Calling all extroverts and introverts out there, what is your opinion on each other?

  • breaktheice

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    May 22, 2013 4:22 AM GMT
    I'm really introverted and shy.

    Curious to see your answers:
    1. on the scale where do you lie?
    2. how do you view your counterpart?
    3. what do you think it means to be introverted or extroverted?
    4. what problems do you think yours and your counterpart will have?

    To make it simple without going into deep psychology crap:

    Introverts: like to spend time by themselves because they tend to get drained if they spend their usually time interacting with people.

    extroverts: like to spend time with others because they can get restless or bored if they stay by themselves usually.

    Everybody learns to develop their other sides, especially as you get older, which is why you should think of it as a continuum rather than Yes or No.

    just to make it clear, shyness is not introversion. You can be shy and introverted, however, you can also be introverted without the shyness. Think of the confident reserved guy at work.

    I'm using a continuum of this:

    introverted -10-----------0-----------10 extrovert
  • BloodFlame

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    May 22, 2013 10:43 PM GMT
    Hm this sounds interesting...

    I'm introverted and shy (working on it though).

    1. I'm probably 3 on the scale you presented. I'm pretty shy but I'm not as painfully shy as I was in my pre-teen/teen years.
    2. I like the genuinely nice extroverted people. The people who are happy and joyful. Now the pompous people who are extroverted and put down others, I don't like those kinds of people. This goes for other cynically inclined introverts too.
    3. Pretty much social acquisition. Introverted = shy, a bit quiet, don't mind spending time by themselves, etc. Extroverted = Jubilant, people person, very confident, and talkative.
    4. For fellow introverts, definitely shyness. I feel we have a harder time opening up to people and some even have trouble talking to others and making friends. I know I have that problem which is why I'm working on it. Extroverts may have the disadvantage of having fake friends who slam them behind their back. I know this can happen to introverts too but you know what I mean.
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    May 22, 2013 11:02 PM GMT
    Elysian_Field is very mature for his age, really nice reply.
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    May 23, 2013 12:39 AM GMT
    sparemints saidI'm really introverted and shy.

    Curious to see your answers:
    1. on the scale where do you lie?
    2. how do you view your counterpart?
    3. what do you think it means to be introverted or extroverted?
    4. what problems do you think yours and your counterpart will have?

    ...

    I'm using a continuum of this:

    introverted -10-----------0-----------10 extrovert


    1. I'm somewhere between -9 and -7. Though, among a group of close friends, I become suspiciously gregarious for an introvert icon_wink.gif

    2. Extroverts are like women: can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em

    3. Introversion is simply a natural preference for solitude; and also a preference for depth rather than breadth.

    4. Introverts tend to build walls. I'm very selective of who I open up to (not like THAT you sickos icon_wink.gif ). It causes lots of missed opportunities for fulfilling relationships - platonic or otherwise. Extroverts (at least the ones I know personally) have a greater vulnerability to herd mentalities that can dampen individuality and original thought.
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    May 23, 2013 10:46 PM GMT
    I am an extrovert, maybe a 5 or 6. I have given a talk to 250 people in a lecture theatre before, and found it fun. However, i am not enough of an extrovert to be that person going round a party talking to strangers all night. I find introverts nice enough, but people walk over them too much. Also, when an introvert is doing a job meant for an extrovert it causes all sorts of problems!

    The answer already given about the difference between introverts and extroverts pretty much nailed it. I like to work in a busy office, talk to lots of people and come home to a house full of housemates to banter with.

    I have found if I am in a room full of introverts, they seem to think I am an annoying loudmouth! So I prefer to avoid those situations icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 23, 2013 10:54 PM GMT
    One of my college professors introduced herself by saying she is an extrovert...and a feminist. You could have heard a pin drop. And then she passed around organ donor forms....

    It's fine being an extrovert. Just don't be an ass.
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    May 23, 2013 11:41 PM GMT
    In my teens I became introverted & shy. I dunno why, though some serious head traumas may be the cause. An Army career forced me to project myself more forcefully, especially when in leadership positions, though in private social situations I still held back. Today I continue to have shy moments, but I sorta step out of myself, like I did in the Army, and give myself a conscious shove when needed. With the result that most people think I'm an extrovert. I'm not sure I really am, even now.

    I guess the point being that we can go through phases in this regard, we may not be the same way all our lives. And our willpower and desire can overcome any natural shyness or introversion.

    As for my opinion of others: loud, show-off extroverts irritate me, and shy introverts break my heart, so that I want to shepherd them to social success if I can.
  • Timbales

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    May 23, 2013 11:53 PM GMT
    I'm more introverted. I tend to be quiet in larger groups don't really open up until I know someone and are comfortable with them. I can get up and give a presentation in a room full of strangers, but in a social situation I hang to the edges and talk to the person or people I know.
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    May 24, 2013 12:03 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    Timbales saidI'm more introverted. I tend to be quiet in larger groups don't really open up until I know someone and are comfortable with them. I can get up and give a presentation in a room full of strangers, but in a social situation I hang to the edges and talk to the person or people I know.

    You know me. icon_smile.gif


    Do I? icon_twisted.gif
  • thatirishbast...

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    May 24, 2013 12:04 AM GMT
    I can't really say. At a party, I'm the one getting everyone drunk behind the bar, so I can't afford to be introverted and being extroverted leads to more discussions about cankles and incest then is healthy.
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    May 24, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    1. I'm probably a 4-5 on the scale. I can be very introverted or very extroverted depending on the situation. One on one I'm almost always very extroverted. In a group, I fade in the background more.

    2. I like all people who are friendly, regardless of whether they are shy or outgoing. That doesn't weigh into my feelings at all.
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    May 24, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    I'm an extrovert around 7 to 8. I have about 700 Facebook friends and at one point in my life, I have sat down and had a conversation with each of them. But I do occasionally need some "me" time so that's why I'm not a 10.
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    May 24, 2013 5:01 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidI'm an extrovert around 7 to 8. I have about 700 Facebook friends and at one point in my life, I have sat down and had a conversation with each of them. But I do occasionally need some "me" time so that's why I'm not a 10.


    700?! Wow...that is impressive! I need to get some tips from you on effective social networking icon_biggrin.gif

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    May 24, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
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    Erik101 saidI'm an extrovert around 7 to 8. I have about 700 Facebook friends and at one point in my life, I have sat down and had a conversation with each of them. But I do occasionally need some "me" time so that's why I'm not a 10.


    700?! Wow...that is impressive! I need to get some tips from you on effective social networking icon_biggrin.gif



    It'll cost you! jkjk icon_razz.gificon_cool.gif