supermanfan saidHave you guys run into this? Where a gay guy will be like "I hate gays, I"m only looking for masculine, DL, st8 acting guys." There just seems to be such a stigma about men who are perceived to be feminine. I don't understand why it's so mandatory for guys to be masculine, you'd think that gays have more tolerance.
Seeking like minded, and like mannered, people is HARDLY hate, and it's a complete cop out for your own failures in saying so.
I don't like flamers, closet cases, whiners, smokers, fat slobs, etc., but, that doesn't mean I hate them.
I preemptively block any Real Jock profiles without faces. It's a gay site. If someone is hiding there's a reason, and it's baggage I choose not to deal with. That does not make me a hater. That person simply doesn't have the qualification that qualifies to be my friend. It's just like applying for a job.
If you behave badly, e.g., swishing and swooning, on the the down low, no self esteem, then, I will be the FIRST to defend your right to your individuality, but, you identifying as gay, black, female, closeted, DOES NOT, and WILL NEVER, qualify you into my inner circle just by virtual of your skin color, sexual preference, etc. That's discrimination.
Choosing not to have closet cases, or faceless pics, or certain cultures, or demeanors in my life, hardly makes me a "hater." It just means I don't want to invest time and energy into those folks. It's part of life.
As a gay activist, I've spent many hours helping folks to understand kindness and being compassionate, but, I still don't invite closet cases, nor certain cultures into my personal life. I, and folks like me, are hardly haters.
Identifying as gay, or black, or poor does not guarantee acceptance.
As a victim of hate crimes, discrimination, bullying, etc., I am not all all in different. However, if you choose to draw attention to yourself, by being faceless (big red flag that says I have issues), a flamer (that says you have esteem issues), then, you should ACCEPT and EXPECT and certain level of restriction. Many folks are very open minded, but, many folks don't want to deal with the baggage of some of the whiners.
You can choose to lead, or hide, and whine, and be miserable. I choose the former.