Relationships that start online

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    May 28, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    What are ppl's experience with finding quality relationships online?
    I had my longest & best relationship start online. Was this luck or not too uncommon for you all?
  • pktub

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    May 28, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    I too had my best relationship through an online medium. I guess its because through the internet you have no filter and get to know each other so well. whilst when it starts at like a club or whatever ppl tend to put up a bit of a wall or whatever...idk haha just my experience
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    May 28, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    All of my long term relationships have been found online. I think it's not too uncommon.
  • Destinharbor

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    May 28, 2013 2:59 PM GMT
    My partner and I met online six years ago. I agree. You can meet someone, learn something about them, check them out, write and get to know them online whereas in person, some questions are hard to ask, and sometimes you move to the physical so fast. I think online is actually the better way to meet.
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    May 28, 2013 3:04 PM GMT
    Not yet, but found a great friend in A4A,...No, not a fuckbuddy or sex partner...just a great friend, we gone hiking, prepared meals together, gone to clubs, and even travel together. We have great chemistry and we support one another in our friendships. I learned that is what you make of it in different sites, so if I find a LTR in a website more power to it.
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    May 28, 2013 4:10 PM GMT
    I agree with DestinHarbor (above me here). This site (Forums) is where I met my s.o. and it started out with a few comments back and forth. Later we spoke on the phone for a long time. Later still we met (at an airport, since we lived on opposite coasts). After many more meetings and hundreds of phone calls - here we are. So yes, meeting on line can be a great way to do it, especially if you started out living 3,000 miles from each other. How else would we have met?
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    May 28, 2013 4:17 PM GMT
    I've met people online who I've dated or become friends with in real life. The online world is just another way to expand the number of people you meet. You can interact with people you wouldn't ordinarily cross paths with in real life.

    It's important to note that meeting people online is only a starting point. In order for the relationship to progress, whether it's a friendship or something more, you have to move passed typing messages back and forth. You need to talk on the phone, video chat, and so on until you finally meet in person.
  • Montague

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    May 28, 2013 4:21 PM GMT
    I actually met a guy who I'd date from Scruff app hah
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    May 28, 2013 4:36 PM GMT
    unfortunately, never worked for me ! icon_sad.gif
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    May 28, 2013 8:15 PM GMT
    In a relationship 8yrs and counting thanks to online dating/networking, whatever you want to call it.

    We moved in after 18months
    Civil Partnership after 3yrs
    Very happy.

    I turned to online dating because
    a) I don't go to (gay) bars/clubs, nor did I want someone who goes to bars
    b) I lived in a dead-end town at the time so I needed to cast my net wider
    c) I didn't fancy joining any gay men's societies
    d) online dating allows you to suss out whether a guy is suitable for you without having to go through the rigmarole of small talk before striking a common ground
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    May 28, 2013 8:17 PM GMT
    I definitely think meeting at clubs leads to premature sexually activity that can but not necessarily limits a relationship together. I'm glad other guys are having success with meeting ppl online bc I lean on it being so busy with work & still leaning NYC. Maybe the next guy for me is on RJ! Lol

    Does anyone has sites they recommend for a gay guy serious about getting to know a guy for friendship to relaitonship purposes?
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    May 28, 2013 8:24 PM GMT
    Well it's nice to see a lot of positive stories about relationships (in general) that start online.

    I've never had any luck online unfortunately icon_sad.gif.

    But I just like to think that the love of my life is walking around right now somewhere and it's just a matter of time for us to meet whereas it is IRL or online.


    Hurry up dude!!!! Can't wait to meet you!!!!
  • Joeyphx444

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    May 28, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    All sites, including phone apps are what you make them. Even sites like Grindr and Manhunt DO have quality men, it's just harder to find there as opposed to here or a site MADE for only dating. You can make any site/app just for dating or just for sex.

    I met good guys from all of them really. Been on strictly dates with guys from Grindr and A4A. Haven't met too many from here since it's not a real localized dating site. I would if I met more guys from here, we would be good friends since we have had a lot of interaction and pretty much know each other as far as you can online.

    Hopefully someone on here will turn into more icon_redface.gif
  • cavecanem10

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    May 29, 2013 12:09 AM GMT
    I believe there is value in online dating, but you have to 'shine a lot of shit before you strike gold'.

    For me, that shining process was about 3 years. I found my current/first bf online, and now we're moving in together this summer. Right time, right place, but it's just another mechanism to meet people, not a 100% replacement.