Fantasy vs Reality of a Hookup

  • shakeitout85

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    Jun 02, 2013 11:37 AM GMT
    Ever been disappointed with a hookup because it never lived up to the fantasy you made of it? Is it sometimes better just to fantasize, have a wank, and stay safe? Or any stories of a hookup being beyond your fantasy??
  • hdurdinr

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    Jun 02, 2013 12:25 PM GMT
    So long as you don't do it too much I think it's okay, maybe even good to get it out of your system. I've had one or two hook ups that were very super hot and lived up to expectations - one or two that didn't but that's the way it goes!
  • nomad4life

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    Jun 02, 2013 12:33 PM GMT
    At a friend's party I met a guy with whom I clicked very well and we had the one night stand hook-up. It was awesome and he was super cute and a great dancer and I felt great about it. Def lived up to the fantasy.

    But then the next morning one of my friends (or rather friend of a friend) told me he had a boyfriend and the whole thing just crashed down around me.

    I left for about a year to go live and work somewhere else (nothing to do with him) and I recently went back for a visit. He was there so I confronted him about it. He, as well as two other girls, told me that one chick was wrong and that he and his boyfriend had indeed broken up prior to the party, just didn't tell anyone yet. I felt so much better. I like to think if I was still living back there that we may be together because we talk all the time now, but that just may be another fantasy.

    50/50 shot
  • calibro

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    Jun 02, 2013 3:00 PM GMT
    you mean when they say they're eight inches and they're really five (at most)?
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    Jun 02, 2013 7:29 PM GMT
    Well this doesn't relate to hookups but it took me too long to recognise that trick of holding the camera above and to the side, to hide how fat the guy is.
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    Jun 02, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    Hookups are hit-or-miss. Sometimes they're so-so, and sometimes they're hot as fuck.
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    Jun 02, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    OP, not sure if you're talking about the physical appearance of the other guys, or your experience of hooking up. I spent a few years doing the hookup thing. Most guys were as good or better looking than their photos, at least in my experience. But I stopped hooking up because the number of truly awesome encounters were so few and far between. Even when the other dude was all handsome and ripped, it was usually an emotional letdown. How can having sex with a random stranger, and all of the effort and time that goes into it, and risk, and the occasional STD, be emotionally satisfying? I just found that it could not. Sort of like fat people eating donuts hoping to get that sense of satisfaction, which just never seems to last but for a fleeting moment.
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    Jun 02, 2013 10:53 PM GMT
    Fantasy = sexy roman or greek dark/tall warrior or a young eastern euro type
    Reality = Average, weird hair, funny looking lads lol

    It may be slutty for me to say this but I pretty much know if I want to fuck, suck or want you dick once I lay my eyes on you either (at the club/real worrld or online/profile).

    I've been trying to keep my health balanced, clean as a whistle. So, I rather wank and just watch porn rather than do a weird hook up.

    I've been in awkward hook up situations in the past, I just made up an excuse and ran ! lol icon_redface.gif

  • madsexy

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    Jun 03, 2013 1:07 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidHookups are hit-or-miss. Sometimes they're so-so, and sometimes they're hot as fuck.


    Totally agree. For me usually if it goes as planned it's the former; when it turns out to be different than I'd planned, sometimes even dangerously so, then "hot as fuck" can be an understatement.
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    Jun 03, 2013 1:14 AM GMT
    I'm not the only one who's brought a few home for fun. Normal here. icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jun 03, 2013 1:31 AM GMT
    calibro saidyou mean when they say they're eight inches and they're really five (at most)?


    hhahaahhah man you nail that hahhaha and make me have a loud laugh...

    when they say they are 38 and they are 52...

    when they call themselves athletic...
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    Jun 03, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    RAM_man said...

    when they call themselves athletic...
    I've known plenty of VERY athletic people who didn't "appear" to be athletic. Just sayin'. icon_wink.gif
  • visualguy

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    Jun 03, 2013 5:31 AM GMT
    I think a common problem with a lot of hookups is the expectations we have, whether it be in appearance, performance, or even sexual chemistry. I mean, how many times has it happened that a guy who seems great on paper or a web profile turned out not to be what you wanted or expected? I think we all tend to advertise our best features and minimize the worst. Sometimes when you're hooking up, the advertising works. And other times..... icon_confused.gif It's truly rare (at least for me) to meet a guy that is willing to meet with little expectation and see what happens naturally.
  • Apparition

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    Jun 03, 2013 6:48 AM GMT
    skype solves most of these obesity, hung-ness, and age-ish problems. Height it doesnt solve though.
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    Jun 03, 2013 6:58 AM GMT
    One time when I was desperate for men. I invited this guy I thought was cute on grindr. He came down and his face was several inches wider than what his profile and had quite a gut I wasn't expecting. It was a little disappointed about that.