"You're hot for a black guy"

  • deep388

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    May 22, 2013 10:48 PM GMT
    So, I don't want to turn this into another one of "those threads", but I feel it needed to be addressed.Someone thought it was rather pleasant to make this rather distasteful statement and send it in a message to me today. Although I'm not "black" in the sense that "Black" denotes someone of African background etc, I feel personally offended as a person of colour to receive such comments in the guise of a "compliment". icon_evil.gif I mean, what? I'm suppose to feel good getting such a compliment because I'm not white?? Has anyone ever received this sort of "compliment", and what was your reaction?
  • LoveAndPeace

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    May 22, 2013 11:36 PM GMT
    I haven't because I'm fugly but I understand your reaction.There are a lot of idiots on the internet.
  • TroyAthlete

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    May 22, 2013 11:50 PM GMT
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    May 22, 2013 11:54 PM GMT
    Just wait for a couple of years, then it will be:

    Wow, you are actually pretty hot for a black guy your age...
  • Christoforos

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    May 23, 2013 12:00 AM GMT
    All the fucking time. I respond with something along the lines of "I usually find guys of race-x to be ugly as fuck, but you're definitely an exception."
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    May 23, 2013 12:30 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidJust wait for a couple of years, then it will be:

    Wow, you are actually pretty hot for a black guy your age...

    LOL! Though maybe age & race are apples & oranges.

    When I was about 10 years younger I'd get those "great for your age" compliments. And I couldn't help but like them, to be told I looked young for my age. Needless to say I don't get them today, BTW. icon_sad.gif

    But a "hot for your race" compliment isn't quite the same. What's the gold-standard of comparison implied here? Being White? Young versus old are transitions we all (hopefully) will go through, but race is immutable.

    What would I think if somebody said to me I looked hot for a White guy? I dunno, nobody ever said that to me. I guess if it was a non-White guy I might think it's a compliment of sorts, meaning he normally only thinks his own race is hot, but he's including me, too, for having a sort of a transcendental hotness. icon_question.gif

    Does he mean that Whites aren't normally hot? Or similarly, that Blacks or other races aren't normally hot to Whites?

    Well, my head begins to hurt trying to sort this out. But I can tell you that a hot man is a hot man, and I'd rather we just left out the "for a..." part.
  • LoveAndPeace

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    May 23, 2013 12:55 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    LoveAndPeace saidI haven't because I'm fugly but I understand your reaction.There are a lot of idiots on the internet.

    Oh knock it off, you're cute as hell.
    I'm hideous arggg *runs away with a tub of choclate icecream*
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    May 23, 2013 1:15 AM GMT
    Yeah I get thoes comments too...

    I dont take it to heart tho. I think they are usually just trying to say your not their usual type but something about you attracted them. No its not the most politically correct way to compliment someone but I dont think people usually give compliments in hopes of offending the person on the reciving end. Not to say everyones intention are pure, I just think most are. One of my close friends came out and told me that I was really attractive for a black guy and he usually does not find them attractive. I didnt get offended because I already knew his preference and his intentions for telling me that. Idk... I guess I like to give people the benefit. Im a glass half full type of guy icon_wink.gif
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    May 23, 2013 2:00 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidJust wait for a couple of years, then it will be:

    Wow, you are actually pretty hot for a black guy your age...


    Assuming that this backhanded compliment came from a total stranger and not one of your friends trying to be funny, you can
    Think "asshole" and ignore it
    Correct him and start a conversation
    Give him some sass back (like: you have great taste, for a white guy)

    But don't over analyze. Life's to short
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    May 23, 2013 7:55 AM GMT
    Yeah, I never know how to react to those "compliments" either.

    It's similar to people saying "you look good for your age" to an older guy.
  • DarkSensation

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    May 23, 2013 10:18 AM GMT
    To be honest, It's not Nice but I Usually accept it, if it means I will get Laid Now

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  • Christoforos

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    May 23, 2013 5:58 PM GMT
    LoveAndPeace said
    Aristoshark said
    LoveAndPeace saidI haven't because I'm fugly but I understand your reaction.There are a lot of idiots on the internet.

