Help out a naive straight guy in the closet please. I'm wondering about gay culture as it relates to sex appeal specifically.

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    May 25, 2013 3:26 PM GMT
    You will all be seeing posts from me like this in great quantity. I'm a guy who's only learning about just how gay I feel sometimes. I've never acted on my preoccupations whatsoever. I'm a life long straight guy who's homoerotic dam seems to have burst. So...given that...I know nothing about the gay world in real time. Only superficially because I've never had the membership card. Get me?

    I wonder about things...

    Would you say that most gay guys and bi guys check out guys' buns and are turned on by nice ones? I'm sure that happens a lot...I'm not that naive...but I wonder how important that is to people in terms of attraction and lust. I'm biased. I'm ass obsessed to the bone. I evaluate EVERYONE'S ass out in the world and I'm terribly distracted when I see the kind I like icon_redface.gif If I'm to be initially attracted, cute buns are a prerequisite.

    I'm looking for comments on this...How many of you scan the world for cute buns like I do?
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    May 25, 2013 3:33 PM GMT
    gay and straight men alike do this. (women do this too!)

    as far as feeling like you aren't in the gay culture until now -- don't worry about it. just be yourself.
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    May 25, 2013 3:39 PM GMT
    Well...I'm only in it as far as this site gets me in it. Out in my real world my fullest self remains a tad...stifled.icon_cry.gif
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    May 25, 2013 3:41 PM GMT
    What can I fill you in on, Shark?
  • HottJoe

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    May 25, 2013 4:01 PM GMT
    Gay, straight, man or woman, we're all dogs. And what's the first thing dogs do when they meet each other?icon_lol.gif
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    May 25, 2013 4:28 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidGay, straight, man or woman, we're all dogs. And what's the first thing dogs do when they meet each other?icon_lol.gif


    Well played, Joe...Love that response.
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    May 25, 2013 5:10 PM GMT
    You could be bisexual/bi-curious and only now realizing that side of your attractions. Sexuality is rarely black and white. Society just tries to force it to be that way.
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    May 25, 2013 7:42 PM GMT
    I don't think you can generalize about "most" gay guys any more than you can generalize about "most" straight guys. I didn't come out until my late 20's and, even though I had a totally supportive environment in which to come out, it was still a big deal for me emotionally. So I respect that this is a big deal for you. The others who have posted that you should just "be yourself" have it right. And, at the same time, I get that you're in the process of trying to figure out just what "being yourself" actually means to you. All i can say is -- good luck and know that there is literally a world of others who can empathize with you (and this website is just a small microcosm of that world).
  • Apparition

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    May 25, 2013 7:55 PM GMT
    like any other orientation...

    the vast majority of people like well toned athletes with clear skin, adequate hair, symmetrical bodies, good educations, a well-funded lifestyle, their own clean habitation, personal transportation, a hot ass, cock sucking lips, like to fuck and snuggle, dont cheat, and make them breakfast in bed.
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    May 25, 2013 8:32 PM GMT
    Fiyero27 saidYou could be bisexual/bi-curious and only know realizing that side of your attractions. Sexuality is rarely black and white. Society just tries to force it to be that way.


    Very intelligent comment, Fiyero...My feeling is that there isn't really a 100% hetero man, but certainly some guys are predominantly hetero and don't have any sexual contact with other guys at all during their lives. But most guys--even the very hetero kind--are more than happy to get down and dirty with another guy if the opportunity presents itself, and as a friend once said to me in between swallows, "Most guys don't care who the mouth belongs to."

    So, bi guy in the closet who started this thread, my advice to you, which you didn't really ask for, is this: everything you feel is normal and you just need to decide what you want to do about it. Luckily, our society is becoming more and more willing to accept that sexuality is a continuum, not a dichotomy.
  • calibro

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    May 25, 2013 11:45 PM GMT
    please, aaron schock is straighter than you
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    May 25, 2013 11:48 PM GMT
    calibro saidplease, aaron schock is straighter than you


    I had to look him up and dear lord he's gorgeous.

