Gay/Straight Double-Life Stress

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    May 26, 2013 5:42 PM GMT
    I live a gay straight double life and it is very stressful. If any of you are living one, how do you cope with it? I feel bad about lying, hiding, not talking to certain people closely as I should and I feel a lot of anger towards them, then I have to find me a fake girlfriend. I can't come out to anyone, well at least not now, but what can I do about this stress?
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    May 26, 2013 5:57 PM GMT
    Talk to a therapist. You'll always have that stress when you're trying to live a life contrary to what you are.

    That's why so many people crack under the pressure and you see "Family Values" Conservatives get caught in gay scandals. They live a double life, and the stress makes them break.

    You don't necessarily have to publicly come out to everyone, but you also can't keep pretending to be something you're not.
  • HottJoe

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    May 26, 2013 5:57 PM GMT
    Almost every gay men goes through what you're going through, and most of them are happier when they suck it up and come out. You might be surprised by who will stand by you after you let them get to know the truth about who you really are.icon_smile.gif
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    May 26, 2013 11:15 PM GMT
    I try not to think about it. It's only when you start thinking about it that it starts causing problems.

    The one thing I've learned is that there are always secrets people keep from you. Until you come out, homosexuality is just another one of those secrets.

    You may consider yourself "close" to someone, but think about this, are there certain secrets they would rather you not know. The answer is yes. Everyone has their secrets and minds and personal sides. We never truly know anyone because we don't see what's inside their minds. We only see what's on the surface.

    As for your stress, make some friends, maybe gay friends. People you feel truly happy around, but will accept and hide your secret.