    Oh knock it off, you're cute as hell.
    I'm hideous arggg *runs away with a tub of choclate icecream*


    There's nothing cute or virtuous about downplaying your own beauty.
  • Christoforos

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    May 23, 2013 5:59 PM GMT
    Slim2010 saidYeah, I never know how to react to those "compliments" either.

    It's similar to people saying "you look good for your age" to an older guy.


    No, everyone ages. Race is immutable, as stated before.
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    May 23, 2013 6:07 PM GMT
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    Slim2010 saidYeah, I never know how to react to those "compliments" either.

    It's similar to people saying "you look good for your age" to an older guy.


    No, everyone ages. Race is immutable, as stated before.


    Yes, but neither of those factors (race and age) is within your control.
  • Havic

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    May 23, 2013 6:09 PM GMT
    Have you had a person ask you how dark a certain area of your anatomy was compared to the rest of your body
  • Havic

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    May 23, 2013 7:27 PM GMT
    [quote]Did you ask them if it mattered?[/quote]

    Yes and he said its was not dark enough for him and i was like wtf that alone almost mad me give up trying to talk to guys on here.
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    May 23, 2013 7:32 PM GMT
    DarkSensation said

    Each Negro for Themselves icon_lol.gif


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    I cant stop laughing
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    May 23, 2013 7:38 PM GMT
    What i'm going to start doing when a white guy starts talking to me.

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    May 23, 2013 7:39 PM GMT
    Mesmer saidWhat i'm going to start doing when a white guy starts talking to me.

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    Aren't you white? icon_confused.gif
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    May 23, 2013 7:41 PM GMT
    BlackCat90 said
    Mesmer saidWhat i'm going to start doing when a white guy starts talking to me.

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    Aren't you white? icon_confused.gif


    No, he's Latino, right?
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    May 23, 2013 7:42 PM GMT
    Slim2010 said
    BlackCat90 said
    Mesmer saidWhat i'm going to start doing when a white guy starts talking to me.

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    Aren't you white? icon_confused.gif


    No, he's Latino, right?


    I'm half Spanish, if you consider that Latino.
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    May 23, 2013 7:43 PM GMT
    Mesmer said
    Slim2010 said
    BlackCat90 said
    Mesmer saidWhat i'm going to start doing when a white guy starts talking to me.

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    Aren't you white? icon_confused.gif


    No, he's Latino, right?


    I'm half Spanish, if you consider that Latino.


    What's the other half?
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    May 23, 2013 7:58 PM GMT
    BlackCat90 said
    Mesmer said
    Slim2010 said
    BlackCat90 said
    Mesmer saidWhat i'm going to start doing when a white guy starts talking to me.

    walkingaway.gif


    Aren't you white? icon_confused.gif


    No, he's Latino, right?


    I'm half Spanish, if you consider that Latino.


    What's the other half?


    Do I have to say it? icon_redface.gif I don't like saying my ethnicity, guys might find me unattractive and decide not to date me anymore.

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    May 23, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
    Mesmer said
    BlackCat90 said
    Mesmer said
    Slim2010 said
    BlackCat90 said
    Mesmer saidWhat i'm going to start doing when a white guy starts talking to me.

    walkingaway.gif


    Aren't you white? icon_confused.gif


    No, he's Latino, right?


    I'm half Spanish, if you consider that Latino.


    What's the other half?


    Do I have to say it? icon_redface.gif I don't like saying my ethnicity, guys might find me unattractive and decide not to date me anymore.



    Yeah, you gotta say it. Don't get mad if we decide to stop talking to you. . . icon_lol.gif
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    May 23, 2013 8:05 PM GMT
    Slim2010 said
    Mesmer said
    BlackCat90 said
    Mesmer said
    Slim2010 said
    BlackCat90 said
    Mesmer saidWhat i'm going to start doing when a white guy starts talking to me.

    walkingaway.gif


    Aren't you white? icon_confused.gif


    No, he's Latino, right?


    I'm half Spanish, if you consider that Latino.


    What's the other half?


    Do I have to say it? icon_redface.gif I don't like saying my ethnicity, guys might find me unattractive and decide not to date me anymore.



    Yeah, you gotta say it. Don't get mad if we decide to stop talking to you. . . icon_lol.gif



    icon_cry.gif i'm.. *voice quivers*... i'm.. . half. . * hyperventilates and passes out*