Why do gay men age with no dignity?

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    May 28, 2013 6:34 AM GMT
    As gay men get older and older (40+), MANY of them desperately pine for guys a decade or more their junior. Some 18/19/20-year-olds are open to sex with older men because 1) they're still going through a youthful phase and haven't grown into their looks, hence less market value and 2) they are so horny that they'll fuck anything, but the vast majority of guys in the 21 - 32 range are NOT attracted to guys over 40. But 40+ guys are so desperate that they keep trying. Eventually they'll settle for a young, geeky look Asian or blonde guy. Blonde men tend to look horrible once they pass 40...
  • HottJoe

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    May 28, 2013 6:58 AM GMT
    Well, if you're going to be superficial about who you date, then you're setting yourself up. I think as more gay couples get married, the image of gay men having no dignity will change, and we'll be more respected in society.
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    May 28, 2013 7:19 AM GMT
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    May 28, 2013 7:23 AM GMT
    Misandry said
    HottJoe saidWell, if you're going to be superficial about who you date, then you're setting yourself up. I think as more gay couples get married, the image of gay men having no dignity will change, and we'll be more respectable.

    Btw, these "ancient" 40 year olds just need to take better care of their skin and heal past sun damage. They have options!! Lol



    Into what?


    Many men on RJ defy the stereotypes the OP presented. I think our image is changing and we are becoming more respectable in society.
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    May 28, 2013 7:30 AM GMT
    Misandry said
    HottJoe said
    Misandry said
    HottJoe saidWell, if you're going to be superficial about who you date, then you're setting yourself up. I think as more gay couples get married, the image of gay men having no dignity will change, and we'll be more respectable.

    Btw, these "ancient" 40 year olds just need to take better care of their skin and heal past sun damage. They have options!! Lol



    Into what?


    Many men on RJ defy the stereotypes the OP presented. I think our image is changing and we are becoming more respectable in society.


    Or maybe because this is a fitness site and being in shape raises your capital in general.


    I'm talking about guys like showme and GND, gay men who I respect. There are too many to list....

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    May 28, 2013 11:10 AM GMT
    Why thanks, Joe.

    I'm not surprised OP is a one post wonder.

    Most of my friends are middle aged gay guys in very long term relationships with other middle aged gay guys. Hardly the OP's stereotype.

    That said, there's something to it, but I think it's a guy thing not a gay thing. Look the "trophy wife" syndrome in straight guys, at how many straight guys who are 3s at best think they deserve supermodels. Look at the movie star who can be more than middle aged, but his co star is a 20ish starlet.
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    May 28, 2013 11:11 AM GMT
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  • Varanus

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    May 28, 2013 11:32 AM GMT
    Each person to their own...What works for one person/couple wont work for the next.
    My husband who is 21 years my senior was never interested in me at the beginning and it was me who was constantly chasing after him until he finally folded and gave in.
    To me once people finally stop judging others relationships and concentrate on their own little miserable "peter pan" lives this whole community will get by a lot easier.
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    May 28, 2013 11:44 AM GMT
    Troll post. But since the topic was broached and commented upon, I'd like to contend that some of us DO age with dignity. At least in terms of not chasing 20-somethings like old fools.

    Believe it or not in my late 40s I was approached by guys in their 20s, and I rejected THEM. I had a "5 up, 5 down" rule for age range, and I stayed pretty much within it. I LIKE guys my own age, still do (though my husband is older, for him I made an exception).

    Now I may lack dignity in other ways (I've always had a goofy, frivolous side that disconcerts people, who're expecting all grave solemnity in my 60s), but chasing kids is not one of them. Nor have I seen that among any of our older gay friends, though I know it does happen with some. So that to me the OP's contention is an unproven generalization.
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    May 28, 2013 1:16 PM GMT
    I do not know any older gay guys who look twice at someone under 30 with any more regard than one notes the cuteness of a puppy.


    surrpraaaahz to the young uns - we just aren't into you they way you are.icon_lol.gif
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    May 28, 2013 1:52 PM GMT
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    May 28, 2013 3:59 PM GMT
    If this is your criteria for aging without dignity:

    drew123 saidAs gay men get older and older (40+), MANY of them desperately pine for guys a decade or more their junior.


    FIXED:

    drew123 saidWhy do MEN age without dignity?

    As men get older and older (40+), MANY of them desperately pine for women a decade or more their junior.


    Most people want young. Bette Midler once said the cutoff was 47 because at 47 she suddenly became irrelevant and her personal and professional invites stopped coming. If even Bette Midler isn't considered interesting enough to invite to a party at 47, what hope is there for any of us?
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    May 28, 2013 4:13 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidIf this is your criteria for aging without dignity:

    drew123 saidAs gay men get older and older (40+), MANY of them desperately pine for guys a decade or more their junior.


