Fear of drunken friend

  • Luke28

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    Jun 03, 2013 6:29 AM GMT
    Anyone else get really spooked when interacting with drunks/drunk friends?

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    Jun 03, 2013 6:37 AM GMT
    that just means your not getting drunk enough icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 03, 2013 6:49 AM GMT
    Luke28 saidAnyone else get really spooked when interacting with drunks/drunk friends?

    If I'm sober, yes.
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Jun 03, 2013 2:59 PM GMT
    It depends. Most of my friends are happy and fun when drunk.
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    Jun 03, 2013 3:02 PM GMT
    Luke28 saidAnyone else get really spooked when interacting with drunks/drunk friends?



    No, it just means I'm designated driver.
  • MarvelBoy23

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    Jun 03, 2013 3:05 PM GMT
    Luke28 saidAnyone else get really spooked when interacting with drunks/drunk friends?



    I'm not a fan of being around obnoxious drunks. It's gotten very old. I lived with an alcoholic for 3 years and it was seriously a nightmare! I rarely enjoy a drink anymore at all because of this.
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    Jun 03, 2013 3:09 PM GMT
    Depends on the drunk. Some get really irrational, physical & difficult. If I see that recurring pattern I will drop them as a friend. I don't need that.
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    Jun 03, 2013 3:18 PM GMT
    Depends on how they behave when drunk. If they can hold their alcohol and are a fun drunk then no prob. If they are a nasty/mean/troublesome drunk, then I'd distance myself from them.
  • chadwick1985

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    Jun 03, 2013 4:09 PM GMT
    If they're one of the friends im attracted to and they wanna get touchy feels then no prob but if they're an ass hole or get outta control stay away from me
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    Jun 03, 2013 4:26 PM GMT
    No...all my friends are awesome drunks!
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    Jun 03, 2013 4:32 PM GMT
    The only drunk I've ever had to deal with was a 'dry drunk' and believe me - even with years in AA, he was still the meanest bastard I'd ever encountered. Maybe it wasn't the booze that was the problem for him, so much as the guy's vicious personality. I learned that all you can do is get rid of such people..........just let them go.
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    Jun 03, 2013 5:05 PM GMT
    Nope because thats when their true colors and deep dark secrets flourish and if hopefully he's hot I can get it in that night haha

    Drunk friends are the best to interact with. You find out everything!! Drunk words speak sober thoughts lmao
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    Jun 03, 2013 5:30 PM GMT
    In vino veritas...a lot of people expose their true colours when they're drunk, it can be pretty shocking to hear what some people really think about issues like race, homosexuality etc...but thankfully most of my true friends are jolly drunks
  • starboard5

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    Jun 03, 2013 7:07 PM GMT
    PaulB84 saidIn vino veritas...a lot of people expose their true colours when they're drunk, it can be pretty shocking to hear what some people really think about issues like race, homosexuality etc...but thankfully most of my true friends are jolly drunks



    I don't buy the in vino veritas motto at all. What we think of as "a person" is a complex combination of traits, genetic and learned, and conditioning. You can't pull out one thread and say you know the fabric. Likewise, I would be wrong to judge someone by something they said or did while drunk. Reason, discretion, self-control; these qualities represent a person just as much as any other traits. Just because alcohol inhibits those functions doesn't mean it reveals something more honest or true. A person's honesty isn't worth much in my eyes when it's divorced from reason, discrimination, intelligence, etc.

    I've never met anyone who was appealing when truly drunk, not even someone I loved. I put up with them, kept an eye out for their safety, and then listened to the apologies when they called the next day because I knew it was what they would do/have done for me.

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    Jun 03, 2013 7:26 PM GMT
    MarvelBoy23 said
    I'm not a fan of being around obnoxious drunks. It's gotten very old.


    This. I hate having to patronise some pissed up individual who you know might go off on one at any moment. I think aggressive or violent drunks should be put in the stocks, old style.

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  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 03, 2013 7:50 PM GMT
    starboard5 said
    PaulB84 saidIn vino veritas...a lot of people expose their true colours when they're drunk, it can be pretty shocking to hear what some people really think about issues like race, homosexuality etc...but thankfully most of my true friends are jolly drunks



    I don't buy the in vino veritas motto at all. What we think of as "a person" is a complex combination of traits, genetic and learned, and conditioning. You can't pull out one thread and say you know the fabric. Likewise, I would be wrong to judge someone by something they said or did while drunk. Reason, discretion, self-control; these qualities represent a person just as much as any other traits. Just because alcohol inhibits those functions doesn't mean it reveals something more honest or true. A person's honesty isn't worth much in my eyes when it's divorced from reason, discrimination, intelligence, etc.

    I've never met anyone who was appealing when truly drunk, not even someone I loved. I put up with them, kept an eye out for their safety, and then listened to the apologies when they called the next day because I knew it was what they would do/have done for me.


    Well thought through. Though I have to say that with even good friends, after a while, repeated bouts of drunken, unpleasant behavior will cause me to not want to be in their company. I'll attempt an intervention with long-time good friends but sadly, I've never seen it work.
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    Jun 03, 2013 9:55 PM GMT
    If pleasantly slightly drunk, I can deal with them. If obnoxiously drunk, they do not remain friends.
  • buttlebee

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    Jun 04, 2013 2:17 AM GMT
    I went out with a drunk...alcoholic....such a loverly fella when he was sober....hated my guts when he was drunk..."oh thats not the real me"...lucky i got out before the violence started. This is a major problem in the gay community.
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    Jun 04, 2013 2:20 AM GMT
    Spooked? Hmmm not really, but usually I'm right there with them drunk ( in my defense, I live in atlanta and the nightlife here sucks) icon_lol.gificon_wink.gif
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    Jun 04, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    Depends on what you mean by spooked. Rarely they'll have flashes of intense anger or just get into a dark mood and that can be scary but not necessarily spooky... icon_confused.gif
  • Apparition

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    Jun 04, 2013 5:25 AM GMT
    not fond of drunks of any kind.