Where to "Really" meet a guy.

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    May 23, 2013 10:38 PM GMT
    [size=12]Okay I am not a spring chicken, don't have a six pack like most of you who are reading this. But outside of the gross dudes on Craigslist, and Adam 4 Adam. Where do you meet a cool guy to date? Is it a mythological place? does it exist? Any suggestions?[/size]

    Also I have seen quite a few of seriously hot guys on this site (almost everyone on here) and there is a large number of you that are single, What gives?
    Is everyone in your town blind. You guys make me sick because you are so hot, but single.

    Give me a shout out and let me know what is going on.

    Thanks,

    Gregg
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    May 24, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    Did you just break up?
    If so, you just need 3 months or so to get used to it.
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  • Timbales

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    May 24, 2013 1:36 AM GMT
    If you are looking for a relationship, then the best way (in my opinion) is through friends and getting out there doing things you are interested in.
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    May 24, 2013 1:48 AM GMT
    Timbales saidIf you are looking for a relationship, then the best way (in my opinion) is through friends and getting out there doing things you are interested in.


    Really?

    My friends are all straight.
    I am the only gay one they know.
  • easterndude69

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    May 24, 2013 3:08 AM GMT
    Timbales saidIf you are looking for a relationship, then the best way (in my opinion) is through friends and getting out there doing things you are interested in.


    I guess this method could work, but it hasn't proven to be fruitful for my situation. I guess it's all a situational occurrence though and you just gotta keep meeting ppl and going about your life. Yeah, that sounds like a crappy method, but sadly, there is no definitive way to meet up with guys that are dating material other than the rare encounters online or through clubs. Keep trying though and don't give up.
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    May 24, 2013 3:28 AM GMT
    Being hot doesn't make a guy a good catch. Even hot guys have personal issues just like everyone else.
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    May 24, 2013 3:35 AM GMT
    gayusasian82 said
    Timbales saidIf you are looking for a relationship, then the best way (in my opinion) is through friends and getting out there doing things you are interested in.


    Really?

    My friends are all straight.
    I am the only gay one they know.


    Then go out and make some gay friends. Unless you're the only gay in the village.
  • Apparition

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    May 24, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
    there are numerous threads on why most are single:

    "they are all pussies and want someone to ask them out first"

    pretty much sums it up.

    man up, pick the hottie you like, and tell him he is now your boyfriend.
    live happily ever after for a few years with him.

    The vast majority of adult guys want a relationship and will accept that they are now in one if the other guy makes it happen.

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    If you are online dating, even the most scummy place on the web, if you write an exceedingly long profile, fully explaining you want a relationship, how it will work, exactly what sex you like, all your specifications on drugs, alcohol, disease, etc you will get what you like in under 6 months. Lots of sluts commented on my huge profile that I was crazy, but let's say 10% of the respondants wrote saying "thankyou for proving guys like you actually exist"


    If I can get a hot guy who likes to fuck and do my laundry on squirt of all places, Im sure a soldier boy can find a hotty if you promise to wear the uniform to bed. lol



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    May 24, 2013 4:03 AM GMT
    Apparition saidthere are numerous threads on why most are single:

    "they are all pussies and want someone to ask them out first"

    pretty much sums it up.



    Meh. Rejected 100% of the time. Starts to feel like it's not worth the effort, to be honest.
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    May 24, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    Hey Gregg,

    This is like a spinoff of the Forever Alone Thread, lol. http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3206096

    I totally get how you feel. I'm like that too, and wonder why these people are all single. But kindness, intelligence, experience, or even a hot body don't always translate into a relationship. It's more of a matching game, not a racing game. Not because we are not trying, but it could be the right one hasn't come.

    I wish you luck, buddy. You look good and should be proud of yourself. icon_biggrin.gif Like the others said, put yourself out there, stop waiting for a prince to rescue you, and ask the guy out yourself. Most of the time, you might get rejected, but you'll miss 100% if you don't try at all. icon_exclaim.gif

    Eric
  • calibro

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    May 24, 2013 4:58 AM GMT
    hmm... have tried spelling your name with only one "g" at the end? the second one might be intimidating the men away.
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    May 24, 2013 5:53 AM GMT
    Craigslist and A4A are for dating?
    You will have much better luck looking in places where other guys are actually looking to date.

    Single could mean a lot of things. The guy just got out of a relationship, the guy is dating around but nothing serious, the guy isn't looking for anyone, the guy wants to be in a relationship but isn't doing anything about it, the guy is having fun (hooking up, regular fb, etc and doesn't want to change things, the guy really is in a relationship but shh! don't tell his significant other.
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    May 24, 2013 6:03 AM GMT
    You want someone... GO GET IT! CHASE, STALK, HARASS!! Do whatever is necessary to claim your property. :-)

    #YOLO
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    May 24, 2013 6:44 AM GMT
    You can meet LOTS of Guys in prison!!!!





    Turn of yer computer and GO OUT.

    When you go out - put your phone AWAY.

    Make EYE CONTACT and TALK in REAL TIME in RL.

    You know - you have seen a reasonable facimlie on TV.

    Like, there's TOTES not an app for a BF....K?
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    May 24, 2013 6:54 AM GMT
    calibro saidhmm... have tried spelling your name with only one "g" at the end? the second one might be intimidating the men away.


    Seriously...I was worried he might be Canadian. icon_eek.gif
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    May 24, 2013 11:31 AM GMT
    ANDEXC saidYou want someone... GO GET IT! CHASE, STALK, HARASS!! Do whatever is necessary to claim your property. :-)

    #YOLO

    J'adore
  • helloandgoodb...

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    May 24, 2013 11:35 AM GMT
    calibro saidhmm... have tried spelling your name with only one "g" at the end? the second one might be intimidating the men away.


    the second g is for "gay"
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    May 24, 2013 11:37 AM GMT
    I've done everything suggested on this site but haven't found a date yet.
    I think location is an important factor.
    I'd ask you out in a second... But I have to see you smile first! icon_wink.gif
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    May 24, 2013 7:56 PM GMT
    turbobilly said
    calibro saidhmm... have tried spelling your name with only one "g" at the end? the second one might be intimidating the men away.


    Seriously...I was worried he might be Canadian. icon_eek.gif

    My throat will start bleeding if I start pronouncing his name in Dutch, too many Gs icon_eek.gif
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    May 25, 2013 3:12 AM GMT
    helloandgoodbi said
    calibro saidhmm... have tried spelling your name with only one "g" at the end? the second one might be intimidating the men away.


    the second g is for "gay"


    actually that is pretty funny because had I gotten my mom's maiden name my initials would be G. A. Y.


    but i got dads 10 letter german monstrosity. LOL
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    May 25, 2013 3:15 AM GMT
    CFL_Oakland said
    Apparition saidthere are numerous threads on why most are single:

    "they are all pussies and want someone to ask them out first"

    pretty much sums it up.



    Meh. Rejected 100% of the time. Starts to feel like it's not worth the effort, to be honest.


    Rejected 100% percent of the time :/ I find it real hard to believe ;)
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    May 25, 2013 3:28 AM GMT
    When I read this, the first thing that came to my mind is the quote:

    "Life is what happens when you're not looking at your smartphone"

    Get out in the real-world and I'm sure you'll have different results. Now, if only I could take this advice for myself. . .
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    May 25, 2013 4:38 AM GMT
    It doesn't matter how you find someone, what matters is that you're happy with the person you find.

    I'd say do things you enjoy and I'm sure someone will surface.