What's a deal breaker for you when dating a guy?

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    May 26, 2013 10:02 PM GMT
    Just have fun with it. Mine are:

    1) If he's a Republican

    2) Man of faith (I only date atheists)

    3) If he listens to Lady Gaga (Sorry her music makes me want to throw up).


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    May 26, 2013 10:03 PM GMT
    Bad Hygeine (Musty)

    He got a man on the side. (I am not a sidenline)
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    May 26, 2013 10:27 PM GMT
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    May 26, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
    1) If he has kids

    2) If he's 'confused'

    3) If he has a serious criminal record

    4) If he's ever been an addict of any kind

    5) if he's got mental issues

    6) If he's religious in any way. Seriously homosexuality and religion do not belong together. Any gay man still a Christian is a brainwashed self hating idiot. Hell any person in general who is a Christian or Islamic is fucked beyond belief.

    7) If he's got a history of rushing into 'serious relationships'

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    May 27, 2013 1:11 AM GMT
    Hm, I have a list here from my past dating history.

    . If he's in the closet, not a proud gay
    . Unwilling to do monogamy aka fuck buddy on the side
    . If he's either, racist, ignorant or just plain rude to other people's cultures/customs
    . If he appears to be disrespectful to me, my friends and family
    . If he just want to *top or *bottom only
    . If he drinks too much, or do drugs like cocaine hardcore stuff
    . If he is too controlling, needy and need to be with me 24/7
    . Doesn't take care of his body, weight, hygiene....etc.


    Yeah, that's about it.
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    May 27, 2013 1:19 AM GMT
    Something tells me this thread won't end well. icon_razz.gif Anyways mine include:

    -If he already has a boyfriend (or a girlfriend!)
    -Bad hygiene (especially unclipped toenails and finger nails... augh)
    -If he's way too old (or young)
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    May 27, 2013 1:20 AM GMT
    MisfitToy saidIf he's religious in any way. Seriously homosexuality and religion do not belong together. Any gay man still a Christian is a brainwashed self hating idiot. Hell any person in general who is a Christian or Islamic is fucked beyond belief.



    You do know that there are churches and denominations that are gay-affirming, right? I know many out gay clergy who are supported by their congregations, we conduct marriages for gay people where it's legal, and I met my partner of ten years at a church event. Our sexuality is a non-issue in our church. If you don't want to date a religious person, that's your right but please take it easy with that broad brush.


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    May 27, 2013 1:25 AM GMT
    Guys who seem to have a laundry list irk me the mosticon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 27, 2013 1:27 AM GMT
    MisfitToy said1) If he has kids

    2) If he's 'confused'

    3) If he has a serious criminal record

    4) If he's ever been an addict of any kind

    5) if he's got mental issues

    6) If he's religious in any way. Seriously homosexuality and religion do not belong together. Any gay man still a Christian is a brainwashed self hating idiot. Hell any person in general who is a Christian or Islamic is fucked beyond belief.

    7) If he's got a history of rushing into 'serious relationships'



    What's wrong with religion and faith? I pray 2 times a day and go to church twice a month because of my job I couldn't to church. I want gay christian

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    May 27, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    Hygiene problem(especially bad breath and bad body smell)
    Arrogant and self Center
    Views me as an extension of him
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    May 27, 2013 1:36 AM GMT
    Hillie saidGuys who seem to have a laundry list irk me the mosticon_rolleyes.gif

    In complete agreement with that.
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    May 27, 2013 1:37 AM GMT
    people who create the same thread over and over again
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    May 27, 2013 1:39 AM GMT
    Tries to force his culture onto me but shuns my own when I try to express it. This actually happen to me with a Latin guy. He was an ethnocentric elitist who loved black guys in bed. I was fool in lust at the time.
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    May 27, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    you're supposed to add: EXCEPT IF HE'S HOT, at the end of your list.

    It keeps you from sounding hypocritical--you know when you meet that guy that you can't stop thinking about; finding yourself caring less about some silly list you had.
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    May 27, 2013 1:47 AM GMT
    NJShiftyJK said
    MisfitToy saidIf he's religious in any way. Seriously homosexuality and religion do not belong together. Any gay man still a Christian is a brainwashed self hating idiot. Hell any person in general who is a Christian or Islamic is fucked beyond belief.



    You do know that there are churches and denominations that are gay-affirming, right? I know many out gay clergy who are supported by their congregations, we conduct marriages for gay people where it's legal, and I met my partner of ten years at a church event. Our sexuality is a non-issue in our church. If you don't want to date a religious person, that's your right but please take it easy with that broad brush.




