Bottoms

  • GeekyJock

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    Jun 03, 2013 4:03 PM GMT
    So my bf and I have been having a hard time. I'm a total top, he's a bottom twink.

    Are bottoms, because they are receivers, generally self-centered and selfish? What's your experience, tops? Any bottoms, esp. twinks, wanna chime in?
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 03, 2013 4:05 PM GMT
    What are you having a hard time with? Are you not having sex, or is your bottom demanding too much sex?
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    Jun 03, 2013 4:06 PM GMT
    GeekyJock saidAre bottoms, because they are receivers, generally self-centered and selfish?
    No, if your boyfriend is it's because he's a twat.
  • GeekyJock

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    Jun 03, 2013 4:12 PM GMT
    No, I'm always paying for him; sex is 90% of the time when he wants it; I'm always "taking care of him" but when I'm injured or having a tough time at work, he's not entirely interested in what's happening.

    I just thought there was a connection between receiving (as bottoming) and wanting (as not-giving).
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    Jun 03, 2013 4:31 PM GMT
    Dump him.
  • Suetonius

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    Jun 03, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    If he's a twink, it comes with the territory.
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    Jun 03, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    GeekyJock saidNo, I'm always paying for him; sex is 90% of the time when he wants it; I'm always "taking care of him" but when I'm injured or having a tough time at work, he's not entirely interested in what's happening.

    I just thought there was a connection between receiving (as bottoming) and wanting (as not-giving).


    It is the responsibility of the bottom to take good care of their top.
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    Jun 03, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    Suetonius saidIf he's a twink, it comes with the territory.
    No it doesn't; that's a rude generalization and untrue.
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    Jun 03, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    GeekyJock saidNo, I'm always paying for him; sex is 90% of the time when he wants it; I'm always "taking care of him" but when I'm injured or having a tough time at work, he's not entirely interested in what's happening.

    I just thought there was a connection between receiving (as bottoming) and wanting (as not-giving).



    Sounds like he is using you dude. No ass is worth having to be with an ass. Toss his ass on the grass. icon_lol.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 03, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    dudewithabeard said
    GeekyJock saidNo, I'm always paying for him; sex is 90% of the time when he wants it; I'm always "taking care of him" but when I'm injured or having a tough time at work, he's not entirely interested in what's happening.

    I just thought there was a connection between receiving (as bottoming) and wanting (as not-giving).



    Sounds like he is using you dude. No ass is worth having to be with an ass. Toss his ass on the grass. icon_lol.gif


    But if dumps him, he might up....... FOREVER ALONEicon_sad.gif
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    Jun 03, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
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    GeekyJock saidNo, I'm always paying for him; sex is 90% of the time when he wants it; I'm always "taking care of him" but when I'm injured or having a tough time at work, he's not entirely interested in what's happening.

    I just thought there was a connection between receiving (as bottoming) and wanting (as not-giving).



    Sounds like he is using you dude. No ass is worth having to be with an ass. Toss his ass on the grass. icon_lol.gif


    But if dumps him, he might up....... FOREVER ALONEicon_sad.gif


    This is one of those situations where the OP might be better off alone.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 03, 2013 5:35 PM GMT
    Looks like the jury has spoken, OP. We only heard your side of the story, but nevertheless you must dump the twink and fuck your hand tonight. Enjoy!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 03, 2013 6:11 PM GMT
    Dump him and hire a male prostitute. At least they'll pretend to listen to your problems while you pound them like a screen door in a hurricane.
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    Jun 03, 2013 6:29 PM GMT
    Some of you homos are downright ridiculous talking about ' twinks ' associating petite body size with a personality, if the guys boyfriend is a selfish person its because he's a shit person..
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 03, 2013 6:35 PM GMT
    CopperDevil saidSome of you homos are downright ridiculous talking about ' twinks ' associating petite body size with a personality, if the guys boyfriend is a selfish person its because he's a shit person..


