About my best friend...(drug related trouble)

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    Jun 02, 2013 5:15 AM GMT
    Okay so my best friend, who went off into a different college, has apparently become addicted to about 4 different types of drugs in the time frame of one year. He and I have been through a lot together (Middle, Junior High, and High school) but it sucks seeing him stoop to that level. As much of a good friend he is/was, I can't help but lose some respect for him. I never agreed with drug usage, because that's a stupid way of dealing with stress. I'm not even sure he did it for stress reasons. I'm not sure how to handle this. Is there some way for me to help him? Or should I just say "good luck!" and just bolt?

    PS: He's a diabetic on top of all of that, the drugs are moslty illegal , and in terms of parents I'm not sure actually about his relatioship with them....Awesome :/
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    Jun 02, 2013 7:16 AM GMT
    leo23 saidIf he is counting his days and I really care about him I would have contacted rehab centers by now.

    This
    & have you at least tried talking to him?
    Have you considered to let his family members know about his problem?
    are those illegal drugs?
    if yes, have you considered contacting police? Surely, there must be several victims like your friend, facing the same problems.

    He's a Diabetic! How old is he exactly?
    Is it type 1?
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    Jun 02, 2013 1:41 PM GMT
    You've known him long enough (since middle school) that it puts you in a position to be candid with his parent(s) about your concerns. Tell them what you know, and let he/she/them determine the best course of action for his/her/their son.
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    Jun 02, 2013 1:46 PM GMT
    Are you sure he is "addicted" or is he just using recreationally (which, of course, can lead to addiction)?

    The problem is that you can do all sorts of things to try and help the guy, but until he truly wants to stop and/or help himself, it's an endless cycle of frustration.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 02, 2013 1:57 PM GMT
    I think you really have to decide if you are going to take "an active role" in concern over this or be an observer. No lectures here over your friendship and your past together. You have your own life these days and because of distance, it may not be practical to be more than an "observer" (meaning, you can see the issues, but can't do much to help).

    He may not want any "help", Even if you decided to take an active role in
    assistance, he might not see he needs anything. He was resent any help you want to give, he may not see he has any real problem (and I assume you have real reasons to believe he does). Being a "supporter" can mean being an enabler. My suggestion is, if you want to be actively involved, you need to be educated on his issues and that means going to a drug related professional yourself and asking... "how can I really help my friend". You can't guess, you really need to know what you should be doing.

    My suggestion is, find out what state he is really in, not by 2nd hand information, but rather first hand. Only you can decide what you can (or should) do. Whatever the decision, dont' feel guilty. You do have your own life.
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    Jun 02, 2013 2:19 PM GMT
    Having found a friend dead from these poisons know what they can do to people.

    Firstly, if he is really addicted you cannot trust him..period. don't let him talk you in to or out of anything.

    Secondly, be aware of the potential that he may have used shared needles.... His disease status is unknown

    Thirdly, its been a year so think there is hope. However change has to come from him. Nobody else can do it. You can be there to help, guide and support but you can't do it for him..or make the decision for him.

    Finally, look after your self. It is his choice and his problem. While you may care you are limited in what you can do.
    I would give it a go and talk to him about it..see where it leads.

    Pm me if you want.

    Btw... I am diabetic myself.
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    Jun 02, 2013 5:11 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidAre you sure he is "addicted" or is he just using recreationally (which, of course, can lead to addiction)?

    The problem is that you can do all sorts of things to try and help the guy, but until he truly wants to stop and/or help himself, it's an endless cycle of frustration.


    This.
    Especially the first part.
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    Jun 02, 2013 5:19 PM GMT
    Stop being a prude, drugs are fun.
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    Jun 02, 2013 9:58 PM GMT
    osakarob said
    CuriousJockAZ saidAre you sure he is "addicted" or is he just using recreationally (which, of course, can lead to addiction)?

    The problem is that you can do all sorts of things to try and help the guy, but until he truly wants to stop and/or help himself, it's an endless cycle of frustration.


    This.
    Especially the first part.


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