Controlled Situations, Control Freak?

  • Joeyphx444

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    May 29, 2013 5:18 AM GMT
    So I have realized that I may be a control freak. Correct me if the following is something else.

    I went out with friends and they started inviting other people and there were all these other people there. I asked my friend who was gonna be with us and where we were going. These people they invited, I didn't know and it ended up that we were a big group. I hate this because it's so disorganized and we end up sitting there for hours deciding what to do. Then the plans change and it kind of irritates me.

    I can be spontaneous but only if it's mostly my idea or if I agree to it. I try to be open but I really don't like when people change up plans and then third parties get involved that I don't know or even worse, don't like

  • AMoonHawk

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    May 29, 2013 6:00 AM GMT
    Keep that up and pretty soon you'll be the one that won't be invited.
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    May 29, 2013 6:12 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidKeep that up and pretty soon you'll be the one that won't be invited.
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    May 29, 2013 1:14 PM GMT
    Friendly people generally test the waters with mixing their friends this way. Sometimes it just doesn't work but look on the bright side..you may end up liking some of these former strangers and make some new friends in the process.
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    May 29, 2013 1:21 PM GMT
    FloridaCarFan saidlook on the bright side..you may end up liking some of these former strangers and make some new friends in the process.

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    May 29, 2013 1:51 PM GMT
    I understand your frustration. Johnnies-come-lately should not be allowed to derail already agreed upon plans. If they don't like the agenda for the evening, they can bow out.

    If plans haven't been firmed up beforehand then the JCLs have a right to suggest ideas for the evening.
  • DanOmatic

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    May 29, 2013 9:01 PM GMT
    Sometimes you have to go with the flow, even if it's annoying, for the sake of friendship.

    I tend to want to know what I'm getting myself into in advance with social gatherings so that I can gauge for myself whether it's likely to turn into a disorganized mob scene and opt out. But sometimes it unavoidable, and if approached the right way, can be more fun than expected.
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    May 29, 2013 9:05 PM GMT
    I generally agree with you, if you've made the plans and invited people it is really rude for the invitees to add more people without clearing it with you first. That is something that really irritates me.

    But if the plans were sort of loose, group plans not initiated by you, I think your choices are either to go with the flow or bow out.
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    May 30, 2013 3:51 AM GMT
    It does make you a bit of a control freak, but there's also such a thing as courtesy towards your friends when inviting others, and making necessary preparations.