    Please be secretly gay, lol.
  • LJay

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    May 25, 2013 11:57 PM GMT
    Amazing how you have built up a buddy list and hot list and posted all those pics. You have had a buy two days, or did I read your profile wrong?

    In answer to your question, guys check out guys all the time. My roommate is straight and he thinks Brad Pitt has a great ass. That's the way it is.
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    May 26, 2013 12:25 AM GMT
    i am kind of confused about what you are suggesting here on this forum. So you thought you were straight, but you are starting to realize that you exhibit sexual attractions that are not unlike what you'd see in a gay man. At the same time, your profile has photos of you cross-dressing... so I think what you need to do is to dig deeper than your mere obsession to checking out people's ass to better define your sexual orientation.
  • Joeyphx444

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    May 26, 2013 12:41 AM GMT
    What the hell is a straight guy in the closet??

    And your pics are REALLY gay btw
    You almost have the shape of a fit woman
  • TheBizMan

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    May 26, 2013 12:48 AM GMT
    Are you blind people? This is a sock account.
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    May 26, 2013 2:17 AM GMT
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  • rnch

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    May 26, 2013 2:32 AM GMT
    calibro saidplease, aaron schock is straighter than you







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    May 26, 2013 2:41 AM GMT
    I am left to conclude that while looking over the OP's profile pictures someone changed the meaning of the words naïve, straight and closet.
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    May 26, 2013 2:58 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidAre you blind people? This is a sock account.


    What's a sock account?
  • HottJoe

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    May 26, 2013 3:01 AM GMT
    Rookiebiguyinhiding said
    TheBizMan saidAre you blind people? This is a sock account.


    What's a sock account?


    It means he suspects you're a fake.... If you're real, don't take it personally. It takes time. Also, getting verified helps.icon_wink.gif
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    May 26, 2013 3:17 AM GMT
    There's such an array of comments here, I don't know where to begin.

    -A straight guy in the closet? I thought I was being clear with that. I'm a man who has traditionally been straight for all of time. I've never been with a guy in any sexual capacity. However, I feel very very gay sometimes and I don't act on it. Is that not your typical straight guy in the closet? I don't get why that was a question.

    -Someone suggested I dig deeper than checking out asses to figure this out! Are you kidding?! My mind DEFAULTS to my sexuality as I dissect it without pause every waking moment. I tirelessly ponder the cosmic ramifications of my homoerotic waves...you just couldn't imagine...I dig deeper than this flimsy question suggests on a constant basis. It draws more brain power than most anything else rattling around in my brain.

    -I have no idea who Aaron Schock is.

    -What does it mean when you say I changed the meaning of naive, straight and closet? What did I change them to?

    -Some of you said some very sweet things. Thank you.

    Sorry if I was confusing...

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    May 26, 2013 3:22 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Rookiebiguyinhiding said
    TheBizMan saidAre you blind people? This is a sock account.


    What's a sock account?


    It means he suspects you're a fake.... If you're real, don't take it personally. It takes time. Also, getting verified helps.icon_wink.gif


    Please tell me, Joe or anybody else...If I wasn't real...what would I be? I've seen the word "bot". What's that? And are people suggesting that I may be some other dude posting stolen photos or something because I'm not "verified"? I refuse to send my face in to a website. WILL NOT do it. At least a modest approximation of privacy is important to me...
  • Kwokpot

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    May 26, 2013 4:10 AM GMT
    Joeyphx444 said
    And your pics are REALLY gay btw
    You almost have the shape of a fit woman

    Your poses in your pics are DEFINATELY on the feminine side - why did you pose for pics like that? Also your underwear choices are very out there. Your story doesn't jive.
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    May 26, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    Rookiebiguyinhiding said
    TheBizMan saidAre you blind people? This is a sock account.


    What's a sock account?


    It means you're suspected of either being southbeach in hot pants drag or Kitty Carlisle back from the dead.