    I respect your opinion but I'm sorry. I disagree. But a diversity of opinions is what makes society great though right?

    I don't want to get into a flame war over this.

    So I'm leaving it at that.
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    May 27, 2013 1:53 AM GMT
    MisfitToy said
    NJShiftyJK said
    MisfitToy saidIf he's religious in any way. Seriously homosexuality and religion do not belong together. Any gay man still a Christian is a brainwashed self hating idiot. Hell any person in general who is a Christian or Islamic is fucked beyond belief.



    You do know that there are churches and denominations that are gay-affirming, right? I know many out gay clergy who are supported by their congregations, we conduct marriages for gay people where it's legal, and I met my partner of ten years at a church event. Our sexuality is a non-issue in our church. If you don't want to date a religious person, that's your right but please take it easy with that broad brush.




    I respect your opinion but I'm sorry. I disagree. But a diversity of opinions is what makes society great though right?

    I don't want to get into a flame war over this.

    So I'm leaving it at that.


    What I said isn't my opinion, it's what is. I thank you for labeling me a self-hating idiot when you don't even know me. Not sure how I got a graduate degree and have made a relationship work for ten years when I guess I should be wearing a helmet.

    If you don't want to get into a flame war, don't insult people.
  • Just_Tim

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    May 27, 2013 2:03 AM GMT
    If you're not a Tina Fey fan

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    May 27, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
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    May 27, 2013 2:05 AM GMT
    Just_Tim saidIf you're not a Tina Fey fan

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    +1

    I've actually met people who think she's a bitch.

    Also if a guy doesn't love Oprah he's not the one for me.

    How can you not love Oprah?
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    May 27, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    When He says the gun is loaded ...and it ISN'T!!!!!


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    May 27, 2013 2:26 AM GMT
    Misandry said
    Integrity11 saidTries to force his culture onto me but shuns my own when I try to express it. This actually happen to me with a Latin guy. He was an ethnocentric elitist who loved black guys in bed. I was fool in lust at the time.


    How did that relationship come about?


    He was hot, and charming and hit on me. I turned him down a few times but he kept trying eventually taking me out to dinner. We use to hit night clubs for bit. But you know eventually each persons personality, culture and values shines though and sometimes division and separatism shoes its ugly head. Its the risk we all take when dating. I think that's what dating is suppose to be about. Getting to know that person to see if its a fit. In my case that experience was not a fit.
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    May 27, 2013 2:28 AM GMT
    At this point in my life I would say:

    1. Untrustworthy
    2. Addictive personality (be it to drugs, cigarettes, gambling, sex or other people... lived through it, don't care to relive it)
    3. Incapable of self-care (not to say shit doesn't happen, but does he handle things like an adult and take responsibility for his own choices?)
    4. Emotionally needy/insecure
    5. Unable to see past his own perception/experience to what else is out there
    6. Not intellectually curious, unwilling to explore things outside a limited set of interests (especially if he sets those limits based on "gay culture" because 99% of what is marketed to gay men as "our culture" is -- in my opinion -- better suited to 14-year-old girls)
    7. Lazy
    8. Shallow
    9. Thinks being bitchy and/or judgmental is an attractive trait. I especially have no patience for people who talk down to service workers and have literally left a restaurant in the middle of dinner because of it.


    I am sure I could think of more but I think I already have a longer list than anybody.
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    May 27, 2013 2:32 AM GMT
    MisfitToy said1)

    7) If he's got a history of rushing into 'serious relationships'



    On the flip, I'm right with you on this one. To me my gut says "is this person really in love, or do they just not want to be alone?"
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    May 27, 2013 2:37 AM GMT
    lol. Some of these deal breakers are ridiculous.

    Mine vary from person to person, but one set thing that usually ends it is if the guy is being rude to someone. Case and point, one date i was on the guy was a pretty big jerk to our waiter. Lost interest pretty fast with him.
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    May 27, 2013 3:24 AM GMT
    MisfitToy said1) If he has kids

    2) If he's 'confused'

    3) If he has a serious criminal record

    4) If he's ever been an addict of any kind

    5) if he's got mental issues

    6) If he's religious in any way. Seriously homosexuality and religion do not belong together. Any gay man still a Christian is a brainwashed self hating idiot. Hell any person in general who is a Christian or Islamic is fucked beyond belief.

    7) If he's got a history of rushing into 'serious relationships'



    Well with number 6 is really more about the religion itself than his sexual orientation. I'm an atheist because I see no difference between believe in the tooth fairy and "God".