Jealous

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    Oct 29, 2008 3:18 AM GMT
    In my darkest moments I find myself jealous of people who seem to have it all. The looks, money, personality...


    What makes you jealous?
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    Oct 30, 2008 11:28 PM GMT
    When I see that the guy next to me has more cookies than me. icon_evil.gif

    I deal with it by breaking his collarbone and snatching all of it away.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Oct 30, 2008 11:41 PM GMT
    CitizenSol saidIn my darkest moments I find myself jealous of people who seem to have it all. The looks, money, personality...


    What makes you jealous?



    Don't get jealous, get even icon_smile.gif

    BTW, I just read your profile, and you are as attractive as anyone on here. So don't put yourself down like that. Change your attitude, and you will never feel jealous.

    Mike
  • kinetic

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    Oct 30, 2008 11:51 PM GMT
    I've often found that the people who seemingly 'have it all' are often the biggest messes and actually have more problems than others.

    I know that personally I have a ways to go to where I want to be in life, but aside from not having material things that I desire, I find comfort that some of my 'problems' aren't really that bad.
    I think everybody is gonna be jealous of something or someone else, it's human nature; the trick for me is keeping in mind how far I have come and that things could always be worse.
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    Oct 30, 2008 11:59 PM GMT

    Jealousy typically refers to the negative or angry thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of insecurity, fear, and anxiety that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival, or when another person is perceived to have some type of advantage.

    ....so is it really jealousy you're feeling? You have a very NICE profile and maybe you're just a bit envious and just wishing you could have looks money personality etc. you see sometimes in others. It's more than OK to admire another's success and wish you had it too. Seems like that could inspire a person to go out and get it for themselves!

    ...and hey, welcome to RJ!

    -us
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    Oct 31, 2008 12:10 AM GMT


    When people are happy without going through a lot ..

    sometimes I'm jealous of realistic people who live wisely and don't expect too much and they are fine with it .. while I'm the dreamy guy who wants to touch the sky ..
  • Heart2Heart

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    Oct 31, 2008 12:20 AM GMT
    Oh dude, I know EXACTLY where you're coming from.

    I'd say that most of my insecurities come from the fact that I compare myself to alot of people. Usually, it ends up making me feel inadequate and jealous of the one who I was comparing with. But in the end, they've probably gone, or are going, through alot of their own problems and insecurities.

    And what's most important is that you never forget what you have now, where you'll be, and how much you should love that. Never underestimate yourself, and remember to love thyself.

    It'll go a long way.
  • Klutch84

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    Oct 31, 2008 1:33 AM GMT
    I used to feel the same way you do but then I realized everything isn't what it seems (for various reasons). In any case, envy is one of the 7 Deadly Sins (no I'm not religious but I use the religious fundamentals/morals to propel my life so to speak). ANYway, what I'm trying to say is that you should focus more on yourself and appreciating what you do have as opposed to what you wish you had, etc.

    Sorry for the generic answer but it always makes me feel better when I appreciate what I do have because just as much as it seems there are people who are better off than us, there are also people who are much more worse off than us too.
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    Oct 31, 2008 1:43 AM GMT
    One of my great supervisors told me, "jealousy is a learned emotion." We are also taught to be envious of others rather than naturally happy for them.

    That statement always makes me think.
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    Oct 31, 2008 1:45 AM GMT
    Well Tyler, I'd say that the avoidance of any feeling, even the learned ones, makes them bigger. Jealousy becomes a monster if you don't feel it, but when you do, you can learn from it and move on to feel something else.
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    Jun 07, 2009 12:14 AM GMT
    Wow...I was jealous of a friend of mine....

    He's still fairly young, attractive, naturally masculine with a charismatic personality and has been in LTR relationships consistently since he was in High School...

    This really bothered me recently because I spent my 20's very discreet and paranoid. I only began to really enjoy my sexuality and meet guys for more than hookups last year. To this day, at 32 years old, I haven't been in a relationship with a guy. So I never had the experience of having a "boyfriend" in my 20's...that young guy who's your "best friend", going to bed together, having 20-something sex with each other, waking up next to each other in the mornings, helping each other through school, etc...I know there's more to it than that but I think any kind of "Boyfriend Experience", good or bad, in my youth would have been a good catalyst to helping me embrace my sexuality sooner...

    And so now here was my young friend, on a steady streak since his teen years...

    However, at 26, he's been in about four "off & on" relationships, is broke and unemployed, unskilled, alcoholic, marijuana user, limited education, etc, etc, etc...Basically he's got other aspects that I'm not so jealous of...

    But in a lot of areas I have aspects that make HIM jealous (my career, finances, education, looks, personality, etc) and he probably takes for granted that he has no problems finding a guy to commit to...And ultimately, his "gift" for finding these older guys to get into relationships with may stem from the fact that he can barely take care of himself so its out of necessity that he finds suitors.

    But anyway, even though I have PLENTY of reasons to not envy him, I'm still jealous of him for his relationship streaks...



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    Jun 07, 2009 12:20 AM GMT
    Sedative saidWhen I see that the guy next to me has more cookies than me. icon_evil.gif

    I deal with it by breaking his collarbone and snatching all of it away.

    LOL that pretty much somes it up for me too. Seriously though, it's people who are better than me at the sport I'm playing!
  • michaeltex

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    Jun 07, 2009 12:30 AM GMT
    I dont get jealous..I think we for the most part have good qualities.
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    Jun 07, 2009 12:46 AM GMT
    Gosh I don't recall being jealous since I was a teen, and that is many moons ago. It just doesn't happen to me anymore. I don't get jealous of other people life's, as it's not mine. Or their look as it's not me. But yes sometimes I do meet people who seem to have it all. But then I know to some, so do I. Especially when then get to see how I live. But I struggle to understand that, as it's not their life, or home, or possessions, they are me and mine.

    Maybe I'm just contented.

    Mind you I think jealousy would be a cause, but pregnancy would be worse.
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    Jun 07, 2009 12:49 AM GMT
    Wow here's a throwback...icon_eek.gif no need for jealousy yo...become wut u want...always simplifyicon_lol.gif
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    Jun 07, 2009 12:50 AM GMT
    Sedative saidWhen I see that the guy next to me has more cookies than me. icon_evil.gif

    I deal with it by breaking his collarbone and snatching all of it away.


    Well at least I know Myself, and my barrel of biscuits are safe, no cookies around here, only biscuits. Oh one is about to go and get some fruit scones, out of the oven, and have em with a nice pot of tea. icon_wink.gif
  • jgymnast733

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    Jun 07, 2009 12:53 AM GMT
    I'm never jealous of others:
    The universe provides blessings and gifts for us all....
    There was a group of fellow gays at the club who'm i overheard wondering ''why is he so damn polite and happy all the time''-----I figured if thats the worst thing they can say about me than i'm doing pretty goodicon_exclaim.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 07, 2009 12:54 AM GMT
    I don't think these days I have room to be "jealous" of anything... I should consider myself lucky....

    But what I resent sometimes is someone that has success (generally with money) with ease, while I work my butt off... but I also have the converse come true. All in all, I try not to be jealous unless there is a good reason.