've been there. I actually met him on here. It was one of the greatest summers that I have ever had.

    I'm so glad he and I met each other. I learned a lot about life amongst other things. And because we both knew he was leaving I think we both did not allow ourselves to get too romantically attached nor fall in love.

    My advice would be just be live with no regrets but be a realist and protect your heart.


    Same sentiments. Don't deny yourself the enjoyment just because you know it'll end. All things end. But just be grounded and know which direction you are heading, which in this case is nowhere.
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    May 22, 2013 6:20 AM GMT
    Cold warriors* will recognize MAD. The doctrine of Mutually Assured Disposability.
    Low pressure, easy living, chance for a cool summer.

    *and Douglas Coupland fans.
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    May 22, 2013 6:42 AM GMT
    Dude, have fun while you can and have it. Seems like the agreement is mutual.
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    May 22, 2013 11:45 AM GMT
    Go ahead and have a great summer with this guy.

    None of us can say for sure how long a relationship will last.

    If you like him and have a few months you can spend together, why not create some great memories to last a lifetime?
  • Christoforos

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    May 22, 2013 10:23 PM GMT
    Sashaman saidGo ahead and have a great summer with this guy.

    None of us can say for sure how long a relationship will last.

    If you like him and have a few months you can spend together, why not create some great memories to last a lifetime?


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  • HottJoe

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    May 22, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
    At 33 I regret the times I said no and treasure the times I said yes.
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    May 22, 2013 10:36 PM GMT
    I started seeing a guy in January even though I knew he would be moving in July. Well July is almost here and turns out I am moving first.

    There was always an expiration date for this time period but that never stopped me. I care about him deeply and who knows maybe one day in the future we could end up in the same city.

    Don't rule something about because he is leaving, this has been easily 5 of the most enjoyable months and it is all because of this guy.
  • LJay

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    May 22, 2013 10:45 PM GMT
    Seems to me that if you both know what you are doing and you play it safe in bed, you could have a great time. You may end up communicating after the summer, or you may not. That sort of situation is not unlike a lot of relationships which are not so well defined in advance.

    ou might look at is a having built-in insurance. Parting does not have to be traumatic and you can just relax and have a pleasant summer. Go for it.
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    May 22, 2013 11:04 PM GMT
    I'd welcome a summer fling. Come to think of it a winter, spring, or autumn fling would be nice too.
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    May 23, 2013 12:23 AM GMT
    My relationship started as a summer fling. 20 years in September.Results not typical.

    Just go for it and have a great time.
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    May 23, 2013 12:40 AM GMT
    You can set a fling expiration date on a calendar, but can you set one on your heart?

    That's the question here. Maybe yes, maybe no.

    If yes, then have a fling, have fun. If no, then beware.
  • whytehot

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    May 24, 2013 12:19 AM GMT
    TheChrisGuy said
    Nspyerf8 saidYea I've been there. I actually met him on here. It was one of the greatest summers that I have ever had.

    I'm so glad he and I met each other. I learned a lot about life amongst other things. And because we both knew he was leaving I think we both did not allow ourselves to get too romantically attached nor fall in love.

    My advice would be just be live with no regrets but be a realist and protect your heart.


    Same sentiments. Don't deny yourself the enjoyment just because you know it'll end. All things end. But just be grounded and know which direction you are heading, which in this case is nowhere.


    It's more like trying to do a home-makeover in a rental apartment. It's guaranteed to be sloppy if you know you're moving out at the end of the year. Not a real relationship.
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    May 24, 2013 3:21 AM GMT
    ART_DECO saidYou can set a fling expiration date on a calendar, but can you set one on your heart?

    That's the question here. Maybe yes, maybe no.

    If yes, then have a fling, have fun. If no, then beware.


    This! As long as you don't form an emotional bond with him, you'll be fine! Otherwise, you're going to think about him constantly once he leaves the country.