Mourning and Working Out

  • DanBasil

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    Oct 30, 2008 9:38 PM GMT
    Ok, so this is a little wewird, but I am just looking to know if anyone else has experienced this, or has any ideas what I might could do to get back into a routine.
    My gradfather passed several months back , and I have been unable to workout at the gym since. I cant get my mind to relax to get into a workout. I had been going fairly regularly 2-3x a week and doing cardio and weight, but I get to the gym now and have no motivation 20min into cardio I am bored or just down and end-up heading home instead of finishing the workout.
    Any help would be greatly appreciated, or advice.
    Also, is this normal?
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    Oct 30, 2008 11:39 PM GMT
    Ok, why 'bored'?

    Do you miss your grandfather? It might be you're jinxing yourself and has no connection with mourning. icon_confused.gif
  • EricLA

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    Oct 31, 2008 12:08 AM GMT
    Is your only activity affected by the loss of your grandfather?

    Have you tried just skipping cardio and going right into weighlifting? I hate cardio. I would like to do more, but it bores me to tears.

    Try to focus on something else.

    Maybe you need to talk to a therapist about this. Loss can affect people in different ways. It would be odd if this is the only thing you can't do because of your grandfather's death, unless there's some connection you make in your mind.
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    Oct 31, 2008 12:18 AM GMT
    I would get a workout buddy. Some one to help you keep motivated. I know you just went through a real bad time, and I am sorry for that, but you need that extra help of those who care for you. Also set up a goal, like you want to gain about 15 lbs of solid muscle or lose lbs and get more defined. Write it down and always look at it in before you head to the gym.
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    Oct 31, 2008 1:54 AM GMT
    Mostly a ditto here. You might not be feeling bored but something else entirely. Its completely natural to feel a lack of energy and a loss of motivation after the death of someone you love and I'm sorry for your loss.

    That could be what you are experiencing, and if that is the case, I'd recommend short workouts for as long as you can. Monitor the time you work out and additionally build up more. Its okay to start small and develop a longer routine.

    Take all the time you need. You are already doing great by getting back to the gym in the first place.
  • DanBasil

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    Oct 31, 2008 4:06 PM GMT
    Thanks, guys for the advice (although therapy is a bit difficult, because of my insurance).
    I am going to try some of the other suggestions tonight when I head over to the gym, and hopefully wil get a solid work-out in.
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    Nov 01, 2008 1:00 AM GMT

    Sorry for your loss.

    It's hard to say for sure whether your grandfather's death is directly responsible for your loss of motivation where the gym is involved - though the coincidence of timing is suggestive. And it is not at all unusual for grief to involve a loss of energy and a loss of interest in normal routines.

    Sometimes the best course of action is some 'opposite action'. In other words, kind of forcing yourself to get back to what you used to do - even if for a while it doesn't feel right. As some others on here have suggested you may want to start off with short sessions and build up. And give yourself a nice reward after reaching an achievable goal five days of exercise on schedule). In AA there's a saying that "if you can't it, fake it". That might be enough to get you back on track. Another tactic that might help is to alter your usual routine - so if you used to run for cardio, try rowing or biking etc so that activities you associated with 'before your grandfather died' are not now part of the routine.

    If the lack of motivation persists or you start to see other signs of possible depression, then you really should think about seeking some therapy.

    Best of luck.