My BF wants to get circumcised

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    Jun 02, 2013 2:11 AM GMT
    Hi everyone, I made this profile solely to get opinions on a pretty important question that my BF and I have. I'll make the story short.

    My BF has fordyce spots, and is very uncomfortable with the way his penis looks. Before me, people have stopped dating him because of the way his uncut cock looks/feels, and it hinders his self confidence. Fordyce spots ARE NOT STDS, they are just there, as a birthmark is.

    Because it's going to be purely for cosmetic reasons, and pretty expensive considering he's not insured, we're left questioning whether or not he should be circumcised. I personally don't mind since it's not an STD, but he takes issue with it. If he goes through with it, we would be celibate for about 2 months at least.

    I don't know if I'm allowed to post a picture of it but just so everyone gets the idea, I will. Any feedback/thoughts would be appreciated.

    pic > copy and paste into URL bar

    http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/829/40183210200586115747648.jpg/
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    Jun 02, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    question saidHi everyone, I made this profile solely to get opinions on a pretty important question that my BF and I have. I'll make the story short.

    My BF has fordyce spots, and is very uncomfortable with the way his penis looks. Before me, people have stopped dating him because of the way his uncut cock looks/feels, and it hinders his self confidence. Fordyce spots ARE NOT STDS, they are just there, as a birthmark is.

    Because it's going to be purely for cosmetic reasons, and pretty expensive considering he's not insured, we're left questioning whether or not he should be circumcised. I personally don't mind since it's not an STD, but he takes issue with it. If he goes through with it, we would be celibate for about 2 months at least.

    I don't know if I'm allowed to post a picture of it but just so everyone gets the idea, I will. Any feedback/thoughts would be appreciated.

    40183210200586115747648.jpg

    I don't get it. You're his current boyfriend. And you're ok with it. But he still wants to get circumcised?
  • Christoforos

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    Jun 02, 2013 2:16 AM GMT
    NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!
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    Jun 02, 2013 2:19 AM GMT
    Pretty much.. I'm fine with it, but he says he doesn't know if him and I will last forever since we've only been together about a month now. He just feels very uncomfortable and afraid that if things don't workout with him and I, he will have to go through some possibly uncomfortable situations with other guys he would be dating. (i.e. rejection, disgust, thinking its an std) I am rather sympathetic to him about this, but I'm only one person's opinion. Hence why I'm kind of asking other people's thoughts on this.
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    Jun 02, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    If he's really bothered by it, you can spend lotsa thousands in therapy over the years and get into lots of arguments - or spend a few thousand and go a few months celibate. Seems clear to me.
    Pardon me for mentioning it - because I really don't know you - but your only concerns seem to be spending money and not having sex for a while.
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    Jun 02, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    In the end, it's his decision. If he thinks it will help him gain confidence and help him move forward with his personal/romantic life, then let him be.
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    Jun 02, 2013 2:24 AM GMT
    In the end it is his penis and his decision. If something on his body makes him feel uncomfortable and there is a way to fix it, he should do it.
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    Jun 02, 2013 2:26 AM GMT
    To be honest it's quite hard to give advice without knowing the gravity of his condition (a great deal of people have Fordyce's spot, to varying degrees), but apparently it really puts a damper on his confidence and probably on the pleasure he derives from sex too, so idk, theoretically I don't see any reason why he shouldn't go for it (besides the money, ofc, which will definitely be a sacrifice).

    Has he consulted a medical doctor about it yet? That would probably be a better source of advice than Realjock on this topic.
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    Jun 02, 2013 2:28 AM GMT
    Waiting for the anti-circumcision posse to unleash their fury. icon_lol.gif

  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 02, 2013 2:31 AM GMT
    yup, have got to agree, it is his decision ... but just as an fyi ... if he is already planning on the end of your relationship ... I wouldn't wait around while he is recuperating for 2 months
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    Jun 02, 2013 2:32 AM GMT
    http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/201/55764410151102912812987.jpg/

    Hehehe. Is this your boyfriend? This made me smile. icon_lol.gif

    It helps that he looks like Seth MacFarlane.

    In any case, if he wants to do then go ahead. But personally, I think it's a bit of a waste. As his boyfriend though, you should be as reassuring as you can be. If he does get circumcised, he does realize he's going to be losing some of the pleasure sensors, right? Sex won't be the same even after two months...


