Being more appealing

  • Kromethius

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    Jun 01, 2013 12:13 AM GMT
    I realize I may be out of my league talking to certain guys here or in person but I want to know what can i do to improve on like my body, personality or more? Is there something else i need to do to impress guys? I know this may sound blatant, harsh, and insecure but I am cognizant I have a lot of things going for me but for some reason I can't seem to get a handle on guys. Guys here in college station just want hook ups with me because im black or just avoid me because of my race. I'm much more friend and relationship oriented but even meeting guys here is difficult. This is why I ask such an awkward question, thank you.
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    Jun 01, 2013 12:36 AM GMT
    You can't really change your personality, but you can change your body by sleeping well, eating healthily and exercising regularly icon_biggrin.gif
    Just be you, yo.
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    Jun 01, 2013 12:37 AM GMT
    Who needs to be appealing when rope and roofies are easier?
  • Kromethius

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    Jun 01, 2013 12:49 AM GMT
    so you are saying my body needs to change?
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    Jun 01, 2013 2:45 AM GMT
    MIS37 saidI realize I may be out of my league talking to certain guys here..."

    I hereby give you permission to talk to anyone you want.

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    Jun 01, 2013 2:48 AM GMT
    No, your body doesn't need to change. No, your personality doesn't need to change.

    What needs to change is your attitude and the quality of your posts. Your attitude being that you can't go into something and expect to walk out with a man on your arm. It just doesn't work like that. You just have to engage the other dudes here with your charming self.

    Just remember: gay guys are fickle. You may not get much attention to the next guy because you aren't flashing your pecs or your ass on camera for them. But you don't want to be one of those guys anyway.
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    Jun 01, 2013 2:49 AM GMT
    Why do you feel that you Need to impress anyone to make them like you? Just be you, boo. There isn't a guy out there worth changing your whole persona for.

    Then again, you might not want to take advice from me, I'm not the most reliable source on getting guys to like you. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 01, 2013 2:50 AM GMT
    My personal opinion, no one should have to change for anyone else.

    If you want to get more muscled, go ahead. And If there are things you don't like about yourself, then change them.

    But don't do it just so the world will like you. Trust me, it'll never work. Either you're gonna be unhappy, or they're unhappy.
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    Jun 01, 2013 2:51 AM GMT
    MIS37 saidGuys here in college station just want hook ups with me because im black or just avoid me because of my race.

    Really? So they either want you because you're black or don't want you because you're black? That's kind of a cop out. Are you sure there aren't any other reasons the ones you appeal to want you, and the ones that don't don't? If so, there's part of the answer right there.
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    Jun 01, 2013 3:57 AM GMT
    I think that you're a good looking guy as you are, and I would imagine that lots of guys would find you appealing.

    If you want to improve your body for personal reasons, more power to you. But I wouldn't do it solely for the reason of getting a boyfriend. You might attract more attention, but a lot of that attention might still be hookup-related.

    You're a young guy, and at your age a lot of guys are experimenting and being adventurous. There are relationship-oriented guys out there - just be patient and keep looking.

    Most of all, just be yourself. If you have a nice personality and put yourself in situations where you have the opportunity to meet people, you'll attract someone that is your speed.

    Hang in there and keep trying! icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jun 01, 2013 4:16 AM GMT
    no one is out of your league! Don't ever apologize for saying hi to someone. If you say hi to a guy and offer a compliment and he insults you, then he is a douche who is not worth your time!!!
  • Kromethius

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    Jun 01, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
    eagermuscle said
    MIS37 saidGuys here in college station just want hook ups with me because im black or just avoid me because of my race.

    Really? So they either want you because you're black or don't want you because you're black? That's kind of a cop out. Are you sure there aren't any other reasons the ones you appeal to want you, and the ones that don't don't? If so, there's part of the answer right there.


    In all honesty they do say it is because of my race as in "sorry just a preference" or "I only go after white guys or latinos"
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    Jun 01, 2013 7:33 AM GMT
    Would you rather have a lot of people find you more appealing, or would you rather have one person who loves you for who you are?
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    Jun 01, 2013 12:40 PM GMT
    MIS37 said
    eagermuscle said
    MIS37 saidGuys here in college station just want hook ups with me because im black or just avoid me because of my race.

    Really? So they either want you because you're black or don't want you because you're black? That's kind of a cop out. Are you sure there aren't any other reasons the ones you appeal to want you, and the ones that don't don't? If so, there's part of the answer right there.


    In all honesty they do say it is because of my race as in "sorry just a preference" or "I only go after white guys or latinos"

    College Station is monochromatic in every sense of the term. Have you ever thought about transferring to UT or U of H which are so much more diverse in attitudes as well as ethnicity? You might multiply your opportunities.
    On the other hand, few college students are really ready for a committed relationship. Most are still exploring. See the countless RJ threads lamenting "I'm 21 and nobody wants to commit." You will have to deal with this fact of life wherever you are. Some things just take time.
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    Jun 01, 2013 12:46 PM GMT
    You're a handsome guy. Everyone goes through this same problem, regardless of race/mannerisms/preferences. I'd just try to live a good, interesting life. Guys are attracted to that.
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    Jun 01, 2013 12:48 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidWho needs to be appealing when rope and roofies are easier?


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  • HottJoe

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    Jun 01, 2013 1:27 PM GMT
    GaysGeneration said
    icefan saidWould you rather have a lot of people find you more appealing, or would you rather have one person who loves you for who you are?


    The former.
    Because the latter includes the former.


    Lol.

    The OP has beautiful eyes. He should use his shirtless shot as his main pic... and keep working on showing that muscle definition.icon_smile.gif
  • calibro

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    Jun 01, 2013 1:32 PM GMT
    put out more
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    Jun 01, 2013 1:42 PM GMT
    Prioritise growth as a well-rounded, balanced, emotionally intelligent person first,
    Mind first; then body.
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    Jun 01, 2013 1:47 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidWho needs to be appealing when rope and roofies are easier?

    Words to live by
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    Jun 01, 2013 1:52 PM GMT
    smartmoney said
    paulflexes saidWho needs to be appealing when rope and roofies are easier?

    Words to live by


    My Grandmother had that embroidered on a Doily
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    Jun 01, 2013 2:22 PM GMT
    If you want to be irresistible to a guy, tell him you will do that nasty thing he likes, whenever he wants.
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    Jun 01, 2013 2:42 PM GMT
    Change comes within !! Peace comes within. Rest all is a felony icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 01, 2013 5:05 PM GMT
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    Jun 01, 2013 5:07 PM GMT
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