How long were you dating (=going on dates) before you were dating (=in a relationship)?

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    May 29, 2013 12:29 AM GMT
    The terminology is confusing, but I'm interesting in knowing how long you were seeing/going on dates with your bf/husband/ex/whatever before you were exclusive/in a relationship. What variables change this number (e.g. older couples vs. younger couples)?

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    May 29, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    We chatted online for a few months, dated for about a month then made it official. 13 years later, I cant imagine myself with anyone else. icon_biggrin.gif
  • WApilot

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    May 29, 2013 4:17 AM GMT
    My boyfriend and I, met over Growlr, were 13 years apart in age. I'm 25, he's 38.

    We went on dates for about a month and a half if not less, before we became exclusive.

    It's been great ever since.
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    May 29, 2013 4:31 AM GMT
    WApilot saidMy boyfriend and I, met over Growlr, were 13 years apart in age. I'm 25, he's 38.

    We went on dates for about a month and a half if not less, before we became exclusive.

    It's been great ever since.


    I wouldn't be comfortable with th age difference. The difference in age between me and my ex was 10 years and I never liked that.

    Every single relationship I had started after the 2nd date.

    I have never had a long term dating relationship and the shotest of my relationship was 3 years.
  • BloodFlame

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    May 29, 2013 4:44 AM GMT
    Haven't experienced it yet... But I hope to one day. icon_smile.gif
  • Derek6

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    May 29, 2013 5:11 AM GMT
    two years, we broke up at April for he got married with a woman. So i am single now. we meet at internet first then we got travelling together...So many great memories.
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    May 29, 2013 7:09 AM GMT
    It was never really discussed. As far as I know we weren't seeing anyone else whilst dating. We never had a discussion to make it "exclusive", yet were from the start, I think.

    8yrs and counting...
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    May 29, 2013 8:03 AM GMT
    gayinterest saidIt was never really discussed. As far as I know we weren't seeing anyone else whilst dating. We never had a discussion to make it "exclusive", yet were from the start, I think.

    8yrs and counting...

    If you never talked about being exclusive, then you're just assuming that he hasn't been with anyone else.


    We were together for a week before we were exclusive.
    I met my guy on Jack'd. He almost died on our first date. Then we spent the next four days together (we were both on vacation).

    My ex said that I move fast, and maybe I do.
    I've always had the burn bright (rather than the slow sizzle) philosophy towards relationships. When there's a great connection and the chemistry's right, I don't see a point in playing games.
  • Joeyphx444

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    May 29, 2013 9:19 AM GMT
    kalikomua saidmade it official


    What the hell does that mean???


    One time a guy said we needed to have sex to make it "official"
    I've never had a bf icon_razz.gif
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    May 29, 2013 9:56 AM GMT
    Macaque said
    gayinterest saidIt was never really discussed. As far as I know we weren't seeing anyone else whilst dating. We never had a discussion to make it "exclusive", yet were from the start, I think.

    8yrs and counting...

    If you never talked about being exclusive, then you're just assuming that he hasn't been with anyone else.



    Not really. I think Brits and Yanks have different approaches to dating. When I date, it's not a process of dating 5 guys to decide which one to go "steady" with, or "exclusive".

    It just seemed natural with my partner. We had an instant connection. Spent every weekend together, texts/calll regularly through the week. We have an extreme level of trust and communication, and I would've just known if he'd been seeing anyone else, 'cos he probably would've said so.

    An example of trust; when I met him one of his exes was living with him; he was very open about it. His ex had just been diagnised HIV+ and had a breakdown, so my partner was supporting him. He was open about that from the start, and that openness leads to trust.

    He is also friends with pretty much all his exes, and because we are both mature adults, I don't feel threatened by that. I like many of them and hang out with them as friends.