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    Jun 02, 2013 2:38 AM GMT
    question saidBecause it's going to be purely for cosmetic reasons, and pretty expensive considering he's not insured, we're left questioning whether or not he should be circumcised. I personally don't mind since it's not an STD, but he takes issue with it.



    question saidbut he says he doesn't know if him and I will last forever since we've only been together about a month now.


    Forgive me if I sound a little insensitive, but if you two have only been together for a month, why is there a "we're" in matters of his personal medical and financial decisions?
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    Jun 02, 2013 2:47 AM GMT
    I had to google Fordyce's spots because I never heard of it before. I don't see how circumcision will solve that, unless it's only on the foreskin.
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    Jun 02, 2013 2:58 AM GMT
    Maybe there's some type of laser surgery for this?
  • Just_Tim

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    Jun 02, 2013 3:08 AM GMT
    Stan24 saidI had to google Fordyce's spots because I never heard of it before. I don't see how circumcision will solve that, unless it's only on the foreskin.


    I was thinking the same thing. This is a pretty common condition. Even calling it a "condition" seems unnecessary.

    I don't see anything wrong with him going through with it. Why not?
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    Jun 02, 2013 3:21 AM GMT
    picture?
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    Jun 02, 2013 3:35 AM GMT
    We've had this talk, I told him it's not an issue, but he disagrees. He wants to do it for aesthetic purposes, but questions it because fordyce spots aren't an STD, they're just on his upper layer of the foreskin, and a circumcision will definitely get rid of them.

    I put a picture you just need to copy it into the URL bar, IDK how to post it on here.

    http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/829/40183210200586115747648.jpg/
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    Jun 02, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
    question saidWe've had this talk, I told him it's not an issue, but he disagrees. He wants to do it for aesthetic purposes, but questions it because fordyce spots aren't an STD, they're just on his upper layer of the foreskin, and a circumcision will definitely get rid of them.

    I put a picture you just need to copy it into the URL bar, IDK how to post it on here.

    http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/829/40183210200586115747648.jpg/

    I'm guessing a picture of a penis on imageshack is in violation of their terms. It's been removed.

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    Jun 02, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
    Get some rubbing alcohol, Jack Daniels, a razor blade, and save some money by doing it yourself.
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    Jun 02, 2013 4:08 AM GMT
    Here's a pic of Fordyce's Spots on a penis. When confined to the foreskin they are known as Tyson's Glands.

    220px-Fordyces_spot_closeup.jpg

    Seems like much ado about nothing, and many doctors recommend no treatment, since this is a benign, purely cosmetic condition. If the OP is not bothered then he should assure his BF of that. If the BF later breaks up with him then the BF can revisit the issue at that time, if he feels it's an impediment to his sex life.
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    Jun 02, 2013 4:10 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidGet some rubbing alcohol, Jack Daniels, a razor blade, and save some money by doing it yourself.

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    Jun 02, 2013 4:12 AM GMT
    ART_DECO saidHere's a pic of Fordyce's Spots on a penis. When confined to the foreskin they are known as Tyson's Glands.

    220px-Fordyces_spot_closeup.jpg

    Seems like much ado about nothing, and many doctors recommend no treatment, since this is a benign, purely cosmetic condition. If the OP is not bothered then he should assure his BF of that. If the BF later breaks up with him then the BF can revisit the issue at that time, if he feels it's an impediment to his sex life.

    That doesn't look that bad. They look like goosebumps.
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    Jun 02, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
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    ART_DECO saidHere's a pic of Fordyce's Spots on a penis. When confined to the foreskin they are known as Tyson's Glands.

    220px-Fordyces_spot_closeup.jpg

    Seems like much ado about nothing, and many doctors recommend no treatment, since this is a benign, purely cosmetic condition. If the OP is not bothered then he should assure his BF of that. If the BF later breaks up with him then the BF can revisit the issue at that time, if he feels it's an impediment to his sex life.

    That doesn't look that bad. They look like goosebumps.


    They can also be far more pronounced.
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    ...mild example.

    I think Question's love for his man may easily make the healing time insignificant, considering the scale of that love. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 02, 2013 4:28 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    paulflexes saidGet some rubbing alcohol, Jack Daniels, a razor blade, and save some money by doing it yourself.

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    Jun 02, 2013 5:34 AM GMT
    Sorry guys, looks like imageshack killed the pic.. The one posted above with the spots on the upper scale of the penis is what my bf has. I mean maybe it's just me who's not all that repulsed by it.. But would others be comfortably learning that the person they sleep with has this? Especially at first encounters and not mistake it for an STD? If that's what people assume I can see where he's coming from on this matter.