one of the worst feelings in your life

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    May 22, 2013 4:35 PM GMT
    One of the worst feelings a person can experience in his/her life is when people are asking or expecting too much from you than you can give at your best and you're either helpless to say 'no' or they don't take 'no' as an answer.

    & yes, today is one of the worst days in my life.

    too many people...
    one is asking me to do something
    the other is expecting something from me
    one is giving suggestion
    and the other is judging me
    one thinks I'm too wise for my age
    and the other thinks I'm too naive

    phew...as many different views and expectations as there are as many people. (Is the sentence in right order?)
    Currently, I'm trying to ignore everything and distract myself or focus on something else like music, writing, reading book etc.,.
    /End of rant

    Anyway, post here one of your worst feelings in your life and what have you done to stay away from it or overcome it...
    Sometimes it feels good and relieving to share your inner feelings with a stranger than someone close to you...So, don't hesitate, let your frustration escape from you through a stranger and you may feel relaxed. ;-)
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    May 22, 2013 5:38 PM GMT
    To me, unrequited love is pretty much the most painful feeling humans can go through short of maybe physical torture.

    Wanting someone so bad it makes you ache, while knowing it's impossible for them to ever feel even a fraction of what you feel. The fantasies, the mind games, the clinging to hope when it doesn't exist. Seeing them with other people, knowing they get to have what you can only dream of. The depression, the anguish, etc.

    And it's the one thing you can pretty much do nothing about. Physical illness/pain can be treated or minimized. Unrequited love tears you apart and you have to suffer and endure it.
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    May 22, 2013 7:59 PM GMT
    To me the biggest pain is rejection, when i'm rejected or not being accepted as gay or any form of disrespect, gee that's a lot. Sadly I have to get over it by being mean or exploding on them and I'm trying very hard to work on that. When some 1 or many are expecting too much of you, tell them (I don't want to be mean but it has to come straight out) that they were wrong for expecting so much from you, because you are 1 person, capable of so much, you can't do everything they want and if they hurt because you can't meet their expectations than tell them it's their own fault for expecting. And they got a good life lesson learned don't expect certain things from people, DO IT YOURSELF!!! (Well if you can)
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    May 22, 2013 9:44 PM GMT
    1) Betrayal of a close friend or family member.

    2) Death of a loved one.

    Though I suspect that after a few decades those two reverse order as the betrayer falls to the wayside. But it definitely hurts more earlier on because though a loved one dying on you is rude, there's no excuse for betrayal.

    3) Reading the Pizza thread or its sequel, Mental Health.

    4) A ruptured disc

    5) Arthritis
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    May 23, 2013 4:37 AM GMT
    Being shot through my chest by a doped up thief who was robbing our house when I was 17 years old. Nothing ever hurt so much. Never did I imagine seeing so much blood. Never was I more afraid I was going to die. Never was I more afraid the shooter would see that I wasn't dead and come closer to finish me off. But I lived. A friend was there and called the ambulance. I made it to the hospital and survived (obviously!)

    Best feeling? Living / surviving. That shooting made me grateful every day for life and all the good people I know.
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    May 23, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    Probably the worse feeling was when i came out to my mom. She originally took it pretty badly and for about a week wouldn't even look at me. It surprised me because i thought my dad would be the one "rejecting" it, but ended up being the one who took it the best. Probably did not deal with it in the best way, stayed away from home for a couple weeks (this happened during christmas break when i was back from school) and went out pretty much every night to try and take my mind off of it.Took my mom a couple months to come around and everything is great today. Although, i still haven't forgotten what that felt like to be rejected by one of my parents. Not a feeling i wish to have again.
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    May 23, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    For me, nothing's worse than being in a committed relationship and still feeling lonely. icon_sad.gif
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    May 23, 2013 4:43 AM GMT
    @Fiyero27
    I can understand your feeling...been there before but in a different situation...
    Yes, unrequited love is very hard to cope with...It's very sad that the other person pays no attention to you or simply they just don't realize that someone has feelings for them.
    On the other hand, as the time goes on it makes us emotionally stronger. we'll know how the other person feels like because we have experienced the same. Not only this but we can manage almost any kind of situation and we can be very supportive to others.
    Though the scars may heal, the pain retains...and this pain is the constant reminder that keeps us stronger. And a day come, when we are strong enough to withstand, memories will not cause pain anymore.
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    May 23, 2013 4:54 AM GMT
    @QuasarMarauder7
    Thanks for your suggestion...but the problem is I cannot say no to people especially when they ask me for help.
    If anyone asks me for help, I will definitely help them except when it's beyond my capabilities or when it has something to do with 'illegal'

