You want what you can't have.

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    May 22, 2013 11:24 PM GMT
    I'm not sure if this is a normal self-conscience, but it seems like I envy when a hot guy is taken, but in the long run i know it wouldn't work out even if he was interested in me.


    Damn! My mind must be fucked up!

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  • calibro

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    May 23, 2013 3:10 AM GMT
    no, you're not normal.
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    May 23, 2013 3:13 AM GMT
    I want a Bugatti Veyron, and a personal jet, and a huge mansion on my own private island.
  • calibro

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    May 23, 2013 3:14 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI want a Bugatti Veyron, and a personal jet, and a huge mansion on my own private island.


    you'd settle for five minutes with coach mike's biceps
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    May 23, 2013 3:18 AM GMT
    Ain't that the truth!!!
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    May 23, 2013 8:18 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI want a Bugatti Veyron, and a personal jet, and a huge mansion on my own private island.


    And I shall wear hats and colourful suits and rename myself 'Jay Gatsby'
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    May 23, 2013 9:19 AM GMT
    That usually doesn't happen to me. I completely understand when it does though, thats human nature.
  • RollDontWalk

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    May 23, 2013 3:49 PM GMT
    Buppi saidI'm not sure if this is a normal self-conscience, but it seems like I envy when a hot guy is taken, but in the long run i know it wouldn't work out even if he was interested in me.


    Damn! My mind must be fucked up!

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    Yeah, your mind is fuckd up .... I need to feel that I have a chance with someone to be even attracted to them... no chance = no attraction. I think this is just healthy sense of self worth.
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    May 23, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
    calibro said
    paulflexes saidI want a Bugatti Veyron, and a personal jet, and a huge mansion on my own private island.


    you'd settle for five minutes with coach mike's biceps
    QFT
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    May 23, 2013 4:27 PM GMT
    I can't wait for the sequel to this thread: you don't know what you've got 'til it's gone.
  • mybud

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    May 23, 2013 4:47 PM GMT
    Put on yo steel toed work boots and kick yo self in duh ass....
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    May 23, 2013 6:05 PM GMT
    Buppi saidI'm not sure if this is a normal self-conscience, but it seems like I envy when a hot guy is taken, but in the long run i know it wouldn't work out even if he was interested in me.


    Damn! My mind must be fucked up!

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    If a hot guy is interested in you, please elaborate why it wont work in the long run.
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    May 23, 2013 7:50 PM GMT
    datscarf saidIs it possible to have what you don't want?


    Of course it is.
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    May 23, 2013 8:22 PM GMT
    calibro said
    paulflexes saidI want a Bugatti Veyron, and a personal jet, and a huge mansion on my own private island.


    you'd settle for five minutes with coach mike's biceps


    Lesbihonest here. I think we all would.
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    May 23, 2013 8:29 PM GMT
    It seems like every time I want a guy for some reason I can't have him. So it seems true for me. I wonder if can have what I don't want?
  • BloodFlame

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    May 23, 2013 9:01 PM GMT
    QuasarMarauder7 saidIt seems like every time I want a guy for some reason I can't have him. So it seems true for me. I wonder if can have what I don't want?


    You probably could.

  • May 24, 2013 12:50 AM GMT
    Buppi saidI'm not sure if this is a normal self-conscience, but it seems like I envy when a hot guy is taken, but in the long run i know it wouldn't work out even if he was interested in me.


    Damn! My mind must be fucked up!

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    There was a time, before these iPhone apps and Internet chat rooms created a society where over 85% of gay men became shut-ins and actually ventured out in real life, took risks, and every day was an adventure at local (well established) gay places. You never knew who you were going to meet...that hot Latin mechanic who decided today was the day he wanted to meet other guys, and you met and started dating, or just hooked up with that guy you'd seen around but wasn't entirely sure he was gay...or maybe some guy who wasn't really your type but after seeing him a few times couldn't help becoming interested in each other.

    What we have today can't replace that, and the days of spontaneity are long gone. Now are laundry lists of 'you better be this, this and that; look like this, dress like this, drive this kind of car or don't even talk to me.'

    No wonder nobody meets anyone.

    No wonder we all hate each other.

    No wonder so many gay men are killing themselves.

    Life is extremely lonely and hopeless when you realize more than anything that you're gay only to now discover you don't have access to other like minded gay men because they're all hiding at home waiting for you to say something first, arrange to meet, then they never show up because they can't be seen with another guy in public. Because that makes it real, and this group of gay guys is completely lacking in any adult social skills, ompassion or empathy.

    It's about getting off to pics of straight guys online and then pretending it never happened. These guys will never benefit from gay marriage - they can't even bring themselves to meet another gay person in real life.

    The danger has gone from the cute 'wanting what they can't have' to the tragedy of self-isolation being able to function as a healthy gay man who will likely die of suicide, but because so many of these men kept their desires so well hidden online, we will never know for sure if they were gay or severely isolated.

    I do think we are living in an age of a digital closet, which is worse than before because there's even less incentive to come out when these guys see via chat rooms and profiles what's really waiting for them after they come out, and its not at all what they had hoped for. So they give up.
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    May 24, 2013 12:53 AM GMT
    I always get what I want
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    May 24, 2013 3:39 AM GMT
    Buppi saidI'm not sure if this is a normal self-conscience, but it seems like I envy when a hot guy is taken, but in the long run i know it wouldn't work out even if he was interested in me.



    What makes you think so? Elaborate!