    I think it's just that the OP called him that.
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    Jun 03, 2013 6:39 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidLooks like the jury has spoken, OP. We only heard your side of the story, but nevertheless you must dump the twink and fuck your hand tonight. Enjoy!icon_biggrin.gif


    well hopefully he won't be making life decisions over this particular thread. icon_smile.gif

    but there is nothing wrong with fucking your hands.. I actually call mine the twins and fuck the hell out of them every night. Although it gets tricky when they want to get kinky and have me tie them up. icon_wink.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 03, 2013 6:41 PM GMT
    dudewithabeard said
    HottJoe saidLooks like the jury has spoken, OP. We only heard your side of the story, but nevertheless you must dump the twink and fuck your hand tonight. Enjoy!icon_biggrin.gif


    well hopefully he won't be making life decisions over this particular thread. icon_smile.gif

    but there is nothing wrong with fucking your hands.. I actually call mine the twins and fuck the hell out of them every night. Although it gets tricky when they want to get kinky and have me tie them up. icon_wink.gif


    I have a feeling he won't be dumping him over this thread, actually. It's just funny to see how many RJers cry for blood the moment a bottom is accused of being selfish. I'm sure there are two sides to the story.
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    Jun 03, 2013 6:41 PM GMT
    I think Bottoms do have a different personality than tops though... At least most of them do... and the guy you're with sounds like he's in that majority.

    I can't put my finger on what is different about a top and bottom's personality...
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    Jun 03, 2013 6:47 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    dudewithabeard said
    HottJoe saidLooks like the jury has spoken, OP. We only heard your side of the story, but nevertheless you must dump the twink and fuck your hand tonight. Enjoy!icon_biggrin.gif


    well hopefully he won't be making life decisions over this particular thread. icon_smile.gif

    but there is nothing wrong with fucking your hands.. I actually call mine the twins and fuck the hell out of them every night. Although it gets tricky when they want to get kinky and have me tie them up. icon_wink.gif


    I have a feeling he won't be dumping him over this thread, actually. It's just funny to see how many RJers cry for blood the moment a bottom is accused of being selfish. I'm sure there are two sides to the story.


    there are always two sides to every story. as someone who is verse, having been in both positions many times,, I find that I am more selfish when I am topping. It's not something that I intend to do but it happens. Maybe from all the work that I put into topping. However, I will say that I am a pushy bottom as well. If something is not feeling right for both of us, then we will switch to something that does.

    well., fuck.. guess I am just a control freak in the bed who sometimes cares and doesn't care what other think...

    now where is that FA thread at again?
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 03, 2013 7:10 PM GMT
    UTDK saidI think Bottoms do have a different personality than tops though... At least most of them do... and the guy you're with sounds like he's in that majority.

    I can't put my finger on what is different about a top and bottom's personality...


    Careful! The second you put your finger on it, you'll start a flame war.icon_neutral.gificon_wink.gif
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    Jun 03, 2013 7:13 PM GMT
    @Hottjoe good call

    Bottoms are the bitches... I said it! Butt really, puns aside, I think that the majority of bottoms have a more submissive passive personality than tops. Would say they're more caring than a top in general who would be less empathetic? I'd have to do a case study of 1000 gay men to know for sure, but from my experience that's just what I've observed.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 03, 2013 7:55 PM GMT
    Mavourneen29 saidThe problem is with the guy and that's not because he is a bottom. It's because he is a shitty person!. Leave him. He is not the right guy for you.


    Glad we cleared that up!icon_rolleyes.gificon_neutral.gif
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    Jun 03, 2013 7:57 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidAnd to your generalisation, OP: no. Many of us bottoms are damn giving both in and out of the sack. If anything, I would dare to generalize that a lot of bottoms know the support they give their tops is a gift to both of them. You've just got yourself a selfish person, who happens to be a bottom.


    QFT

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    Jun 03, 2013 8:54 PM GMT
    GeekyJock saidwhen I'm injured or having a tough time at work, he's not entirely interested in what's happening.


    You've just said all you need to know.

    This as nothing to do with sexual preference or position.
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    Jun 03, 2013 9:25 PM GMT
    If you're a total top this shouldn't be your first experience with a bottom. Not all bottoms are that way.
    Maybe it's you or maybe it's the guys you attract. Oh yeah it might have something to do with him being a boytoy that you have to pay.