Oct 28, 2008 11:20 AM GMT
Incest - is the toughest thing to consider as it has always been a thing of shame - if you have sex with your sister you'll have a deformed baby, and the reality is that I wouldn't want to have sex with my sister. She's nice, but the thing I would do is protect her against an abusive husband that thought that owning people was allowed. Now if there was a man I was involved with who had a been VERY amazing in bed and wanted to reveal that his twin brother had had sex with me on a couple of occasions when I thought I was having sex with him and they both wanted to have sex with me at the same time, there's a real question of what is shameful about that. The surprise of having had sex with someone's twin brother who liked it enough to have sex again would be a compliment. If a man found himself with a bisexual woman who wanted to have sex with her sister and him, that would be considered an article worth reading in a college campus newsletter in sex education class...
Polygamy - is only a problem because law makers were hypocritical and said that there was freedom of religion, but not really. A man was only supposed to have ONE wife. That law is illegal because it goes against the freedom of religion where people are allowed to have more than one wife. You want to have one wife only? That's your choice, don't force it on others. Protecting someone from being scammed by a con-artist who wants to bilk a lonely person (man/woman) of their life savings is committing an act of theft and fraud, not performing an act of being religious and having more than one spouse.
Threeways - if you think you have to stop letting your partner be interested and interesting in other people (and that includes sexually), then are you really letting your partner be with you? Rejecting an aspect of your partner, the sexual part that attracted you to them in the first place quite often, shouldn't be rejected. If I had a partner who was trusting me enough to have sex with a friend of theirs that they had sex with, I'd be feeling pretty good about the relationship at that point. The important thing is to approach it with the idea of being committed to working together for a deepening of a relationship instead of a competition to see who can take someone from someone else by out performing someone - the thing that helps the most is to not reject the idea, but be honest and think about it.
What you would likely want in a relationship is a firm feeling that there was commitment and that takes continued work to be with someone. Working together to overcome problems and bring happiness into each others lives is what makes friendships last beyond any distance. With that - having a relationship with someone you know will treat your partner with respect and care for them without the goal of taking them away from you gives a very real sense of accomplishment because that talks about three people being committed to working together.
I'd like to see people committed to helping each other feel good no matter how far apart they were.
Polygamy - is only a problem because law makers were hypocritical and said that there was freedom of religion, but not really. A man was only supposed to have ONE wife. That law is illegal because it goes against the freedom of religion where people are allowed to have more than one wife. You want to have one wife only? That's your choice, don't force it on others. Protecting someone from being scammed by a con-artist who wants to bilk a lonely person (man/woman) of their life savings is committing an act of theft and fraud, not performing an act of being religious and having more than one spouse.
Threeways - if you think you have to stop letting your partner be interested and interesting in other people (and that includes sexually), then are you really letting your partner be with you? Rejecting an aspect of your partner, the sexual part that attracted you to them in the first place quite often, shouldn't be rejected. If I had a partner who was trusting me enough to have sex with a friend of theirs that they had sex with, I'd be feeling pretty good about the relationship at that point. The important thing is to approach it with the idea of being committed to working together for a deepening of a relationship instead of a competition to see who can take someone from someone else by out performing someone - the thing that helps the most is to not reject the idea, but be honest and think about it.
What you would likely want in a relationship is a firm feeling that there was commitment and that takes continued work to be with someone. Working together to overcome problems and bring happiness into each others lives is what makes friendships last beyond any distance. With that - having a relationship with someone you know will treat your partner with respect and care for them without the goal of taking them away from you gives a very real sense of accomplishment because that talks about three people being committed to working together.
I'd like to see people committed to helping each other feel good no matter how far apart they were.
congrats on your relationship stability. 