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    drew123 saidWhy do MEN age without dignity?

    As men get older and older (40+), MANY of them desperately pine for women a decade or more their junior.


    Most people want young. Bette Midler once said the cutoff was 47 because at 47 she suddenly became irrelevant and her personal and professional invites stopped coming. If even Bette Midler isn't considered interesting enough to invite to a party at 47, what hope is there for any of us?


    This. Ageism is prevalent in straight society too. My first post was about NOT looking for a trophy partner, because that's superficial. If you surround yourself with quality people, you will age gracefully and have wisdom to pass down. Also, nourish your mind and body. Treat your body well and you won't covet what a guy half your age has.

    At 33, my role models are guys over 40. I love them!!icon_smile.gif
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    May 28, 2013 4:22 PM GMT
    Lol men 40+ are handsome as hell. Currently heading to Gay Days this Friday with someone who is 20 years older than me (mostly as a friends/casual date).

    Yeah, sorry broski. You're really missing out. icon_biggrin.gif

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    May 28, 2013 4:24 PM GMT
    showme saidWhy thanks, Joe.

    I'm not surprised OP is a one post wonder.

    Most of my friends are middle aged gay guys in very long term relationships with other middle aged gay guys. Hardly the OP's stereotype.

    That said, there's something to it, but I think it's a guy thing not a gay thing. Look the "trophy wife" syndrome in straight guys, at how many straight guys who are 3s at best think they deserve supermodels. Look at the movie star who can be more than middle aged, but his co star is a 20ish starlet.


    Thanks a million mate , your quote is right on !!icon_biggrin.gif
  • HottJoe

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    May 28, 2013 4:30 PM GMT
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    showme saidWhy thanks, Joe.

    I'm not surprised OP is a one post wonder.

    Most of my friends are middle aged gay guys in very long term relationships with other middle aged gay guys. Hardly the OP's stereotype.

    That said, there's something to it, but I think it's a guy thing not a gay thing. Look the "trophy wife" syndrome in straight guys, at how many straight guys who are 3s at best think they deserve supermodels. Look at the movie star who can be more than middle aged, but his co star is a 20ish starlet.

    I think the OP's post is ridiculous. At 56, dating a man of 45 is hardly acting desperate.


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    May 28, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    Upper_Cdn saidsurrpraaaahz to the young uns - we just aren't into you the way you are.icon_lol.gif

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    May 28, 2013 5:03 PM GMT
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    Upper_Cdn saidsurrpraaaahz to the young uns - we just aren't into you the way you are.icon_lol.gif

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    May 28, 2013 9:41 PM GMT
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    May 28, 2013 10:15 PM GMT

    Just joined....first and only post...who the hell is this guy?? If gay men don't age with dignity...who the hell sets the standards for women??????
    What a stupid statement, OP
  • HottJoe

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    May 28, 2013 10:17 PM GMT
    FriendsOnly said
    Just joined....first and only post...who the hell is this guy?? If gay men don't age with dignity...who the hell sets the standards for women??????
    What a stupid statement, OP


    Lol! I'm not used to emphatic statements from you!icon_smile.gif
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    May 28, 2013 11:00 PM GMT

    Misandry said:

    "Jelly? "

    I have NO clue what this remark is referring to. You apparently didn't understand MY post in the slightest. The OP was making a point that older men are NOT aging gracefully.
    I was merely pointing out the he was terribly wrong.....IMO.
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    May 28, 2013 11:38 PM GMT
    The OP is full of shit. I'm a not too bad looking guy and I love older men. I bagged me a hot older former porn star the other day as a matter of fact. Neither one of us were desperate for men, trust.

    I've also seem many 40+ men that put guys in their 20's to shame.
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    May 28, 2013 11:41 PM GMT
    Upper_Cdn saidI do not know any older gay guys who look twice at someone under 30 with any more regard than one notes the cuteness of a puppy.


    surrpraaaahz to the young uns - we just aren't into you they way you are.icon_lol.gif


    You are ugly as shit. I would never even give you the time of day.
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 28, 2013 11:45 PM GMT
    And let's not forget all those 18/19/20+ guys just trolling to go out with 40/50/60+ guy, just because they got big fat dicks with a wallet to match ... So every one's in charge of your own life... no one is ignorant to the possible consequences... So once your done with your little spring/autum-fall affair don't go looking to cry on any one's shoulder .... There is no sympathy for the wicked