    That's is what I worry about...when I say 'no', some people don't take it...they just want me to do(it's quite rare)
    In this case, it's my father asking me to do something which I don't like to do at all. but he's keep on insisting me, compelling me to do and also he's a bit short tempered person. :-/
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 23, 2013 5:30 AM GMT
    To OP .... Learn to say
    No.jpg






    Worst Feeling:
    walking into a crowded place and realizing your zipper is down and if you make a move to zip up, everyone will see you do it
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    May 23, 2013 7:00 AM GMT
    No. The worst feeling...

    This image.

    The_Falling_Man.jpg

    It is called "The Falling Man". And it encapsulates the most anguish of anything I've ever known. Not having been in NYC at the time to witness 9/11, it eluded my young, naive mind that people were jumping from those heights. And some perhaps didn't intend to jump, but fell out of confusion amid the smoke and flames in the building.

    I don't think any other feeling can compare to the anguish, either felt by the witnesses seeing people fall or those who were falling from the building. Gruesome, violent, horrific...

    I can imagine myself being there though. And I hear this song as everything was unfolding...



    And there's one particular moment, right at 3:30 in the movie, where the violins play the note just as she's about to sing "Remember me!" again. I imagine at that gesture the man losing his footing amid the smoke and fire inside, and he begins to fall. And I'm at a distance watching, and I just wanna shout "Jesus Christ!" and scream bloody murder at the top of my lungs in horror while watching him free fall.
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    May 23, 2013 9:14 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidTo OP .... Learn to say
    No.jpg
    Worst Feeling:
    walking into a crowded place and realizing your zipper is down and if you make a move to zip up, everyone will see you do it

    Ha ha good one.
    Actually I am learning, I'm a lot better than I was few years ago in saying 'no', the progress is good but quite slow. Thanks
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    May 23, 2013 9:37 AM GMT
    Just woke up here in the middle of the night with terrible heartburn - does that count? icon_lol.gif While I'm waiting for the Tums and water to take effect, my answer:


    Physical: Anaphylactic shock. A terrible mix of extreme nausea, painful itching all down your digestive tract, chest tightness and a powerful instinct that you're about to die, as paramedics swarm around you. Terrifying. I ended up getting diagnosed with PTSD after my last bout. I overcame it by a mix of therapy and learning to exert very careful control over the food I eat to avoid allergens as best I can.

    Mental: Being in the closet. That nagging fear that people might not accept me and I'd end up isolated and unloved. Overcame that my being brave and coming out (which, in my case, ended up with a best case scenario, I'm happy to say).

    Okay, back to bed... icon_smile.gif
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    May 23, 2013 9:49 AM GMT
    @mrazor99
    Yes, it's not a feeling anyone wish to have.

    @jackbod48
    you're very fortunate to survive
    It's really great that you made something good out of worst, you must have went through a lot.

    @great_Scott
    Why? Had any fight or misunderstanding?
    coz, even when you're surrounded by people who love you, you'll feel lonely when the other person don't know what you think or what you want or sometimes when people are like always 'me, I' instead of 'you, we, us'
    If you still have those feelings now, have a talk.

    @sunjbill
    I feel for your loss & no, it's not your fault, you loved & took care of your dog, only this counts.
    I think if the cause of death is due to a faulty surgery, it's the doctor you have to blame on, not on yourself.

    @Scotticvs
    That's emotional, terrifying, dramatic and tragic.
    perhaps these are one of those incidents in which both the victim and the witness felt alike.

    @theantijock
    1.betrayal is one of the worst sins, to come out of it, the best possible way I could think of for now is forgiving and stay away from them at least until they change.
    2.I'm sorry for your loss, we cannot bring back people from death, but the memories they leave with us will be cherished forever.
    3.Don't read anything about pizza.
    4.Take care of your health...health is the highest treasure a person can achieve & of all types of health, mental health is supreme.
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    May 23, 2013 10:06 AM GMT
    @dc0776
    Heartburn? is it because of 'GERD'?
    If it is...try buttermilk or Yogurt or lassi(if available at your place) instead of medicine...
    it works great for many people. I advice you to try this once or for a while instead of regular medicine.

    It's great that you're cautious and congrats for daring your fears to come out.